At DC privates - Why are VA parents considered "inferior"?

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Anonymous wrote:This is laughable. Old Town has more old money than most DC/MD burbs.

Old money? In DC? That’s laughable. This is a straight new money town and the new money isn’t in old town.

Lol—that would be news to the wealthy families that have lived in Georgetown for 4 to 5+ generations.

My family has been in Virginia since the 1600s. There’s old money in Virginia, DC and Maryland. This is dumb.

There’s money that’s so old in DC, it has existed/resided here since before the US was a country.

I wouldn’t brag about my ancestors being plantation-owning enslavers. That’s not old money, that’s stolen money.

Amen.

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Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

+much older money. PP you are a rube and a snob

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Funniest thing about this thread is that the truly awful regressive Christian-nationalist Glenn Youngkin (another great reason to look down one’s nose at NOVA) is that he lives in Great Falls but his kids to NCS, STA, and GP. What a pompous self-satisfied prick he is. 🙄

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Anonymous wrote:I had relatives at Jamestown, so I've been around longer than any of you n00bs... of course, my relatives were smart and LEFT Virginia very quickly because they could see that it was just going to turn into a state where you either have to live in some kind of creepy Confederacy cosplay routine OR suburban sprawl that is more expensive than New Jersey, but not as charming.

Face it, Virginia is where unimaginative people go to get a ticky-tacky mcmansion where they can spend their free hours nuking the lawn with cancer-causing mosquito treatments. That's why people in DC think you're inferior. Maybe it's not true, but we all think it is.

Meh. One branch of my New England family made more money in a decade then the entirety of your Va crew has ever amassed.

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Factoid: the northern VA economy is growing 3x faster than DC and MD. After kid graduates from Sidwell, STA or NCS, goes to college and then chooses to move back to the DMV, he will be crossing that bridge to work in Tysons Corner or Reston.

Factoid: top students at DC privates are disproportionately from Virginia.

Factoid: top parent donors to DC privates are from Virginia.

Factoid: Virginia parents who send kids to DC privates are almost always self-made. DC parents not so much.

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Anonymous wrote:Factoid: the northern VA economy is growing 3x faster than DC and MD. After kid graduates from Sidwell, STA or NCS, goes to college and then chooses to move back to the DMV, he will be crossing that bridge to work in Tysons Corner or Reston.

Factoid: top students at DC privates are disproportionately from Virginia.

Factoid: top parent donors to DC privates are from Virginia.

Factoid: Virginia parents who send kids to DC privates are almost always self-made. DC parents not so much.

LOL.
Made up and delusional facts.
IT sweatshops don't make multi-millionaires.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting thread that came up when I searched for something. Is VA still no man's island to DC/MD parents? Are we still seen as climbers?

Hysterical that you revived this 10 year old thread. My answer would be that VA was the home of the Confederate and thus I have an entire out herb bias.

I mean, the only reason Maryland wasn't part of the Confederacy was because Lincoln nipped that in the bud, suspended habeas corpus, etc real quick after pro-secession rioting in Baltimore caused the first bloodshed of the war. I'm a proud Maryland native but let's not pretend that the birthplace of Harriet Tubman and Frederick Douglass doesn't have its own sordid past. Hell, the plantation that inspired Uncle Tom's Cabin was in Bethesda.

To answer the actual question, I have no issue with kids/parents from Virginia, I just won't drop off or pick up my kid there on a weekday "Virginia friends are for weekends"

Lincoln tried to keep VA in line too. Also, lots of people in VA still think the Confederacy is a going concern.

You ever been to northern or southern Maryland? Hell, ever been to Dundalk? Once you leave the DC bubble and certain parts of Baltimore, MD and VA really aren't all that different in the grand scheme of things. The average person living in NOVA has as much in common with confederate sympathizers as the average person in suburban MD does.

Yeah, but one of those states was actually in the confederacy. The other wasn't.

What a totally rational reason to not like a state over a 150 years later.

Potomac had streets named after Confederate generals until recently. The Rockville historic courthouse had a Confederate statue until like 2017 too. It's just such a silly argument to make when the reality is it was culturally not much different and the lack of secession was a matter of convenience/strongarming by the federal government, not some hard fought belief in the sanctity of the Union. It sure as hell wasn't about their beliefs re: slavery, since MD is one of the only states whose de jure end of slavery was post-emancipation proclamation (and don't think the de facto end was any better). Read a book.

