At DC privates - Why are VA parents considered "inferior"?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

Well I live in DC. And you know you're wrong. Nova is so new money it hurts. Everything is gaudy and flashy. People trying to live outside their means so they lease a new car yearly to try and create false status. Eh. Call me when your family has a crest and funded America's railroads.

Tell that to the First Families. The money was already old in Virginia when DC was carved (poorly) out of a swamp.

[Anonymous]

The "snotty" VA responses are just highlighting the issue. NOVA is not old money southern. It is tacky, new money, trying to pass for old, cheesy, and yes, akin to the "bridge and tunnel crowd." I grew up in the south and went to college in VA. Even then, I clearly remember the real southern Virginians ( from Richmond and Tidewater and Middleburg) making fun of the tacky NOVA kids. They were totally considered poseurs. Yes, i know it is and was ridiculous but it is how NOVA is regarded by true southerners and true Virginians. It is basically the same phenomenon, only reversed, for folks in NWDC and close-in MD. It doesn't matter if high tech companies are locating in Tysons or Reston, you don't live there unless you don't get it. You make a reverse commute if anything.

Now, I actually think its silly, but that is the why. NOVA is no-man's-land, no one likes you but you. ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous. Don't feed the troll. - signed a Private school parent who lives in DC

OP: Actually I am not a troll but a VA parent with two children who just began at DC privates last fall and this is indeed what I have sensed unfortunately.......

[Anonymous]

The parents we know in Virginia are better educated than we are, gracious, and more successful. It's not my first choice of a place to live but I'm happy to drive my child there to see her friends.

Signed,
CC, MD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous. Don't feed the troll. - signed a Private school parent who lives in DC

OP: Actually I am not a troll but a VA parent with two children who just began at DC privates last fall and this is indeed what I have sensed unfortunately.......

Tough luck hon. Social climbing ain't easy.

[Anonymous]

I can see...well, almost see how DC folks might feel this way about VA, but Maryland? Really? What's special about Maryland.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous. Don't feed the troll. - signed a Private school parent who lives in DC

OP: Actually I am not a troll but a VA parent with two children who just began at DC privates last fall and this is indeed what I have sensed unfortunately.......

Tough luck hon. Social climbing ain't easy.

OP: Love it! My pedigree is such that I do not need to climb, thankfully, but I do not need to prove it. I am not even sure what the term means!

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]I can see...well, almost see how DC folks might feel this way about VA, but Maryland? Really? What's special about Maryland. [/quote]

It is just because you don't notice when you move from, say CCDC into CCMD, or from AU Park into the Westmoreland neighborhood. It is just a continuous flow and blurs together. You have to cross a bridge to get to NOVA and that makes it seem farther, there is an actual physical barrier. It is really just mental. Stupid but true.

[Anonymous]

Op. why do you live in Virginia? And why do you send your kids to DC schools? Start there and you'll find your answers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

Well I live in DC. And you know you're wrong. Nova is so new money it hurts. Everything is gaudy and flashy. People trying to live outside their means so they lease a new car yearly to try and create false status. Eh. Call me when your family has a crest and funded America's railroads.

NP: How is living in VA social climbing? What if you want more space to run around for children? What social ladder is there to climb? I live in Nova and I am a homebody who went to private schools and Ivies and want the same for my children. This is really strange to me.
The families I know who lease cars btw lease because of the warranties and they are not flashy

You are arguing with the poster as to the validity of the way people in DC/MD feel.

That's not the question the OP ask. She wanted to know if and why people in DC'MD felt that people/families that lived in VA were somehow "inferior. She has gotten some responses.

The Virginia don't like the responses and want to argue validity. The NJ people would probably want to argue with the Manhattanites too. But it would be just as pointless. People feel the way they feel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous. Don't feed the troll. - signed a Private school parent who lives in DC

OP: Actually I am not a troll but a VA parent with two children who just began at DC privates last fall and this is indeed what I have sensed unfortunately.......

Tough luck hon. Social climbing ain't easy.

OP: Love it! My pedigree is such that I do not need to climb, thankfully, but I do not need to prove it. I am not even sure what the term means!

Hi, OP. I am a several generation NW DC family and what I am reading is ridiculous. Only those relative newbies to DC with inferiority complexes would accuse people of being social climbers purely based on where they live. I am sure the Kennedy family is not climbing. But for a laugh, on wikipedia here is a definition!
" ....someone who seeks social prominence.... by obsequious behavior....one who has suddenly risen to a higher socioeconomic status [without the] social acceptance of others in that class"!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op. why do you live in Virginia? And why do you send your kids to DC schools? Start there and you'll find your answers.

OP: To VA for lots of outdoor space and to DC for the schools like I had in Massachusetts. What answers are there that I will find?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "snotty" VA responses are just highlighting the issue. NOVA is not old money southern. It is tacky, new money, trying to pass for old, cheesy, and yes, akin to the "bridge and tunnel crowd." I grew up in the south and went to college in VA. Even then, I clearly remember the real southern Virginians ( from Richmond and Tidewater and Middleburg) making fun of the tacky NOVA kids. They were totally considered poseurs. Yes, i know it is and was ridiculous but it is how NOVA is regarded by true southerners and true Virginians. It is basically the same phenomenon, only reversed, for folks in NWDC and close-in MD. It doesn't matter if high tech companies are locating in Tysons or Reston, you don't live there unless you don't get it. You make a reverse commute if anything.

Now, I actually think its silly, but that is the why. NOVA is no-man's-land, no one likes you but you. ?

Darling, you're not old money. Do you know how I know? Old money doesn't brag about being old money. Old money doesn't TALK about being old money. Posers and wannabes do these things.

[Anonymous]

I know some wealthy old families that live in apartments on Connecticut ave or the westchester that have multiples of money when compared with your average NoVa wanna be showman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know some wealthy old families that live in apartments on Connecticut ave or the westchester that have multiples of money when compared with your average NoVa wanna be showman.

And?