Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:why is this thread alive?

Someone dug it up but it is quite a story about how you never really know who you’re dealing with and what someone is truly capable of. The husband and AP probably had no idea how the wife would really respond and placed bets on her smashing some wedding china but eventually accepting a divorce without argument. Also points to how divorce is so stigmatized that she truly believed her life was over without a marriage defining it.

I think it's a veiled threat from one of the crazed exW trolling DCUM to the AP, but in reality, this would never happen here in DC area. Who will oversee Larla's AP class planning at Whitman and hire an admission consultant? No true DCUM mom and wife would kill herself and risk her DD ending up at Towson.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

Yes. All that can be true AND so can be the concept that getting involved in an ongoing sexual relationship with someone else's husband or wife invites psychosis and danger.

You are absolutely right. It's just that the murderous act stands out to me more than anything else.

I am someone who will never cheat or date an involved man. But I cannot understand how one goes from being a victim of cheating to a murderer. It's so senseless. So it's harder for me to focus on that smaller yet obvious lesson.

I didn’t either. Until I was 100% completely blindsided finding out about a multi-year affair two decades into marriage with kids. Great marriage/sex life/happy family. I went to a very dark place. I practically had a nervous breakdown and reality was distorted. Nobody in our circle ever could have predicted this. It really shocked so many. I was not sleeping or eating. I couldn’t. That does a number on your mental health.

I had my own income, a great family and was strong mentally so I can see if somebody had past trauma or was slightly unstable prior or had underlying mental health issues—how in that incredible loony fog they could commit a crime of passion. Insomnia over an extended period of time does a number on your sense of reality.

I have always had a great fear of prison. I watched far too many prison documentaries. For a few weeks the thought of prison and what it would do to my kids was the only thing stopping me. I scared myself. It really is one of those- unless you lived it (long happy marriage with unconditional trust) you could never understand what it’s really like. It’s nothing like I imagined or in the movies.

I know I would never murder, but I can see why it is common in these situations.

Murder is not a common reaction to adultery.

Adultery is rampant. The most common reaction is to ignore it.

She’s a psycho who has had months on end of freakouts here. “No one would have ever guessed it, we were perfect and the world told us so!” The happiest, best-looking friends we have, who earn a lot and are genuinely cool, would not describe themselves that way. That’s the distinction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

Yes. All that can be true AND so can be the concept that getting involved in an ongoing sexual relationship with someone else's husband or wife invites psychosis and danger.

You are absolutely right. It's just that the murderous act stands out to me more than anything else.

I am someone who will never cheat or date an involved man. But I cannot understand how one goes from being a victim of cheating to a murderer. It's so senseless. So it's harder for me to focus on that smaller yet obvious lesson.

I didn’t either. Until I was 100% completely blindsided finding out about a multi-year affair two decades into marriage with kids. Great marriage/sex life/happy family. I went to a very dark place. I practically had a nervous breakdown and reality was distorted. Nobody in our circle ever could have predicted this. It really shocked so many. I was not sleeping or eating. I couldn’t. That does a number on your mental health.

I had my own income, a great family and was strong mentally so I can see if somebody had past trauma or was slightly unstable prior or had underlying mental health issues—how in that incredible loony fog they could commit a crime of passion. Insomnia over an extended period of time does a number on your sense of reality.

I have always had a great fear of prison. I watched far too many prison documentaries. For a few weeks the thought of prison and what it would do to my kids was the only thing stopping me. I scared myself. It really is one of those- unless you lived it (long happy marriage with unconditional trust) you could never understand what it’s really like. It’s nothing like I imagined or in the movies.

I know I would never murder, but I can see why it is common in these situations.

Murder is not a common reaction to adultery.

Adultery is rampant. The most common reaction is to ignore it.

She’s a psycho who has had months on end of freakouts here. “No one would have ever guessed it, we were perfect and the world told us so!” The happiest, best-looking friends we have, who earn a lot and are genuinely cool, would not describe themselves that way. That’s the distinction.

^actually, you sound like a psycho.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are Don and Betty?

Characters on a TV show about the 1950s

Mad Men? If so I didn’t get that far.

No!!!! True life story: Betty Broderick

Google if. Dan, not Don

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:why is this thread alive?

Someone dug it up but it is quite a story about how you never really know who you’re dealing with and what someone is truly capable of. The husband and AP probably had no idea how the wife would really respond and placed bets on her smashing some wedding china but eventually accepting a divorce without argument. Also points to how divorce is so stigmatized that she truly believed her life was over without a marriage defining it.

It was brought up because of the newly released podcast and audio tapes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why is this thread alive?

Someone dug it up but it is quite a story about how you never really know who you’re dealing with and what someone is truly capable of. The husband and AP probably had no idea how the wife would really respond and placed bets on her smashing some wedding china but eventually accepting a divorce without argument. Also points to how divorce is so stigmatized that she truly believed her life was over without a marriage defining it.

It was brought up because of the newly released podcast and audio tapes

I listened to the podcast after reading about it here. I disagree that her situation was anything like Betty Broderick’s - Betty was harassed, emotionally tortured, strategized against, and her labor as mother of 4, and working for decades for their life was totally disregarded. She is also a dynamo who worked hard for her life, and rarely wallowed. She was sent harassing clippings, recorded, and manipulated.

