Can a man out there please explain something to me?

[Anonymous]

We had cable for which we paid about $70/month. I noticed my husband not watching for a couple months so I decided to try going without cable and buy an HD antenna instead. He's been watching movies on Netflix and amazon lately anyway. Well, he's mad and he won't talk about it. Don't know why he'd want to pay almost $900/year just so maybe on the off chance he "might" want to surf through 200 channels one day. Can anyone explain this to me?

[Anonymous]

He's probably mad you made the decision without him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

+1. You don't need a man to tell you this.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha. Good call, OP. Your DH better get over himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he feels like it is his right to the money - to waste it or not? No spending plan is going to be without waste.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

Ok, if he actually said "I still want it" and you still made a unilateral decision to cancel, I'm not surprised that he's pissed. While I agree with your rationale for canceling the cable, he should have some say in it also.

FWIW, my DH watches nearly everything on Hulu or other online sources. But, he likes watching certain sports on cable - not all games are available live online. So the cable might sit unused for months at a time during the off-season, then several get used several times a week once the season starts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

Ok, if he actually said "I still want it" and you still made a unilateral decision to cancel, I'm not surprised that he's pissed. While I agree with your rationale for canceling the cable, he should have some say in it also.

FWIW, my DH watches nearly everything on Hulu or other online sources. But, he likes watching certain sports on cable - not all games are available live online. So the cable might sit unused for months at a time during the off-season, then several get used several times a week once the season starts.

What a waste of money.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

So you wanted to have a discussion to cut something he wants, he said he wanted to keep it and despite this, you canceled it anyway because he won't discuss it.

So, suppose you have a luxury that you really wanted, say you get you get a massage once a month just to relax you, he says he thinks you can't afford it, and rather than get into a fight about it, you just say "I still want it." Then you show up for your next appointment and find out after your conversation, he called and canceled your appointment and they booked someone else.

Are you just going to think "Oh well, it was for the best" and whistle a happy tune all the way home and be nice to him when you get there?

If he won't talk and you use that as an excuse to do something anyway, then you both need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Sports. Can't get the Nats or college football without a package at that level.

[Anonymous]

Assuming you guys aren't struggling financially, it's a pretty uncool move to unilaterally cut off the cable. I'd be über-pissed if my dh did that to me.

[Anonymous]

Ha ha. Good call, OP. Your DH better get over himself.

You sound divorced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

He gave you an answer. He said "I still want it." He just didn't give you the answer you wanted to hear.

I agree it's a waste, but you did the exact opposite of what he wanted.

[Anonymous]

I'd be pissed too if I explicitly said I still want cable and my spouse cancelled it. TV programs are seasonal. I haven't watched much recently either, but a whole new crop is about to start up for the summer.

That was really passive aggressive of you.

[Anonymous]

I guess it's like how a dog feels when you cut off it's balls.

Or was that a bad analogy?