Wow. There are soo many lonely women on the internet looking for love

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Anonymous wrote:A few factors at play. First, DC has more women than men, partly because there are a higher % of white-collar jobs here than in other US cities (no factories here). Women tend to fill those jobs since 65% of US college graduates are female.

Then there's the looks/age thing. Like it or not, women more than men are valued on their looks, and a woman's attractiveness goes down with age. Men seem to get better with age, which is why you'll find various rankings of 'sexiest man' and 'sexiest woman" picking 40 or 50-year old men, and 20-year old women.

Then, those 40-year old men go for the 20 year olds, because a 40+ women with 2 kids is just not as desirable.

No tears should be shed though -- 20 years ago, the 40 year old man was getting soundly rejected by women his age, and those same women (40 with 2 kids now) were flaunting their beauty to get their way, and had a line of suitors in waiting.

Ok misogyny troll. It's pretty obvious you started this thread and then waited to post this. As if anyone cares. (Spoiler alert: they dont, and you need to get a life.)

I'm 12:11 but not OP. I would like to read Dante though -- it's on my list.

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few factors at play. First, DC has more women than men, partly because there are a higher % of white-collar jobs here than in other US cities (no factories here). Women tend to fill those jobs since 65% of US college graduates are female.

Then there's the looks/age thing. Like it or not, women more than men are valued on their looks, and a woman's attractiveness goes down with age. Men seem to get better with age, which is why you'll find various rankings of 'sexiest man' and 'sexiest woman" picking 40 or 50-year old men, and 20-year old women.

Then, those 40-year old men go for the 20 year olds, because a 40+ women with 2 kids is just not as desirable.

No tears should be shed though -- 20 years ago, the 40 year old man was getting soundly rejected by women his age, and those same women (40 with 2 kids now) were flaunting their beauty to get their way, and had a line of suitors in waiting.

Ok misogyny troll. It's pretty obvious you started this thread and then waited to post this. As if anyone cares. (Spoiler alert: they dont, and you need to get a life.)

I'm 12:11 but not OP. I would like to read Dante though -- it's on my list.

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

x2. I am a 20 year old "hottie" and I certainly have no interest in talking to washed up old dudes with resentment issues to women their own age. It's creepy as hell.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't these ladies get together, go out, have fun and meet some guys together?

I don't understand sitting at home and waiting...

Who says they're sitting at home and waiting?
If you go out with a group, you run the risk of two women going after the same guy. Or a guy being interested in friend A when friend B wants to date him.

Yah, but if a guy is more interested in your friend than you maybe it's better to find that out right off the bat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few factors at play. First, DC has more women than men, partly because there are a higher % of white-collar jobs here than in other US cities (no factories here). Women tend to fill those jobs since 65% of US college graduates are female.

Then there's the looks/age thing. Like it or not, women more than men are valued on their looks, and a woman's attractiveness goes down with age. Men seem to get better with age, which is why you'll find various rankings of 'sexiest man' and 'sexiest woman" picking 40 or 50-year old men, and 20-year old women.

Then, those 40-year old men go for the 20 year olds, because a 40+ women with 2 kids is just not as desirable.

No tears should be shed though -- 20 years ago, the 40 year old man was getting soundly rejected by women his age, and those same women (40 with 2 kids now) were flaunting their beauty to get their way, and had a line of suitors in waiting.

A 40-year old with enough money and prestige to interest a 20-year old is rare as anything. You make it sound like 40-year old men are all George Clooney in the making. The majority are regular GSers with average incomes, average suburban homes and average hobbies. Hardly titans of the universe en masse. 20-year old hotties have other fish to fry.

[Anonymous]

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Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

Many of my male friends in their late 30s and 40s have no problem with this. Their looks are average, but they're also well-spoken, confident, and just plain interesting people to talk to. If you think of the typical 20 year old guys that they compete with for the attention of a 20's hottie, it's no surprise they have success in getting her.

No, a 40-year old guy who is a slob and boring will have no such luck, but most of the non-married guys I know in that age range aren't like that. Maybe they take mroe care of themselves because they need to, being single.

[Anonymous]

"Plus you've got some guys who are 5's themselves but who think that they can attract 10's, so they ignore the 7's and 8's around them. I see this sometimes in my guy friends, and there's only a few "10's" out there. (and if the 10's are still single in their mid-30's, despite all the opportunities to date, it is sometimes because they are high maintenance or crazy.)"

On-line dater here. It cuts that way with both genders - plenty of women playing games and looking for the high income guys, plenty of men looking for the younger chicks. I've found that after a few bad experiences, those middle-aged guys realize that the 30 y.o. woman is just going to play them and they start dating up in age.

"Many guys don't get better looking with age, though. A lot of them get bald, get fat, get outdated."