None of that happened to Jennair. They lied about an affair, and her husband is a punk who dithered. But she was a complete lunatic. He did eventually clarify his plans to file, none of it was a surprise. Jennair was a manipulator and controlling for their whole relationship and in childhood. He was enabling and weak. The adulterers didn’t “conspire” against her or “torture” her - she recorded them after she had all the info, she recorded herself melting down, she was just not willing to let him go. He wanted to go. She did not own anyone other than herself. Spouses aren’t chattel property. And murder wasn’t justified, because honesty, if you listen honesty, they didn’t break her. She broke herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

Yes. All that can be true AND so can be the concept that getting involved in an ongoing sexual relationship with someone else's husband or wife invites psychosis and danger.

You are absolutely right. It's just that the murderous act stands out to me more than anything else.

I am someone who will never cheat or date an involved man. But I cannot understand how one goes from being a victim of cheating to a murderer. It's so senseless. So it's harder for me to focus on that smaller yet obvious lesson.

I didn’t either. Until I was 100% completely blindsided finding out about a multi-year affair two decades into marriage with kids. Great marriage/sex life/happy family. I went to a very dark place. I practically had a nervous breakdown and reality was distorted. Nobody in our circle ever could have predicted this. It really shocked so many. I was not sleeping or eating. I couldn’t. That does a number on your mental health.

I had my own income, a great family and was strong mentally so I can see if somebody had past trauma or was slightly unstable prior or had underlying mental health issues—how in that incredible loony fog they could commit a crime of passion. Insomnia over an extended period of time does a number on your sense of reality.

I have always had a great fear of prison. I watched far too many prison documentaries. For a few weeks the thought of prison and what it would do to my kids was the only thing stopping me. I scared myself. It really is one of those- unless you lived it (long happy marriage with unconditional trust) you could never understand what it’s really like. It’s nothing like I imagined or in the movies.

I know I would never murder, but I can see why it is common in these situations.

Murder is not a common reaction to adultery.

Adultery is rampant. The most common reaction is to ignore it.

She’s a psycho who has had months on end of freakouts here. “No one would have ever guessed it, we were perfect and the world told us so!” The happiest, best-looking friends we have, who earn a lot and are genuinely cool, would not describe themselves that way. That’s the distinction.

^actually, you sound like a psycho.

Get the help you need.

Jennair was a psycho and a murderer. She had opportunity after opportunity to step back. I thought the posters who brought up the podcast might have unearthed facts about how her husband and his girlfriend tortured her or bullied her but that’s not what happened. Jennair was controlling and obsessive, and took a series of paths she was not pushed toward.

[Anonymous]

No Jennair wasn't a psycho. All 3 had issues within their character. Jennair did become obsessed with revenge when she should have hung on. Mark was going to keep Jennair close in his life, and Meredith already was melt downs about that. She could have enjoyed Meredith's karma while making her own life better.

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Anonymous wrote:No Jennair wasn't a psycho. All 3 had issues within their character. Jennair did become obsessed with revenge when she should have hung on. Mark was going to keep Jennair close in his life, and Meredith already was melt downs about that. She could have enjoyed Meredith's karma while making her own life better.

How is it revenge when she let Mark live? Mark is the one who lied to her, cheated on her, manipulated her and wanted to leave her. She was a stupid psycho.

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Anonymous wrote:No Jennair wasn't a psycho. All 3 had issues within their character. Jennair did become obsessed with revenge when she should have hung on. Mark was going to keep Jennair close in his life, and Meredith already was melt downs about that. She could have enjoyed Meredith's karma while making her own life better.

How is it revenge when she let Mark live? Mark is the one who lied to her, cheated on her, manipulated her and wanted to leave her. She was a stupid psycho.

I read his book, along with the podcast and news outlets. He seemed to be regressed for his age. At 50 they didn't have much money admittedly from Mark because they made a lot of bad choices. Changing jobs, moving, and not putting into retirements like they should didn't leave them with a lot. Jennair was hoping he'd suffer on his own. He admitted the first year or two was tough. She pretty much took care of him, and as others pointed out she was the responsible one. I do find it odd he can't seem to keep a job for long. Still Meredith didn't suffer, but maybe she was hoping by leaving him alive he would suffer especially if they were both gone. I did find it interesting that Meredith thought she was getting a 50 year old guy who had a home, and thought was a real winner. She really didn't know how bad their finances were. Meredith would have won that stupid prize for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The married mistress was the husbands boss? Not a catch, clearly has issues.

Yes among other things. She went stalked him immediately after he got the job, lol. Not only evil, but she was a mental case who was fired for having an affair with her married subordinate. Yuck!

[Anonymous]

What’s the podcast?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s the podcast?

I think there's like 6 of them. This is #5, but you can google. This one is interesting because it shows the wifes state of mind, and why she chose to do what she did.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VZXkIcbgW2s

[Anonymous]

Meredith was the worst W ever. If there's a up side to this story, it's M will never destroy another married couple again.
Mark from what I read recently is reaping what he sowed.

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Anonymous wrote:No Jennair wasn't a psycho. All 3 had issues within their character. Jennair did become obsessed with revenge when she should have hung on. Mark was going to keep Jennair close in his life, and Meredith already was melt downs about that. She could have enjoyed Meredith's karma while making her own life better.

How is it revenge when she let Mark live? Mark is the one who lied to her, cheated on her, manipulated her and wanted to leave her. She was a stupid psycho.

You'd have to read everything on this case. Mark can't seem to navigate his own life. He looked to his wife to do that, and to date he's not doing a good job. I'm thinking
she saw that. Why she let him live. On social media many were outraged she didn't off her him first!