Wow. There are soo many lonely women on the internet looking for love

[Anonymous]

And a lot of them are really decent looking. Mid 30s - 40s who would technically be considered "catches". DC really must be the 7th gate of hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And a lot of them are really decent looking. Mid 30s - 40s who would technically be considered "catches". DC really must be the 7th gate of hell.

No. Being trapped in a miserable marriage is the very center of hell, after the ninth circle, if you are using Dante as your reference.

Signed,
Newly single, sole custody of three kids, 40's and "really decent looking". And quite happy thank you.

[Anonymous]

If I were single I would totally do online dating! I think it would be a blast (cue angry single friends telling me to knock it off).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And a lot of them are really decent looking. Mid 30s - 40s who would technically be considered "catches". DC really must be the 7th gate of hell.

Just more women than men. That's why.

[Anonymous]

Why don't these ladies get together, go out, have fun and meet some guys together?

I don't understand sitting at home and waiting...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't these ladies get together, go out, have fun and meet some guys together?

I don't understand sitting at home and waiting...

Who says they're sitting at home and waiting?
If you go out with a group, you run the risk of two women going after the same guy. Or a guy being interested in friend A when friend B wants to date him.

[Anonymous]

A few factors at play. First, DC has more women than men, partly because there are a higher % of white-collar jobs here than in other US cities (no factories here). Women tend to fill those jobs since 65% of US college graduates are female.

Then there's the looks/age thing. Like it or not, women more than men are valued on their looks, and a woman's attractiveness goes down with age. Men seem to get better with age, which is why you'll find various rankings of 'sexiest man' and 'sexiest woman" picking 40 or 50-year old men, and 20-year old women.

Then, those 40-year old men go for the 20 year olds, because a 40+ women with 2 kids is just not as desirable.

No tears should be shed though -- 20 years ago, the 40 year old man was getting soundly rejected by women his age, and those same women (40 with 2 kids now) were flaunting their beauty to get their way, and had a line of suitors in waiting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Signed,
Newly single, sole custody of three kids, 40's and "really decent looking". And quite happy thank you.

And these are the ones who are fun to date. I've been out with a few like PP, and they understand my situation (single dad), don't expect to be with them every time I get some free time, they are confident, they enjoy sex, and they aren't playing games.

Now in their 30s-40s, never a LTR, never married, and no kids?......WATCH OUT. Something is wrong with those ones.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's tough out there. I'm 42 and don't do the online dating thing because I don't have time to weed through the crap to find the good ones. (job+kid+house+social life= busy.) Consequently, I haven't had a date in over a year. And my friends seem to think I'd be a pretty good catch.

12:11 is right.

Guys our age often skew younger in their dating habits, so a 42-year-old guy might not consider a woman his age, but might look 10 years (or 20 years) younger. (I do know a bunch of women who've met great younger guys, so it can go both ways.) So if you're a 40-year-old woman and you don't have common interests with 50-year-old guys, you may be out of luck.

The women in DC are more accomplished than the guys, and it can be hard to "date down" if you're a woman who wants an equal partner. I have a grad degree and a decent income, and will date someone who has just a bachelors and a decent job, but would I date a guy without a degree and a low-paying job? Probably not.

Plus you've got some guys who are 5's themselves but who think that they can attract 10's, so they ignore the 7's and 8's around them. I see this sometimes in my guy friends, and there's only a few "10's" out there. (and if the 10's are still single in their mid-30's, despite all the opportunities to date, it is sometimes because they are high maintenance or crazy.)

Many guys don't get better looking with age, though. A lot of them get bald, get fat, get outdated in their clothing. But some of them have enough money now for women to overlook the looks.

Chances are, though, the women who are online dating are also out at the bars and meeting people normal ways. But online dating takes away the "right place, right time" luck component - if the right guy for you lives in a different neighborhood, has different friends, a different industry and a different local hangout, you may never meet him unless you go online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I were single I would totally do online dating! I think it would be a blast (cue angry single friends telling me to knock it off).

Most of my single friends say online dating sucks horribly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few factors at play. First, DC has more women than men, partly because there are a higher % of white-collar jobs here than in other US cities (no factories here). Women tend to fill those jobs since 65% of US college graduates are female.

Then there's the looks/age thing. Like it or not, women more than men are valued on their looks, and a woman's attractiveness goes down with age. Men seem to get better with age, which is why you'll find various rankings of 'sexiest man' and 'sexiest woman" picking 40 or 50-year old men, and 20-year old women.

Then, those 40-year old men go for the 20 year olds, because a 40+ women with 2 kids is just not as desirable.

No tears should be shed though -- 20 years ago, the 40 year old man was getting soundly rejected by women his age, and those same women (40 with 2 kids now) were flaunting their beauty to get their way, and had a line of suitors in waiting.

Ok misogyny troll. It's pretty obvious you started this thread and then waited to post this. As if anyone cares. (Spoiler alert: they dont, and you need to get a life.)

[Anonymous]

If you are 40 you should be looking to date someone in their 60s or 70s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were single I would totally do online dating! I think it would be a blast (cue angry single friends telling me to knock it off).

Most of my single friends say online dating sucks horribly.

Male here.

Yes, it sucks. Too much BS to setup...too much BS to read through.

If anything, just jump on Tinder. It is like Online speed dating. No big profiles to set up, no big profiles to go through. Someone looks attractive? Swipe right. If they match, start a conversation and see where it goes. Meet a few people, close down tinder for a few months, and see if anything comes from the new people you meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few factors at play. First, DC has more women than men, partly because there are a higher % of white-collar jobs here than in other US cities (no factories here). Women tend to fill those jobs since 65% of US college graduates are female.

Then there's the looks/age thing. Like it or not, women more than men are valued on their looks, and a woman's attractiveness goes down with age. Men seem to get better with age, which is why you'll find various rankings of 'sexiest man' and 'sexiest woman" picking 40 or 50-year old men, and 20-year old women.

Then, those 40-year old men go for the 20 year olds, because a 40+ women with 2 kids is just not as desirable.

No tears should be shed though -- 20 years ago, the 40 year old man was getting soundly rejected by women his age, and those same women (40 with 2 kids now) were flaunting their beauty to get their way, and had a line of suitors in waiting.

Ok misogyny troll. It's pretty obvious you started this thread and then waited to post this. As if anyone cares. (Spoiler alert: they dont, and you need to get a life.)

I'm 12:11 but not OP. I would like to read Dante though -- it's on my list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Signed,
Newly single, sole custody of three kids, 40's and "really decent looking". And quite happy thank you.

And these are the ones who are fun to date. I've been out with a few like PP, and they understand my situation (single dad), don't expect to be with them every time I get some free time, they are confident, they enjoy sex, and they aren't playing games.

Now in their 30s-40s, never a LTR, never married, and no kids?......WATCH OUT. Something is wrong with those ones.

100% agree. They're not just scum and rejects, they're essentially worthless. Watch out indeed.