My Parents are considering leaving our inheritance to charity

[Anonymous]

They are considering leaving our inheritance to Charity because my brother is a *(CK Up. And my parents always believe everything should be equal between us. Why should I have to suffer because of his actions. Would you be upset?

[Anonymous]

I would not be upset. I think my parents should do whatever they want with their assets.

[Anonymous]

No. Not at all. Why do you think you're entitled to their money?

[Anonymous]

OP - you could suggest that your parents put it into a trust for their grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

OP I don't feel entitled to their money but I don't think its right that I don't get my inheritance specifically because my brother can't be trusted. It would be one thing if there plan was to leave it to charity because that is important to them but thats not the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - you could suggest that your parents put it into a trust for their grandchildren.

+1.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think the true problem here is your family dynamic, i.e., the way your parents relate to you and your brother. The money is an example of that but not the core issue. Yes, I'd be upset if I felt my parents were failing to treat me as an individual rather than lumping me and my brother together. Sorry for the situation you're in. There's probably not much to be done unless you can talk to your parents and make them understand your side of this. Would they agree to a meeting with you and a family counselor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - you could suggest that your parents put it into a trust for their grandchildren.

+1.

This is an excellent idea.

[Anonymous]

DHs parents are doing the same. Nearly 8 mil. I think it's a great idea and very generous.

[Anonymous]

My DH wants to leave everything to charity. And we are not dead yet.

[Anonymous]

Terrible

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I don't feel entitled, but I would be upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think the true problem here is your family dynamic, i.e., the way your parents relate to you and your brother. The money is an example of that but not the core issue. Yes, I'd be upset if I felt my parents were failing to treat me as an individual rather than lumping me and my brother together. Sorry for the situation you're in. There's probably not much to be done unless you can talk to your parents and make them understand your side of this. Would they agree to a meeting with you and a family counselor?

Rich families are rarely functional. The therapy suggestion made me chuckle Insane as it is, this may be a way to go about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel entitled, but I would be upset.

Why would this upset you if you didn't feel entitled to it? Seems to me the appropriate response would be to take pride that your parents were going to help others.