Do you think we will see a massive uptick in women choosing to stay home after this?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The men need to stay home and let the women run things.

I wish my husband would agree to stay at home while I focused on my career! I am much more professionally aggressive and ambitious than he is, and and he thrives on taking care of the kids and house. He won't though...

I know some SAHDs and the couples are very balanced and happy.

I know some too, all happy families! But my husband says he doesn't want to, so I don't push it - I certainly wouldn't appreciate it if he pushed me to stay at home, knowing the kind of person he married. But I still wish!

I do think the SAHD families all REALLY thought through that decision carefully and discussed all the angles and whether it was best for everyone and planned emotionally, financially, etc. So that's why they're happy.

Some SAHM families do that but some do not and that is often where the friction comes from.

Right, it’s only SAHD situations that are well thought out? this is so LOL worthy..

Please read what I wrote again. I understand people here are angry and triggered and are rushing in reading posts. I never said "only" SAHD situations are well thought out.

If you read my post, I said that some SAHM families have well-thought out situations. They are happy. Certainly many I know are.

However, SOME SAHM situations are not well thought out. Oftentimes a woman backs into it because of pressure from others, particularly in traditional communities. Or a woman says she will go back after her maternity leave and then decides on a whim not to go back, blindsiding her husband.

SAHD situations are almost always well thought out, because it is rarer for dads to stay at home and there is not the same pressure to do so from certain communities, plus dads do not typically take as much leave.

It's sad you don't recognize how anti-woman your continued posts are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The men need to stay home and let the women run things.

I wish my husband would agree to stay at home while I focused on my career! I am much more professionally aggressive and ambitious than he is, and and he thrives on taking care of the kids and house. He won't though...

I know some SAHDs and the couples are very balanced and happy.

I know some too, all happy families! But my husband says he doesn't want to, so I don't push it - I certainly wouldn't appreciate it if he pushed me to stay at home, knowing the kind of person he married. But I still wish!

I do think the SAHD families all REALLY thought through that decision carefully and discussed all the angles and whether it was best for everyone and planned emotionally, financially, etc. So that's why they're happy.

Some SAHM families do that but some do not and that is often where the friction comes from.

Right, it’s only SAHD situations that are well thought out? this is so LOL worthy..

Please read what I wrote again. I understand people here are angry and triggered and are rushing in reading posts. I never said "only" SAHD situations are well thought out.

If you read my post, I said that some SAHM families have well-thought out situations. They are happy. Certainly many I know are.

However, SOME SAHM situations are not well thought out. Oftentimes a woman backs into it because of pressure from others, particularly in traditional communities. Or a woman says she will go back after her maternity leave and then decides on a whim not to go back, blindsiding her husband.

SAHD situations are almost always well thought out, because it is rarer for dads to stay at home and there is not the same pressure to do so from certain communities, plus dads do not typically take as much leave.

“some”
“often times”
“all thought out”
“are almost always well thought”

Bullshit meter is going off for this! The fact that you fancy yourself some sort of expert on SAHM or SAHD dynamics is laughable. Tell me about your study size of 2 families or whatever.
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Anonymous wrote:The men need to stay home and let the women run things.

I wish my husband would agree to stay at home while I focused on my career! I am much more professionally aggressive and ambitious than he is, and and he thrives on taking care of the kids and house. He won't though...

I know some SAHDs and the couples are very balanced and happy.

I know some too, all happy families! But my husband says he doesn't want to, so I don't push it - I certainly wouldn't appreciate it if he pushed me to stay at home, knowing the kind of person he married. But I still wish!

I do think the SAHD families all REALLY thought through that decision carefully and discussed all the angles and whether it was best for everyone and planned emotionally, financially, etc. So that's why they're happy.

Some SAHM families do that but some do not and that is often where the friction comes from.

Right, it’s only SAHD situations that are well thought out? this is so LOL worthy..

Please read what I wrote again. I understand people here are angry and triggered and are rushing in reading posts. I never said "only" SAHD situations are well thought out.

If you read my post, I said that some SAHM families have well-thought out situations. They are happy. Certainly many I know are.

However, SOME SAHM situations are not well thought out. Oftentimes a woman backs into it because of pressure from others, particularly in traditional communities. Or a woman says she will go back after her maternity leave and then decides on a whim not to go back, blindsiding her husband.

SAHD situations are almost always well thought out, because it is rarer for dads to stay at home and there is not the same pressure to do so from certain communities, plus dads do not typically take as much leave.

It's sad you don't recognize how anti-woman your continued posts are.

Are you pro SAHM or pro WOHM?

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Anonymous wrote:The men need to stay home and let the women run things.

I wish my husband would agree to stay at home while I focused on my career! I am much more professionally aggressive and ambitious than he is, and and he thrives on taking care of the kids and house. He won't though...

I know some SAHDs and the couples are very balanced and happy.

I know some too, all happy families! But my husband says he doesn't want to, so I don't push it - I certainly wouldn't appreciate it if he pushed me to stay at home, knowing the kind of person he married. But I still wish!

I do think the SAHD families all REALLY thought through that decision carefully and discussed all the angles and whether it was best for everyone and planned emotionally, financially, etc. So that's why they're happy.

Some SAHM families do that but some do not and that is often where the friction comes from.

