Today is the day that I hate my husband

[Anonymous]

My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

[Anonymous]

+1 feeling the same about my husband today too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

Then put your money where your mouth is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

OP, you are a selfish bitch. I don't understand women like you marrying someone and then suddenly discovering that he is socially inept and unkind. Why the f--k would you have married him in the first place if these were things that bothered you?

You say that he is a good father, strong, loyal and smart and you are willing to break up your family because of real or perceived inadequacies that you should have been aware of well before you married him.

[Anonymous]

Give him to me please. Mine is a cheater

[Anonymous]

Is he on the spectrum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

OP, you are a selfish bitch. I don't understand women like you marrying someone and then suddenly discovering that he is socially inept and unkind. Why the f--k would you have married him in the first place if these were things that bothered you?

You say that he is a good father, strong, loyal and smart and you are willing to break up your family because of real or perceived inadequacies that you should have been aware of well before you married him.

If you want to say something helpful to the OP, why do you start your post with such offensive namecalling? Do you suppose OP will listen better if you call her names?

DCUM at its worst. Shame on you, PP.

[Anonymous]

Looks like you touched a nerve for 19:19... Too afwaid to leave your shitty husband PP? Take a cue from OP. Being willing to leave gives you the power to make the right choice for yourself and your kid.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to calm down. Yes, your DH is all the things you describe, but if you want to leave him, then you must formulate a plan and execute it when you are in a calm, rational state of mind. If you want him to change, then you need to get him to go to couples therapy, work out your differences, and take it from there. But do it all when you are calm. Splitting up your family may be for the best, but it's always best to try to save it if you can first. If it's hopeless after you've tried therapy, and he refuses to change, and you can't stand him as he is, then have a calm, rational divorce and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

I'm sorry. Unkind is a dealbreaker for me. The world is harsh enough, you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

OP, you are a selfish bitch. I don't understand women like you marrying someone and then suddenly discovering that he is socially inept and unkind. Why the f--k would you have married him in the first place if these were things that bothered you?

You say that he is a good father, strong, loyal and smart and you are willing to break up your family because of real or perceived inadequacies that you should have been aware of well before you married him.

OP here. Maybe I am being selfish. I am okay with that. I think personal happiness and satisfaction are things we are entitled to be selfish about. No one marries a perfect person (my husband included). But, there is a time when you believe you can deal with other person's faults (and they with yours) and still have the happy times outweigh the non-happy times. But, things can change. I knew that going in. So did he, I am sure. Today the scales are tipped in favor of ending it. Who knows what tomorrow holds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give him to me please. Mine is a cheater

OP here. Sorry. That sucks. He's an a'hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you need to calm down. Yes, your DH is all the things you describe, but if you want to leave him, then you must formulate a plan and execute it when you are in a calm, rational state of mind. If you want him to change, then you need to get him to go to couples therapy, work out your differences, and take it from there. But do it all when you are calm. Splitting up your family may be for the best, but it's always best to try to save it if you can first. If it's hopeless after you've tried therapy, and he refuses to change, and you can't stand him as he is, then have a calm, rational divorce and move on.

OP here. I feel pretty calm (presently), but I appreciate this advice and inpuut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. Maybe I am being selfish. I am okay with that. I think personal happiness and satisfaction are things we are entitled to be selfish about. No one marries a perfect person (my husband included). But, there is a time when you believe you can deal with other person's faults (and they with yours) and still have the happy times outweigh the non-happy times. But, things can change. I knew that going in. So did he, I am sure. Today the scales are tipped in favor of ending it. Who knows what tomorrow holds?

Who cares if he's incapable of being vulnerable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is a good father, he is strong, he is smart and he is loyal. However, he is incapable of being vulnerable. He is unkind. He is socially inept which means that we have a very hard time developing "couple friends". I feel like I am just done. I don't need this shit. I don't need someone who is unsupportive of me. I do not need someone who makes me feel as though anything I genuinely like is stupid. I am attractive, under 40, I am a lawyer (so I do not need to him to survive financially). I just don't need this shit. Honestly. I can do better - and I don't even think I want anyone right now. I dream of being free of him. We have a daughter and I would hate to break up her home, but I feel like I am just done. She will adjust. Perhaps I feel differently tomorrow, but as of this evening, fuck this shit.

Just another example of someone marrying to check the box. You make me sick.