I don't know if I should invite exes to our wedding
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Anonymous
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Not sure what proper etiquette is here. I'm not even sure if etiquette is the right word.
Anyway, my fiance and I have set a date for the big day!! We've been together almost two years and he popped the question in February! So here's the issue. Would you invite ex boyfriends to your wedding if you are still on good terms with them? There are two guys that we socialize with semi regularly (one more so than the other). One is married, one is not. Anyway, my fiance doesn't know that I've been intimate with these guys. I think I'd be uncomfortable if my man invited an ex (not going to happen) so to be fair, I'm thinking of not inviting them. But if I don't I know he'll ask why and then what do I do? Bit of a jam. I'd like some views or suggestions. |
Anonymous
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You have exes that your fiance doesn't know about?
Yeah, that's a problem. |
Anonymous
| Not unless you 1) have a good relationship with said ex and 2) you have children with the ex |
Anonymous
Especially since your fiance knows them. |
Anonymous
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I invited an ex to our wedding with no issue. Everyone there knew we'd dated years before, but were/are very good friends.
It's pretty weird that you socialize with exes and your fiancé doesn't know they are exes. Or are they more like hook ups/flings? |
Anonymous
Kind of yes. I guess neither of them was a boyfriend in the usual sense of the word. I guess one was a friends with special benefits and the other was a very short lived thing. I never told my fiance cause i"m pretty sure he would take a negative view of it |
Anonymous
| You need to tell him before he finds out from one of them. |
Anonymous
| guy here - NO WAY. you haven't told him that you slept with the guys he thinks are only friends. and you can't tell him now - it's way to late to come clean and it will not come off (to him) good at all. |
Anonymous
Just invite them and say nothing. |
Anonymous
nothing like starting a new life with a spouse blind to deception...and deceived at the goddamn wedding no less! 
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Anonymous
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Your husband should know that the friends you hang out with are your exes. And you should know if the women he hangs out with are exes. You don't want him to know for some reason and that is an issue. If you can't be honest and you need to be deceptive, you need to figure out why.
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Anonymous
| DH and I both invited multiple exes to our wedding. The fact that DH is on good term with people he long term relationships with is something I like about his character. The fact that we like our exes spouses and get along, indicates we both have a history of picking stable, normal people to care about. If you are friendly with an Ex and went to his wedding, I say invite him. |
Anonymous
| We invited two of my exes to our wedding; they are still my friends and in fact we went to their weddings as well. There were no secrets, though. My husband was aware that we used to date and he was fine with it. |
Anonymous
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How old are you? 25? You refer to these guys as "exes" but really they were never your boyfriends, just some guys you slept with a few times. Seems like you like to stir up drama where you get to be the center of attention.
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Anonymous
It probably won't come off good. But he should know the kind of woman he is marrying. |