Most young men are single - most young women are not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do these discussions always operate on the premise that women have all the options and some schmuck is lucky one picked him?

Because think of the people you know who are single at 40 - there are plenty of higher caliber women single at 40 than men. The men still single at 40 all seem to be losers.

Everyone I know who got to their 40's, whether male or female, and is still single has at least one personality or character flaw that explains why they never married. Being divorced is one thing. Never married? If I found myself back in the dating pool again, I would avoid never-married women.

That's such a blanket statement. I'm late 30s/female and never married because my fiance died in an accident. In a relationship but will leave him.

You have to acknowledge that your situation is very abnormal and most people unmarried by late 30s have serious problems in either the mental department or the looks department

The only “serious problem” I have is that I enjoy my own company more than I’ve ever enjoyed being in a relationship. I’m certainly not going to marry someone just to placate a bunch of random people online.

That is a serious problem sweetie, it's called malignant narcissism

WTF. Why on earth do you think romantic relationships are important enough that it's better to be in a bad one than not one at all? Do you have childhood trauma or something?

-NP, and I'm married.

I think when someone "enjoys their own company" more than anyone they have ever met, that person has a few issues

Ah, here is the problem. You are trying to respond to things that nobody said. PP didn't say she enjoys her own company more than *anyone she has every met*, she said she enjoys her own company more than she has ever enjoyed being in a relationship.

Often the way we read statements reveals more about us than it does the other person, so maybe ask yourself what your misinterpretation of PP's comment says about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do these discussions always operate on the premise that women have all the options and some schmuck is lucky one picked him?

Because think of the people you know who are single at 40 - there are plenty of higher caliber women single at 40 than men. The men still single at 40 all seem to be losers.

Everyone I know who got to their 40's, whether male or female, and is still single has at least one personality or character flaw that explains why they never married. Being divorced is one thing. Never married? If I found myself back in the dating pool again, I would avoid never-married women.

That's such a blanket statement. I'm late 30s/female and never married because my fiance died in an accident. In a relationship but will leave him.

You have to acknowledge that your situation is very abnormal and most people unmarried by late 30s have serious problems in either the mental department or the looks department

The only “serious problem” I have is that I enjoy my own company more than I’ve ever enjoyed being in a relationship. I’m certainly not going to marry someone just to placate a bunch of random people online.

That is a serious problem sweetie, it's called malignant narcissism

WTF. Why on earth do you think romantic relationships are important enough that it's better to be in a bad one than not one at all? Do you have childhood trauma or something?

-NP, and I'm married.

I think when someone "enjoys their own company" more than anyone they have ever met, that person has a few issues

You are being deliberately obtuse. She prefers her own company to a bad boyfriend. She doesn’t say she has no close friendships or other relationships.

This is another thing some people can’t fathom: many women have deep friendships that meet many of the same emotional needs men get from marriage. I am happily married but also have female friends that provide incredible support and happiness. I am very close to my sister and bother as well. If my husband died or left me, I would be very surprised if I was interested in dating at all, and I certainly wouldn’t need financial support from a man. (Mid 50s).

[Anonymous]

This article doesn't seem to make sense. They are saying that 60% of men are single and 30% of women are single. So doesn't that mean that the men are dating multiple women?

[Anonymous]

Most women have dated older for a long time. This is not news

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This article doesn't seem to make sense. They are saying that 60% of men are single and 30% of women are single. So doesn't that mean that the men are dating multiple women?

Did you read the thread? Even the first page?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women have dated older for a long time. This is not news

Haha no. Read the article. Average age of marriage is very close. I suppose there could be millions of 25 year old women dating 40 year olds for no apparent reason whatsoever since there are tons of young attractive single guys and then not marrying them, but I doubt it. If anything, women are dating younger now than they ever have before because they don’t need the money and status that an older guy can bring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This article doesn't seem to make sense. They are saying that 60% of men are single and 30% of women are single. So doesn't that mean that the men are dating multiple women?

Did you read the thread? Even the first page?

Nope. Too busy darlin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do these discussions always operate on the premise that women have all the options and some schmuck is lucky one picked him?

Because think of the people you know who are single at 40 - there are plenty of higher caliber women single at 40 than men. The men still single at 40 all seem to be losers.

Everyone I know who got to their 40's, whether male or female, and is still single has at least one personality or character flaw that explains why they never married. Being divorced is one thing. Never married? If I found myself back in the dating pool again, I would avoid never-married women.

That's such a blanket statement. I'm late 30s/female and never married because my fiance died in an accident. In a relationship but will leave him.

You have to acknowledge that your situation is very abnormal and most people unmarried by late 30s have serious problems in either the mental department or the looks department

The only “serious problem” I have is that I enjoy my own company more than I’ve ever enjoyed being in a relationship. I’m certainly not going to marry someone just to placate a bunch of random people online.

That is a serious problem sweetie, it's called malignant narcissism

WTF. Why on earth do you think romantic relationships are important enough that it's better to be in a bad one than not one at all? Do you have childhood trauma or something?

-NP, and I'm married.

