Do men really not care about a woman’s career?

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, she is more of a billionaire socialite from what I see in on my newsfeed.

Still found time to have cases before the UN last year but cool, he “doesn’t care” about her career. That’s why he brags about it. That’s why he didn’t marry all of the actresses he dated.

It’s similar to marrying someone from Harvard and then her scaling way back or becoming a SAHM. That’s a social status marker. Again, it doesn’t matter what the woman does after marriage. In the past the woman’s family was a marker of good social status, now it’s education and prior experience. What comes after is negligible. Amal Clooney is not working 100 hour weeks like every other law partner out there.

She doesn’t work 100 hours is not the same as her husband doesn’t care what she does. He married her in no small part because of what she does.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if a woman doesn't need or want a career, its not a choice anymore.

1. It make you social outcast.
2. No marriage is divorce proof so its an insurance policy you may need at minute.
3. You are made to believe that your worth is tied to a job, even if menial and unfulfilling.
4. Staying home with kids isn't everyone's cup of tea. In a job you get to dress up, socialize and get a break from kids.

Obviously multimillionaires and billionaires doesn't care, minions does.

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, she is more of a billionaire socialite from what I see in on my newsfeed.

Still found time to have cases before the UN last year but cool, he “doesn’t care” about her career. That’s why he brags about it. That’s why he didn’t marry all of the actresses he dated.

It’s similar to marrying someone from Harvard and then her scaling way back or becoming a SAHM. That’s a social status marker. Again, it doesn’t matter what the woman does after marriage. In the past the woman’s family was a marker of good social status, now it’s education and prior experience. What comes after is negligible. Amal Clooney is not working 100 hour weeks like every other law partner out there.

She doesn’t work 100 hours is not the same as her husband doesn’t care what she does. He married her in no small part because of what she does.

He got tired of the bimbos. He was looking for a smart, hard working woman to procreate and settle down with.

Leo keeps dating the bimbos.

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though.

What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no.

Funny because both the founder of Facebook and George Clooney both speak publically about how important their wives careers are. They’d be surprised to find out some random internet man considers that a mark of low-income.

Clooney in particular had a fairly wide selection of attractive partners before marrying a human rights lawyer…

DP oh okay. Clooney could careless about his wife’s career. He is just being nice. You really think George Clooney is checking his wife’s calendar when he wants to go to Cannes film festival or take off to the Seychelles for a month? No. She is now the “cofounder” of Clooney Foundation for Justice. How often do you think she shows up at the foundation?

In 2017 he sold his tequila company for 1 billion dollars. If Amal brought in 800k a year it would be a rounding error and she would have to work 80 hour weeks because she is a lawyer. No she does nit have a meaningful career other then George Clooney wife.

She is coming from old and a lot of money. He married up and very well.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if a woman doesn't need or want a career, its not a choice anymore.

1. It make you social outcast.
2. No marriage is divorce proof so its an insurance policy you may need at minute.
3. You are made to believe that your worth is tied to a job, even if menial and unfulfilling.
4. Staying home with kids isn't everyone's cup of tea. In a job you get to dress up, socialize and get a break from kids.

Obviously multimillionaires and billionaires doesn't care, minions does.

And this is definitely applies to you, a GS-13 who can't even spell and lives in a townhouse in Centerville or Gaithersburg.

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though.

What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no.

Funny because both the founder of Facebook and George Clooney both speak publically about how important their wives careers are. They’d be surprised to find out some random internet man considers that a mark of low-income.

Clooney in particular had a fairly wide selection of attractive partners before marrying a human rights lawyer…

DP oh okay. Clooney could careless about his wife’s career. He is just being nice. You really think George Clooney is checking his wife’s calendar when he wants to go to Cannes film festival or take off to the Seychelles for a month? No. She is now the “cofounder” of Clooney Foundation for Justice. How often do you think she shows up at the foundation?

