Every time I really deep clean a part of our house DH responds
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"It looks really good in here, let's try to keep it like this"
And I want to stab him in the eyeball with a sharp object. That is all! |
Anonymous
| "Okay, great! What are you going to do to keep it like this?" |
Anonymous
| I hear you sister my husband says that everyday our cleaner comes by. Drives me nuts! |
Anonymous
| My DH just throws it out there: "This needs to be cleaned", and when I don't rush to the mop, he follows up with:"So when can you do it?". Ugh! |
Anonymous
x2. Maybe followed up by, "Yeah! Took me a couple hours to do this but I'm guessing if you wanted to dust/vacuum/whatever every couple days it would look like this all the time! Let's definitely try for it!" |
Anonymous
Why wouldnt you say, "I can't for the next _____ hours/days/weeks, but when can you do it? Or do you want me to call a cleaning service?" |
Anonymous
That's a YOU problem for letting this behavior continue. My DW wouldn't even respond to that type of behavior. All you have to say is "Ugh!"? |
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| Mine tells me how nice it looks, and then promptly takes the opportunity to dump clutter there. |
Anonymous
I know the drill, so before he gets to his second line, I usually say:"sure, go for it". He gets genuinely surprised every time "why me?" |
Anonymous
No, I posted below. DH was raised to think it's normal men's behavior, and old habits die hard. |
Anonymous
| My DH runs over to the nearest clean area and dumps his clothes/ books/ papers there. |
Anonymous
| My husband would never disrespect me like that. If he saw something needing to be done he'd just do it. The only thing he'd ask is what cleaner I used. |
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OP, I hate to say it, but I have stopped trying. My house if falling down around me, but if I am the only one who cares, I quit. I don't have the energy to do it alone. And when I have taken my precious time (I am chief income earner) to take time of work to make it happen, it's undone in a matter of hours or DH fishes stuff out of the donations or trash and puts them back (mostly on the counter or stuffs them in a cupboard).
Good luck to you. |
Anonymous
| I would send him a calendar invite entitled "Keeping It Like This" with a list of what that actually entails. |
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My husband doesn't notice anything either positive or negative, unless things really get dangerous/unsanitary. It's all on me, since he has no sense of that at all. Trying to educate the kids. |