I think when someone "enjoys their own company" more than anyone they have ever met, that person has a few issues

Ah, here is the problem. You are trying to respond to things that nobody said. PP didn't say she enjoys her own company more than *anyone she has every met*, she said she enjoys her own company more than she has ever enjoyed being in a relationship.

Often the way we read statements reveals more about us than it does the other person, so maybe ask yourself what your misinterpretation of PP's comment says about you.

I think given that the context of the thread is relationships, I clearly meant anyone she has ever met romantically. And I stand my ground on the assertion that she has psychological problems

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do these discussions always operate on the premise that women have all the options and some schmuck is lucky one picked him?

Because think of the people you know who are single at 40 - there are plenty of higher caliber women single at 40 than men. The men still single at 40 all seem to be losers.

Everyone I know who got to their 40's, whether male or female, and is still single has at least one personality or character flaw that explains why they never married. Being divorced is one thing. Never married? If I found myself back in the dating pool again, I would avoid never-married women.

That's such a blanket statement. I'm late 30s/female and never married because my fiance died in an accident. In a relationship but will leave him.

You have to acknowledge that your situation is very abnormal and most people unmarried by late 30s have serious problems in either the mental department or the looks department

The only “serious problem” I have is that I enjoy my own company more than I’ve ever enjoyed being in a relationship. I’m certainly not going to marry someone just to placate a bunch of random people online.

That is a serious problem sweetie, it's called malignant narcissism

WTF. Why on earth do you think romantic relationships are important enough that it's better to be in a bad one than not one at all? Do you have childhood trauma or something?

-NP, and I'm married.

I think when someone "enjoys their own company" more than anyone they have ever met, that person has a few issues

Ah, here is the problem. You are trying to respond to things that nobody said. PP didn't say she enjoys her own company more than *anyone she has every met*, she said she enjoys her own company more than she has ever enjoyed being in a relationship.

Often the way we read statements reveals more about us than it does the other person, so maybe ask yourself what your misinterpretation of PP's comment says about you.

I think given that the context of the thread is relationships, I clearly meant anyone she has ever met romantically. And I stand my ground on the assertion that she has psychological problems

I would never think that “anyone you’ve ever met” means “anyone you’ve ever been in a romantic relationship with,” regardless of the context. I think you’re backtracking. As for her having psychological problems, you sound a bit off yourself so she will have an easy time dismissing your assertions about her mental health.

[Anonymous]

Guess they better legalize prostitution.

[Anonymous]

The sex ratio is slightly over 50% female. How could 'most' young women be not single while most young men are single if there are more females than males?

It's basic math. That either means it's a bunch of BS, young women are dating older men, or a fraction of women become lesbians. The latter two would imply a cohort of women that must be more single as well. Probably older women, because the younger ones are taking older guys if we believe the headline. Maybe the younger single guys can start dating the silver foxes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, we've moved from "what about the boys?" to "what about the men?"

Men just need to nut up. This is pathetic.

This type of talk is really toxic and why so many are starting to listen to people like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson.

No, “so many are starting to listen to people like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson” because they’re stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, we've moved from "what about the boys?" to "what about the men?"

Men just need to nut up. This is pathetic.

This is the way! More of this!

Enjoy having your rights stripped away by men being told to nut up into toxic masculinity and vote for f'ing fascists.

If they vote for fascists, that’s on them. Nobody made them do anything. Maybe take some ownership of their own choices for a change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS university is 56% female, 44% male. According to DS, there’s an anonymous, school specific social platform where girls complain that the guys on campus don’t approach. He admits they don’t because they feel like creepers, an overused term used on social media. He connected a girl [friend] with his roommate, and they are now in a relationship. DS college sophomore (19) is in a very new situationship with a high school senior (18). They met in a traditional setting over the summer. She visited him on campus. We haven’t met her, but he told me yesterday that she suggested they take DH and me to dinner over winter break. I like her already. He also called his cousin who is getting married this spring to add her as his plus one 🙃. She’s been accepted to a few colleges (for civil engineering) in same city as DS. I sound like a creeper, but I’m not. He told me!

The bolded is an increasingly loud chorus. But what they really mean is that guys they find attractive don't approach them and the rest are creepers. And that men are supposed to just know ex-ante which category they fall into and/or assume the risk of a Title IX complaint if they take the initiative but make one wrong move.

Women don't want to have to do anything that falls mildly outside of their comfort zones, but still want to reap all of the rewards.

Young men have been neutered in so many ways. A true cluster.

Oh, men are such poor babies. Cry more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single motherhood has exploded.

This is...not a good thing.

It’s great. Women are tired of men not being good partners who actually help out around the house.

Yikes...have you seen the outcomes for kids that come from single mother households? They're horrible. Even worse than kids from single father households.

What is your alternative?

Idk...maybe a nuclear family?

An overwhelming number of women clearly disagree. It should be telling that they’d rather raise kids alone than with today’s men. Women have spoken. You cannot force us to marry.

Society will enjoy your trainwreck kids. You go girl!

Oh, blow your 1950s ignorant nonsense out your ear.