At DC privates - Why are VA parents considered "inferior"?

[Anonymous]

I see this recurring theme alluding to the thought that DC parents/families at DC private schools "turn up their noses" or " look down on" VA parents/families.

Given that this is an anonymous forum can I hear from people who feel this way and could they say why?

I don't think its part of the rehashed issue that VA families should use VA public schools and not "take up space" in DC privates given that the public school system may be better in NOVA. I am assuming it is something else.

Anyone open to sharing their thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I have never heard anyone look down on VA parents. I have no idea what you are talking about, you are being over sensitive.

[Anonymous]

What are you prattling on about? You must have a lot going on in that pretty little head of yours.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous. Don't feed the troll. - signed a Private school parent who lives in DC

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see this recurring theme alluding to the thought that DC parents/families at DC private schools "turn up their noses" or " look down on" VA parents/families.

Given that this is an anonymous forum can I hear from people who feel this way and could they say why?

I don't think its part of the rehashed issue that VA families should use VA public schools and not "take up space" in DC privates given that the public school system may be better in NOVA. I am assuming it is something else.

Anyone open to sharing their thoughts?

There is a feeling among some denizens of NW DC and the close-in MD suburbs that people who buy houses in Virginia don't quite "get it". They choose more space and lower housing prices over all that the more densely populated and more expensive NW DC and MD areas offer (including the private schools).

I know this is a stretch, but its sort of the way Manhattanites feel about people who live in NJ. Not so extreme. but the same sort of thing. Their thought is, "Who would live in Virginia?"

[Anonymous]

Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

Well I live in DC. And you know you're wrong. Nova is so new money it hurts. Everything is gaudy and flashy. People trying to live outside their means so they lease a new car yearly to try and create false status. Eh. Call me when your family has a crest and funded America's railroads.

[Anonymous]

Our Brownie troop has a crest. Does that count?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

Well I live in DC. And you know you're wrong. Nova is so new money it hurts. Everything is gaudy and flashy. People trying to live outside their means so they lease a new car yearly to try and create false status. Eh. Call me when your family has a crest and funded America's railroads.

Excellent parody of Old Money. The last line might be a smidge over the top though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this recurring theme alluding to the thought that DC parents/families at DC private schools "turn up their noses" or " look down on" VA parents/families.

Given that this is an anonymous forum can I hear from people who feel this way and could they say why?

I don't think its part of the rehashed issue that VA families should use VA public schools and not "take up space" in DC privates given that the public school system may be better in NOVA. I am assuming it is something else.

Anyone open to sharing their thoughts?

There is a feeling among some denizens of NW DC and the close-in MD suburbs that people who buy houses in Virginia don't quite "get it". They choose more space and lower housing prices over all that the more densely populated and more expensive NW DC and MD areas offer (including the private schools).

I know this is a stretch, but its sort of the way Manhattanites feel about people who live in NJ. Not so extreme. but the same sort of thing. Their thought is, "Who would live in Virginia?"

To answer your question, "Who would live in Virginia?" You are forgetting one big factor, people move to Virginia, to work in Virginia. It is no longer just a suburb. That was last century.

Last ten years, Virginia has out paced Maryland in getting private sector companies, especially to McLean and Tyson's Corner. So, it makes sense that people are moving here. It's inaccurate to say that Virginia is like the NJ/CT suburbs to DC-Maryland's Manhattan. it's laughable...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

The truth doesn't matter. Facts don't matter.

The OP was asking a question as to why VA parents and families were viewed as inferior by the people in DC and the MD suburbs. The poster you responded to gave her an honest answer.

Than you start to argue with her about it. You are taking the thread off topic. It's not about validity. Its about what people think and feel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see this recurring theme alluding to the thought that DC parents/families at DC private schools "turn up their noses" or " look down on" VA parents/families.

Given that this is an anonymous forum can I hear from people who feel this way and could they say why?

I don't think its part of the rehashed issue that VA families should use VA public schools and not "take up space" in DC privates given that the public school system may be better in NOVA. I am assuming it is something else.

Anyone open to sharing their thoughts?

There is a feeling among some denizens of NW DC and the close-in MD suburbs that people who buy houses in Virginia don't quite "get it". They choose more space and lower housing prices over all that the more densely populated and more expensive NW DC and MD areas offer (including the private schools).

I know this is a stretch, but its sort of the way Manhattanites feel about people who live in NJ. Not so extreme. but the same sort of thing. Their thought is, "Who would live in Virginia?"

To answer your question, "Who would live in Virginia?" You are forgetting one big factor, people move to Virginia, to work in Virginia. It is no longer just a suburb. That was last century.

Last ten years, Virginia has out paced Maryland in getting private sector companies, especially to McLean and Tyson's Corner. So, it makes sense that people are moving here. It's inaccurate to say that Virginia is like the NJ/CT suburbs to DC-Maryland's Manhattan. it's laughable...

Yes, yes yes. I'm sure you believe all that.

But whether or not any of that is true doesn't matter. The question was "Why do the DC/MD people feel that Va familes are somehow "inferior". The post you responded to tries to describe what this one person hears or senses from people in DC/MD. Then you start arguing that they shouldn't feel that way.

I know you are defensive about Virginia. But that has little to do with the question.

By the way, I wouldn't ever consider living in Virginia. I don't even like going there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Good job and good answer.

You tried to answer the question and did a good job of it.

Some of the subsequent posters aren't happy about it. But you "gotta call em as you see em".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ill bite. Even though I know I shouldn't buy I've had 3 glasses of wine. There is a gut reaction that I get when I meet the few parents from Virginia. I realize they live far away, may have different political views and I sure as hell don't want to drive out there for a play date. I also get the sense of social climbing and that stench is hard to ignore. So I say hi and then ignore them completely because if DD makes a friend who lives in McLean I sure as hell don't want to drive out there on a Saturday.

Social climbing? More Old Money and status in Virginia than in MD, darling. Probably DC, too.

Well I live in DC. And you know you're wrong. Nova is so new money it hurts. Everything is gaudy and flashy. People trying to live outside their means so they lease a new car yearly to try and create false status. Eh. Call me when your family has a crest and funded America's railroads.

NP: How is living in VA social climbing? What if you want more space to run around for children? What social ladder is there to climb? I live in Nova and I am a homebody who went to private schools and Ivies and want the same for my children. This is really strange to me.
The families I know who lease cars btw lease because of the warranties and they are not flashy