VA is the state where they are fighting against black history but are proudly renaming schools for Confederate traitors in 2024.
Could not make this up.
https://virginiamercury.com/2024/05/20/virginia-school-board-restores-confederate-names/#:~:text=In%202021%2C%20the%20schools%20on,Elementary%20School%20to%20Honey%20Run.

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It’s hard to separate the narcissistic view that DC is the center of the universe from the classism that pervades NW DC private schools. The automatic assumption is that if you’re living in VA it’s because you don’t have enough money to buy a house in DC because of course there’s no reason to live in VA if you can afford DC.🙄

I know some people who live in multi-million dollar apartments (Europeans who prefer apartment living) who complain that no one will visit them in their apartments because the assumption is you must be poor if you live in an apartment.

TLDR: Many DC private school parents are dumb, classist, snobs or all of the above.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s hard to separate the narcissistic view that DC is the center of the universe from the classism that pervades NW DC private schools. The automatic assumption is that if you’re living in VA it’s because you don’t have enough money to buy a house in DC because of course there’s no reason to live in VA if you can afford DC.🙄

I know some people who live in multi-million dollar apartments (Europeans who prefer apartment living) who complain that no one will visit them in their apartments because the assumption is you must be poor if you live in an apartment.

TLDR: Many DC private school parents are dumb, classist, snobs or all of the above.

I do get this sense from the upper NW and they sort of cloak it in a “I would never live I the burbs” (well, except Maryland if I have to). And I look at their houses and 99% aren’t living in the $10m houses. Mostly the kids at our big 3 live in like $2.5m houses. Like me, in Arlington. In fact, many seem to live in town houses — oh excuse me, a row house.

And they think it’s like so far from everything which is incorrect, because from upper NW to anywhere else in DC is awful. It’s so much faster to just cross, say, the 14th street bridge from Arlington. Getting from our downtown offices to our Big 3 is painful. Getting from Arlington to our office is easy. Getting from Arlington to our Big 3 is easy. Whatever. They will continue in their belief, which is fine with me.

UVA is our backup. And william and Mary. Backups.

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People in DC either believe Nova is "new" money or backwards. They don't seem to realize how VA has changed due to immigration and migration. Many immigrants prefer Northern Virginia and don't focus on its history.

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC either believe Nova is "new" money or backwards. They don't seem to realize how VA has changed due to immigration and migration. Many immigrants prefer Northern Virginia and don't focus on its history.

But they still want to go back to the good 'old confederate days.

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC either believe Nova is "new" money or backwards. They don't seem to realize how VA has changed due to immigration and migration. Many immigrants prefer Northern Virginia and don't focus on its history.

But they still want to go back to the good 'old confederate days.

Not Northern VA, although it feels a lot more racist to immigrants and minorities than MD and DC.

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC either believe Nova is "new" money or backwards. They don't seem to realize how VA has changed due to immigration and migration. Many immigrants prefer Northern Virginia and don't focus on its history.

But they still want to go back to the good 'old confederate days.

Have you traveled in MD outside the DC suburbs and Baltimore? Total nostalgia for the good ole confederate, slave-holding days. Total Trump country. It's why we decided not to buy a second house at the MD shore, lovely though it is.

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC either believe Nova is "new" money or backwards. They don't seem to realize how VA has changed due to immigration and migration. Many immigrants prefer Northern Virginia and don't focus on its history.

But they still want to go back to the good 'old confederate days.

Have you traveled in MD outside the DC suburbs and Baltimore? Total nostalgia for the good ole confederate, slave-holding days. Total Trump country. It's why we decided not to buy a second house at the MD shore, lovely though it is.

Well, in VA they actually voted to go back to good ole confederate, slave-holding days.

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Anonymous wrote:People in DC either believe Nova is "new" money or backwards. They don't seem to realize how VA has changed due to immigration and migration. Many immigrants prefer Northern Virginia and don't focus on its history.

But they still want to go back to the good 'old confederate days.

Have you traveled in MD outside the DC suburbs and Baltimore? Total nostalgia for the good ole confederate, slave-holding days. Total Trump country. It's why we decided not to buy a second house at the MD shore, lovely though it is.

Well, in VA they actually voted to go back to good ole confederate, slave-holding days.

Even the IT sweashops in NoVa want to go back to the 'good ole days'
https://wtop.com/loudoun-county/2024/05/after-whites-only-job-posting-va-tech-company-hit-with-fine-from-the-justice-department/