Again, cuts both ways for the genders.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's tough out there. I'm 42 and don't do the online dating thing because I don't have time to weed through the crap to find the good ones. (job+kid+house+social life= busy.) Consequently, I haven't had a date in over a year. And my friends seem to think I'd be a pretty good catch.

12:11 is right.

Guys our age often skew younger in their dating habits, so a 42-year-old guy might not consider a woman his age, but might look 10 years (or 20 years) younger. (I do know a bunch of women who've met great younger guys, so it can go both ways.) So if you're a 40-year-old woman and you don't have common interests with 50-year-old guys, you may be out of luck.

The women in DC are more accomplished than the guys, and it can be hard to "date down" if you're a woman who wants an equal partner. I have a grad degree and a decent income, and will date someone who has just a bachelors and a decent job, but would I date a guy without a degree and a low-paying job? Probably not.

Plus you've got some guys who are 5's themselves but who think that they can attract 10's, so they ignore the 7's and 8's around them. I see this sometimes in my guy friends, and there's only a few "10's" out there. (and if the 10's are still single in their mid-30's, despite all the opportunities to date, it is sometimes because they are high maintenance or crazy.)

Many guys don't get better looking with age, though. A lot of them get bald, get fat, get outdated in their clothing. But some of them have enough money now for women to overlook the looks.

Chances are, though, the women who are online dating are also out at the bars and meeting people normal ways. But online dating takes away the "right place, right time" luck component - if the right guy for you lives in a different neighborhood, has different friends, a different industry and a different local hangout, you may never meet him unless you go online.

Hey OP, I think I just found out why there are so many lonely women on the internet! They are spending time measuring up/down instead of accepting people for who they are and what character the bring to the table.

They will forever be single and die lonely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

Many of my male friends in their late 30s and 40s have no problem with this. Their looks are average, but they're also well-spoken, confident, and just plain interesting people to talk to. If you think of the typical 20 year old guys that they compete with for the attention of a 20's hottie, it's no surprise they have success in getting her.

No, a 40-year old guy who is a slob and boring will have no such luck, but most of the non-married guys I know in that age range aren't like that. Maybe they take mroe care of themselves because they need to, being single.

Um, no. As a 25 year old I can tell you that most 40 year old dudes hitting on me and my friends totally gross us out, no matter what scenario you saw in a porn or Woody Allen film. Sorry to break it to you, but women care about looks just as much as men, and 40 year old men simply cannot compete with a 23 year old guy- there is no comparison in terms of body, face, all that. Not to mention the social stigma of your friends thinking you're a loser because you're willing to entertain the attention of some old creeper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

Many of my male friends in their late 30s and 40s have no problem with this. Their looks are average, but they're also well-spoken, confident, and just plain interesting people to talk to. If you think of the typical 20 year old guys that they compete with for the attention of a 20's hottie, it's no surprise they have success in getting her.

No, a 40-year old guy who is a slob and boring will have no such luck, but most of the non-married guys I know in that age range aren't like that. Maybe they take mroe care of themselves because they need to, being single.

Ha. I would never have hooked up with such an old dude when I was 20. Where are you finding all of these young girls? 20 year old girls aren't even of legal drinking age, yet. Are you baiting them with alcohol?

I sometimes hooked up with later 20's/early 30's guys when I was 20 (actually had an older boyfriend). But a 40 year old? Oh, hell no. None of my friends would have either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

Many of my male friends in their late 30s and 40s have no problem with this. Their looks are average, but they're also well-spoken, confident, and just plain interesting people to talk to. If you think of the typical 20 year old guys that they compete with for the attention of a 20's hottie, it's no surprise they have success in getting her.

No, a 40-year old guy who is a slob and boring will have no such luck, but most of the non-married guys I know in that age range aren't like that. Maybe they take mroe care of themselves because they need to, being single.

Ha. I would never have hooked up with such an old dude when I was 20. Where are you finding all of these young girls? 20 year old girls aren't even of legal drinking age, yet. Are you baiting them with alcohol?

I sometimes hooked up with later 20's/early 30's guys when I was 20 (actually had an older boyfriend). But a 40 year old? Oh, hell no. None of my friends would have either.

x2. This loser is living in fantasy land. He probably also thinks that a large percentage of pizza delivery guys get laid by horny bored teens. Too much porn watching.

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Now in their 30s-40s, never a LTR, never married, and no kids?......WATCH OUT. Something is wrong with those ones.

100% agree. They're not just scum and rejects, they're essentially worthless. Watch out indeed.

That's not a nice way to look at people. I don't think I like you.

[Anonymous]

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Hey OP, I think I just found out why there are so many lonely women on the internet! They are spending time measuring up/down instead of accepting people for who they are and what character the bring to the table.

They will forever be single and die lonely.

They kinda want to be single past a certain age. I've picked one divorcee's brain: her motto is "Never settle, never compromise". I call her Miss Galaxy Quest. (The movie quote was actually "Never surrender, never forget".) My sis is the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

Many of my male friends in their late 30s and 40s have no problem with this. Their looks are average, but they're also well-spoken, confident, and just plain interesting people to talk to. If you think of the typical 20 year old guys that they compete with for the attention of a 20's hottie, it's no surprise they have success in getting her.

