Can a man out there please explain something to me?

[Anonymous]

I'm a woman. I like to have cable just so I can surf bad shows on HGTV and Bravo a few nights a week. I work hard and I find it relaxing, and for me it's worth the $50/month. Yes, I know it is a splurge, but I save enough and can afford it.

[Anonymous]

Man here.

TV and cable fall under Audio-Visual. These are a man's domain. The man-cave exists only because of cable, beer and sports. You just chopped off one of the legs. I completely understand your logic, but I also know how we think.

The cable is there just like a spare tire or a pair jumper cables are in the trunk. If I need em...there they are! Now, you've upset the universe and set in motion a chain of cataclysmic events that will culminate with him wanting to watch something on cable for the first time in months...and he won't have it. You destroyed the universe. Shame, shame, shame on you!

(He'll get over it)

[Anonymous]

this isn't about cable OP, it's about your control issues. and you know this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

He gave you an answer. He said "I still want it." He just didn't give you the answer you wanted to hear.

I agree it's a waste, but you did the exact opposite of what he wanted.

Exactly. Bad call, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

Ha ha, are you kidding? His response was "I STILL WANT IT." How is that no response? I'd be pissed too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

TV and cable fall under Audio-Visual. These are a man's domain. The man-cave exists only because of cable, beer and sports. You just chopped off one of the legs. I completely understand your logic, but I also know how we think.

The cable is there just like a spare tire or a pair jumper cables are in the trunk. If I need em...there they are! Now, you've upset the universe and set in motion a chain of cataclysmic events that will culminate with him wanting to watch something on cable for the first time in months...and he won't have it. You destroyed the universe. Shame, shame, shame on you!

(He'll get over it)

WTH? Do people really think this way in 2014? I love cable. Like, in the living room. It's there, just like a tampon in the bathroom or lipstick in my purse.

[Anonymous]

God am I glad we don't watch TV and neither of us even ever thought about signing up for something as useless and expensive as cable TV XD I feel for you OP - but he clearly stated he still wanted it, so don't be surprised now that he is pissed O_o

[Anonymous]

Maybe he needs to have cable available so he can be included as one of the guys talking about sports or something on tv at the watercooler at work. Is he a beta?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here.

TV and cable fall under Audio-Visual. These are a man's domain. The man-cave exists only because of cable, beer and sports. You just chopped off one of the legs. I completely understand your logic, but I also know how we think.

The cable is there just like a spare tire or a pair jumper cables are in the trunk. If I need em...there they are! Now, you've upset the universe and set in motion a chain of cataclysmic events that will culminate with him wanting to watch something on cable for the first time in months...and he won't have it. You destroyed the universe. Shame, shame, shame on you!

(He'll get over it)

WTH? Do people really think this way in 2014? I love cable. Like, in the living room. It's there, just like a tampon in the bathroom or lipstick in my purse.

AV-controlling, tool-owning, yard-maintenance-doing, car-fixing DW here. I believe (/hope) PP's tongue was planted firmly in cheek.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's probably mad you made the decision without him

That's the thing. I tried to have a discussion. He would never give an answer other than "I don't know." So I waited and waited. No response to "you haven't watched cable in two months" other than "I still want it." So is the appropriate course of action to throw $900/year down the toilet just in case he may want to turn the tv on someday? We can buy a new HDTV each year at that rate.

I bet you control everything, don't you. Must be fun.

[Anonymous]

PFFFFF these replies are ridiculous. "I still want it" is not a real response, it sounds like he was totally unwilling to discuss it so she took the initiative. It sounds like he was being childish instead of simply explaining why it's important to him to keep it and why it's a priority. If he doesn't explain then she's going to assume that he's not really thinking about it and he's just giving her a knee jerk reaction... like a child going "I want it! I want it!". This is a communication problem and the problem lies with the husband in this case.

[Anonymous]

He said that he still wants it. That's clear.

Maybe he anticipated an argument with OP if he gave his reasons. I think that the man who explained the typical male's audio-visual perspective, is right on. I can see it being frustrating if you have a tight budget, but unless OP's husband is a spendthrift, and she feels that she never gets to have a little luxury here and there, I would just drop it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PFFFFF these replies are ridiculous. "I still want it" is not a real response, it sounds like he was totally unwilling to discuss it so she took the initiative. It sounds like he was being childish instead of simply explaining why it's important to him to keep it and why it's a priority. If he doesn't explain then she's going to assume that he's not really thinking about it and he's just giving her a knee jerk reaction... like a child going "I want it! I want it!". This is a communication problem and the problem lies with the husband in this case.

She should not have just unilaterally cancelled it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PFFFFF these replies are ridiculous. "I still want it" is not a real response, it sounds like he was totally unwilling to discuss it so she took the initiative. It sounds like he was being childish instead of simply explaining why it's important to him to keep it and why it's a priority. If he doesn't explain then she's going to assume that he's not really thinking about it and he's just giving her a knee jerk reaction... like a child going "I want it! I want it!". This is a communication problem and the problem lies with the husband in this case.

Why the fuck does a grown man need to explain something as simple as wanting cable? "I still want it" is more than enough. I wonder if he monitors how much shampoo, perfume, moisturizer, or makeup she uses.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure he wasn't watching something that you weren't aware of, or when you were not around?

I have jewelry that I rarely wear and clothes items that sit in my closet for a year before I use them; but, I like having these things around.

Isn't this just a guy version of my situation?