In 2017 he sold his tequila company for 1 billion dollars. If Amal brought in 800k a year it would be a rounding error and she would have to work 80 hour weeks because she is a lawyer. No she does nit have a meaningful career other then George Clooney wife.

She is coming from old and a lot of money. He married up and very well.

He completely cares if you know about his dad too. They are activists. George has always had political interests. It makes sense he was attracted to a woman with such brains, clout and prestige. And, yes, he knew he wanted kids. He wanted them to be intelligent. He wasn’t going to marry a dummy.

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

Only a poor dumb idiot would think that. We're both trust funders, we both make a lot of money and there's never enough money. More money is ALWAYS better. If you're happy with your plywood cabinets and can't tell the difference between a $40 print and great original art, of course crumbs are fine enough for you. This is always the case with people who grew up poor or low income; their view of a what it means to have a good life is very limited.

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, she is more of a billionaire socialite from what I see in on my newsfeed.

Still found time to have cases before the UN last year but cool, he “doesn’t care” about her career. That’s why he brags about it. That’s why he didn’t marry all of the actresses he dated.

It’s similar to marrying someone from Harvard and then her scaling way back or becoming a SAHM. That’s a social status marker. Again, it doesn’t matter what the woman does after marriage. In the past the woman’s family was a marker of good social status, now it’s education and prior experience. What comes after is negligible. Amal Clooney is not working 100 hour weeks like every other law partner out there.

She doesn’t work 100 hours is not the same as her husband doesn’t care what she does. He married her in no small part because of what she does.

He got tired of the bimbos. He was looking for a smart, hard working woman to procreate and settle down with.

Leo keeps dating the bimbos.

+1

He’s a smart guy. He wants to be intellectually challenged too. He’s said as much. Many successful men are like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

Only a poor dumb idiot would think that. We're both trust funders, we both make a lot of money and there's never enough money. More money is ALWAYS better. If you're happy with your plywood cabinets and can't tell the difference between a $40 print and great original art, of course crumbs are fine enough for you. This is always the case with people who grew up poor or low income; their view of a what it means to have a good life is very limited.

Sure, but when you have a lot of money, someone else always has more and then you are never happy.

So is more money ALWAYS better, or does it just make you want more/finer things?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, she is more of a billionaire socialite from what I see in on my newsfeed.

Still found time to have cases before the UN last year but cool, he “doesn’t care” about her career. That’s why he brags about it. That’s why he didn’t marry all of the actresses he dated.

It’s similar to marrying someone from Harvard and then her scaling way back or becoming a SAHM. That’s a social status marker. Again, it doesn’t matter what the woman does after marriage. In the past the woman’s family was a marker of good social status, now it’s education and prior experience. What comes after is negligible. Amal Clooney is not working 100 hour weeks like every other law partner out there.

She doesn’t work 100 hours is not the same as her husband doesn’t care what she does. He married her in no small part because of what she does.

He got tired of the bimbos. He was looking for a smart, hard working woman to procreate and settle down with.

Leo keeps dating the bimbos.

+1

He’s a smart guy. He wants to be intellectually challenged too. He’s said as much. Many successful men are like this.

Leo hires his girlfriends. He has a long term roommate (housemate?).

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

Only a poor dumb idiot would think that. We're both trust funders, we both make a lot of money and there's never enough money. More money is ALWAYS better. If you're happy with your plywood cabinets and can't tell the difference between a $40 print and great original art, of course crumbs are fine enough for you. This is always the case with people who grew up poor or low income; their view of a what it means to have a good life is very limited.

You have deeper psychological problems than worrying about who successful men want to marry when you lose sight of other priorities that a good life consist of such as health, mental well being, and happiness with your family. So your motto is keep working till you drop for that one more dollar? That’s a sad life.

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

There isn’t rich enough for me to give up my career, I love what I do. I would quickly give up a husband who didn’t support it, though.