No, a 40-year old guy who is a slob and boring will have no such luck, but most of the non-married guys I know in that age range aren't like that. Maybe they take mroe care of themselves because they need to, being single.

Um, no. As a 25 year old I can tell you that most 40 year old dudes hitting on me and my friends totally gross us out, no matter what scenario you saw in a porn or Woody Allen film. Sorry to break it to you, but women care about looks just as much as men, and 40 year old men simply cannot compete with a 23 year old guy- there is no comparison in terms of body, face, all that. Not to mention the social stigma of your friends thinking you're a loser because you're willing to entertain the attention of some old creeper.

I am not the PP, but I can't understand how you are using your preference (and that of your small circle of friends) to generalize when there are so many examples out there everyday, not to mention the 'easy wins' from celebrity pop culture:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/boxing/article-2303228/Wladimir-Klitschko-pictured-girlfriend-Hayden-Panettiere-Florida-beach.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2753025/Eddie-Murphy-53-girlfriend-Paige-Butcher-35-two-happy-lovebirds-PDA-coffee-run.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2748883/Jason-Statham-steps-girlfriend-Rosie-Huntington-Whiteley-ex-Kelly-Brook-jokes-punching-him.html

http://uk.eonline.com/news/509014/marc-anthony-breaks-up-with-chloe-green

...and of course the many skirts that chased George Clooney. And if you think these unions don't last long:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2723990/Celine-Dion-puts-career-hold-care-ill-husband.html

Now, aside from the celebrity pop culture, I can tell you that as an early 30s single guy, I can't compete against men in their 40s for 20something girls; simply because these girls always go for the benefits of financial and emotional stability, especially if the guy is serious about them. Whether or not that applies to you is for you to decide, but in my 30 odd years of experience on this Earth, it is very normal for college and early career girls in their 20s to partner up with men in their 40s and above.

Are you sure you have much experience with dating, and with men in general?

[Anonymous]

Take a man's age and divide by two

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Well that's good. Better brush up on your intellectual prowess and quit sourcing People magazine. Despite your hypothesis, I doubt your looks alone are going to have those 20 year old hotties flocking to you even though "you are getting better with age". Whatever that means.

Many of my male friends in their late 30s and 40s have no problem with this. Their looks are average, but they're also well-spoken, confident, and just plain interesting people to talk to. If you think of the typical 20 year old guys that they compete with for the attention of a 20's hottie, it's no surprise they have success in getting her.

No, a 40-year old guy who is a slob and boring will have no such luck, but most of the non-married guys I know in that age range aren't like that. Maybe they take mroe care of themselves because they need to, being single.

Um, no. As a 25 year old I can tell you that most 40 year old dudes hitting on me and my friends totally gross us out, no matter what scenario you saw in a porn or Woody Allen film. Sorry to break it to you, but women care about looks just as much as men, and 40 year old men simply cannot compete with a 23 year old guy- there is no comparison in terms of body, face, all that. Not to mention the social stigma of your friends thinking you're a loser because you're willing to entertain the attention of some old creeper.

I am not the PP, but I can't understand how you are using your preference (and that of your small circle of friends) to generalize when there are so many examples out there everyday, not to mention the 'easy wins' from celebrity pop culture:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sport/boxing/article-2303228/Wladimir-Klitschko-pictured-girlfriend-Hayden-Panettiere-Florida-beach.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2753025/Eddie-Murphy-53-girlfriend-Paige-Butcher-35-two-happy-lovebirds-PDA-coffee-run.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2748883/Jason-Statham-steps-girlfriend-Rosie-Huntington-Whiteley-ex-Kelly-Brook-jokes-punching-him.html

http://uk.eonline.com/news/509014/marc-anthony-breaks-up-with-chloe-green

...and of course the many skirts that chased George Clooney. And if you think these unions don't last long:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2723990/Celine-Dion-puts-career-hold-care-ill-husband.html

Now, aside from the celebrity pop culture, I can tell you that as an early 30s single guy, I can't compete against men in their 40s for 20something girls; simply because these girls always go for the benefits of financial and emotional stability, especially if the guy is serious about them. Whether or not that applies to you is for you to decide, but in my 30 odd years of experience on this Earth, it is very normal for college and early career girls in their 20s to partner up with men in their 40s and above.

Are you sure you have much experience with dating, and with men in general?

Mum except all these men are rich. There are lots of wealthy older women dating younger men, it really doesnt prove anything about general trends. If someone has money, that is a HUGE factor in their favor, for both men and women. Take a man with an average salary, or just slightly higher, and I doubt many people will be interested in them. Or at the very least, if they were attracted by a HOT young man they would pick the young dude any day.