Right, it’s only SAHD situations that are well thought out? this is so LOL worthy..

Please read what I wrote again. I understand people here are angry and triggered and are rushing in reading posts. I never said "only" SAHD situations are well thought out.

If you read my post, I said that some SAHM families have well-thought out situations. They are happy. Certainly many I know are.

However, SOME SAHM situations are not well thought out. Oftentimes a woman backs into it because of pressure from others, particularly in traditional communities. Or a woman says she will go back after her maternity leave and then decides on a whim not to go back, blindsiding her husband.

SAHD situations are almost always well thought out, because it is rarer for dads to stay at home and there is not the same pressure to do so from certain communities, plus dads do not typically take as much leave.

It's sad you don't recognize how anti-woman your continued posts are.

Are you pro SAHM or pro WOHM?

I'm both, and I think most people are.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, the people on both sides here making nasty judgments are really insecure and in huge need of therapy. I hope never to run into any of you.

[Anonymous]

LMAO. Are you pro SAHM or pro WOHM? WTF is wrong with you?
Why does anyone need to pick a side. I SAH. But I am not pro SAHM.

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Anonymous wrote:The men need to stay home and let the women run things.

I wish my husband would agree to stay at home while I focused on my career! I am much more professionally aggressive and ambitious than he is, and and he thrives on taking care of the kids and house. He won't though...

I know some SAHDs and the couples are very balanced and happy.

I know some too, all happy families! But my husband says he doesn't want to, so I don't push it - I certainly wouldn't appreciate it if he pushed me to stay at home, knowing the kind of person he married. But I still wish!

I do think the SAHD families all REALLY thought through that decision carefully and discussed all the angles and whether it was best for everyone and planned emotionally, financially, etc. So that's why they're happy.

Some SAHM families do that but some do not and that is often where the friction comes from.

Right, it’s only SAHD situations that are well thought out? this is so LOL worthy..

Please read what I wrote again. I understand people here are angry and triggered and are rushing in reading posts. I never said "only" SAHD situations are well thought out.

If you read my post, I said that some SAHM families have well-thought out situations. They are happy. Certainly many I know are.

However, SOME SAHM situations are not well thought out. Oftentimes a woman backs into it because of pressure from others, particularly in traditional communities. Or a woman says she will go back after her maternity leave and then decides on a whim not to go back, blindsiding her husband.

SAHD situations are almost always well thought out, because it is rarer for dads to stay at home and there is not the same pressure to do so from certain communities, plus dads do not typically take as much leave.

It's sad you don't recognize how anti-woman your continued posts are.

Are you pro SAHM or pro WOHM?

I'm both, and I think most people are.

I'm pro both but I have worked as a therapist and do agree that well-thought out situations are those most likely to succeed. If a man or woman makes a snap decision or both are not on board or one feels pushed because of external forces or their partner, it breeds resentment regardless of whether it is a man or woman staying home. And children grow up knowing that resentment is there.

[Anonymous]

I meant to say I’m not pro SAHM or pro WOHM. Do what is best for your family ladies! No one else should care.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I am not saying one situation is more likely to be well-thought-out, I am simply saying that the worst situations are those where rash judgments are made. When the couple makes a decision thoughtfully and covers the angles and both are on board, it tends to work.

[Anonymous]

If you're part time, you have no business casting stones at sahms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're part time, you have no business casting stones at sahms.

Nobody really has business casting stones at anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are middle grounds here. I work during school hours & early in the morning. It actually adds up to 40 hours, but I get to pick up my daughter. I realize I’m fortunate. Everyone should do what works for their specific family!!

+ 100. I am similar and feel like we should spend our time forcing companies to allow these kind of flexible roles (and to extend maternity and paternity leaves). It would be a lot more productive these tired SAHM vs. WOHM debates.

In my mind, there is no question that it’s best for babies and toddlers to spend the majority of their waking hours with a parent or grandparent. On the other hand, it shouldn’t require sacrificing one’s career (and ambition and mental capabilities) to do so.

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Anonymous wrote:PP here. I am not saying one situation is more likely to be well-thought-out, I am simply saying that the worst situations are those where rash judgments are made. When the couple makes a decision thoughtfully and covers the angles and both are on board, it tends to work.

No one is arguing that SAH decisions shouldn't be well thought out between spouses.

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Anonymous wrote:There are middle grounds here. I work during school hours & early in the morning. It actually adds up to 40 hours, but I get to pick up my daughter. I realize I’m fortunate. Everyone should do what works for their specific family!!

+ 100. I am similar and feel like we should spend our time forcing companies to allow these kind of flexible roles (and to extend maternity and paternity leaves). It would be a lot more productive these tired SAHM vs. WOHM debates.

In my mind, there is no question that it’s best for babies and toddlers to spend the majority of their waking hours with a parent or grandparent. On the other hand, it shouldn’t require sacrificing one’s career (and ambition and mental capabilities) to do so.

I think more companies are starting to allow these flexible roles. Not enough, but more. I know that for many moms in the 80s and 90s, if they wanted to be home before 5, their only options were shift jobs (I had a friend whose mom worked nights as a nurse) or teaching.

[Anonymous]

PP here. By that generation, women could have gotten degrees that qualified them to do other things, but there just weren't many flexible jobs. Both because of employer mindset but also because of the poor quality of technology compared to now.