Every time I really deep clean a part of our house DH responds

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Ah OP, I don't think he means it as bad as its coming across. DH's said something like that to me before and once I (calmly) explained why the comment bothered me, he rephrased. Granted if your husband is one of those guys who uses "we" when he means "I" then not sure what I can tell you. My dad does that and it drove my mom up a wall.

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Are you a SAH? This part of the job.

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I had this, eventually we sat down and made a master list of what needed to be cleaned and when. So we ended up with a master list for each month, broken out so that each weekday and weekend had a manageable number of tasks. Putting it down on paper really helped him understand what it takes to keep a house clean, or even clean-ish.

Soon after that we hired a cleaning lady, which was my plan all along.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH just throws it out there: "This needs to be cleaned", and when I don't rush to the mop, he follows up with:"So when can you do it?". Ugh!

My DH would not be alive after saying that.

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I would respond..."Yes, let's !!"

in my most sarcastic tone of voice.

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I do the inside, husband does the outside. When winter comes, we BOTH deal with the inside. Life doesn't have to be hard.

Marriage = Partnership

Run your home like a business.

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Anonymous wrote:"It looks really good in here, let's try to keep it like this"

And I want to stab him in the eyeball with a sharp object. That is all!

OP I LOLed to this one. IRL

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Anonymous wrote:I do the inside, husband does the outside. When winter comes, we BOTH deal with the inside. Life doesn't have to be hard.

Marriage = Partnership

Run your home like a business.

Same here. Shared responsibilities. Turns out - he does the things he likes and does well, and I do the same. Somehow, it all gets done.
And, when the kids were at home, they certainly contributed too.
Does my husband leave things laying around? Hell yes. But, I do too. It is called “living.”
A pristine home makes me wonder how much “living” goes on there.

[Anonymous]

My wife will "deep clean" an area but fail to do basic maintenance in another. Glad the upper corner of the living room is now dust free, but that time would have been better spent cleaning her lunch dishes off the dining room table and moving the food container trash 6 feet from the kitchen counter to the trash can.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"It looks really good in here, let's try to keep it like this"

And I want to stab him in the eyeball with a sharp object. That is all!

OP I LOLed to this one. IRL

Domestic violence is funny!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do the inside, husband does the outside. When winter comes, we BOTH deal with the inside. Life doesn't have to be hard.

Marriage = Partnership

Run your home like a business.

Same here. Shared responsibilities. Turns out - he does the things he likes and does well, and I do the same. Somehow, it all gets done.
And, when the kids were at home, they certainly contributed too.
Does my husband leave things laying around? Hell yes. But, I do too. It is called “living.”
A pristine home makes me wonder how much “living” goes on there.

Same here. But in addition to each doing the things we like, we also each do a few things that the other particularly dislikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah OP, I don't think he means it as bad as its coming across. DH's said something like that to me before and once I (calmly) explained why the comment bothered me, he rephrased. Granted if your husband is one of those guys who uses "we" when he means "I" then not sure what I can tell you. My dad does that and it drove my mom up a wall.

Agreed. From his perspective, he's probably complimenting you on doing a good job cleaning.

One way to try to get him to understand is to respond:
Thanks! It takes a lot of work to get it this clean. It will only stay that way if you help to keep it clean.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife will "deep clean" an area but fail to do basic maintenance in another. Glad the upper corner of the living room is now dust free, but that time would have been better spent cleaning her lunch dishes off the dining room table and moving the food container trash 6 feet from the kitchen counter to the trash can.

Hi, honey.

Thanks for loving me anyway. And you're welcome for our super-organized closets and toys. I know you appreciate it deep down.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife will "deep clean" an area but fail to do basic maintenance in another. Glad the upper corner of the living room is now dust free, but that time would have been better spent cleaning her lunch dishes off the dining room table and moving the food container trash 6 feet from the kitchen counter to the trash can.

I'm a DH and you sound like an asshole. So, in general why not try a positive affirmation vs. pointing out what could have been done. If you notice the shit that's not done - then do it. It all has to get done.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife will "deep clean" an area but fail to do basic maintenance in another. Glad the upper corner of the living room is now dust free, but that time would have been better spent cleaning her lunch dishes off the dining room table and moving the food container trash 6 feet from the kitchen counter to the trash can.

I'm a DH and you sound like an asshole. So, in general why not try a positive affirmation vs. pointing out what could have been done. If you notice the shit that's not done - then do it. It all has to get done.

You are awesome. Just so you know.