What you don’t understand is at that high income level your husband supports whatever you want. You want to work, great. You want to do a hobby, great. You want to spend time with your children, great. But does he care what you do as long as you guys get along, no.

Funny because both the founder of Facebook and George Clooney both speak publically about how important their wives careers are. They’d be surprised to find out some random internet man considers that a mark of low-income.

Clooney in particular had a fairly wide selection of attractive partners before marrying a human rights lawyer…

DP oh okay. Clooney could careless about his wife’s career. He is just being nice. You really think George Clooney is checking his wife’s calendar when he wants to go to Cannes film festival or take off to the Seychelles for a month? No. She is now the “cofounder” of Clooney Foundation for Justice. How often do you think she shows up at the foundation?

In 2017 he sold his tequila company for 1 billion dollars. If Amal brought in 800k a year it would be a rounding error and she would have to work 80 hour weeks because she is a lawyer. No she does nit have a meaningful career other then George Clooney wife.

She is coming from old and a lot of money. He married up and very well.

He completely cares if you know about his dad too. They are activists. George has always had political interests. It makes sense he was attracted to a woman with such brains, clout and prestige. And, yes, he knew he wanted kids. He wanted them to be intelligent. He wasn’t going to marry a dummy.

Not marrying a dummy does not equate do men care about careers. Don’t conflate education and brains with “big” jobs that are usually soul sucking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At this point, she is more of a billionaire socialite from what I see in on my newsfeed.

Still found time to have cases before the UN last year but cool, he “doesn’t care” about her career. That’s why he brags about it. That’s why he didn’t marry all of the actresses he dated.

It’s similar to marrying someone from Harvard and then her scaling way back or becoming a SAHM. That’s a social status marker. Again, it doesn’t matter what the woman does after marriage. In the past the woman’s family was a marker of good social status, now it’s education and prior experience. What comes after is negligible. Amal Clooney is not working 100 hour weeks like every other law partner out there.

She doesn’t work 100 hours is not the same as her husband doesn’t care what she does. He married her in no small part because of what she does.

What the woman does before marriage and after marriage is wildly different. It has been explained over and over again in this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Combined HHI is around $700k. My husband isn’t going to live a $450K lifestyle just for the privilege of “not caring” about my career. Adequate HHI means outsourcing a lot of the points of tension in a dual-income relationship.

Sure..but your husband isn't high income..enough. Most couples fall in the middle and need dual incoms to live a "$700 K lifestyle". In that case, a woman's career matters. If your DH made 700K by himself this wouldn't matter.

Unless he or the family wanted to live a $950K lifestyle. It’s all about how people want to live. Even in DC there are people who make it work on $450k if that’s how they want to live.

Sure there’s lifestyle creep, but at a certain point if a family is comfortable priorities switch to other things rather than money. Private school is going to be a stretch still at $450k for two kids unless you want to cut back on other umc luxuries like travel.

Which still concludes that at the top 2% by income for the country, men care about women's careers.

Sorry you didn't marry rich enough.

Only a poor dumb idiot would think that. We're both trust funders, we both make a lot of money and there's never enough money. More money is ALWAYS better. If you're happy with your plywood cabinets and can't tell the difference between a $40 print and great original art, of course crumbs are fine enough for you. This is always the case with people who grew up poor or low income; their view of a what it means to have a good life is very limited.

Sure, but when you have a lot of money, someone else always has more and then you are never happy.

So is more money ALWAYS better, or does it just make you want more/finer things?

I'm very happy with my life but I'm coming from $$ and we've always been told to hoard them. More $$ is always better, although I wouldn't say no to a painting by Adrian Ghenie. My BFF from college is from a NY family who inherited over 150 million from her grand grand father and it will buy security for at least her grand grandkids. She works for a tech company in California BTW.

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Another elephant in the room: George Clooney married a woman 16 years younger than him. Not exactly age appropriate in this dcum gender egalitarian utopia is it.