Jen Hatmaker
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Anonymous
| Weird dynamics in a middle aged white woman who is clearly still wrecked by the public demise of a long marriage that defined her rushing into a relationship with a gay black man of color quickly and publicly while telling us all to wait and heal and “do the work”. I can’t imagine why. |
Anonymous
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Ok if it’s obvious to us Tyler is gay on the down low then why aren’t any of her friends and family lovingly pointing this out to her? Perhaps they have and she thinks if he’s having sex with her then he must be straight. Please someone tell her about the countless gay men married to women while hooking up on the down low with men. What was Tyler doing with his sex those 13 years he wasn’t in a relationship? Hook ups, porn, celibacy? He has clearly gotten his emotional needs met by his white female bff all these years. A relationship he made clear to Jen he would be maintaining regardless of their romance. The red flags abound. He alluded to his bff not taking his romance with Jen well but accepting it because essentially he rarely sees Jen except for occasional weekends and vacations. Sounds like he’s getting his cake and eating it too.
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Anonymous
| What gets me is Jen never says just my boyfriend. She always has to make the point that her boyfriend a 6 foot black man with dreads. |
Anonymous
He’s like an actor from a call sheet at central casting. Looking for sassy 6’ tall black man with dreads for suss boyfriend role to recently divorced white lady. |
Anonymous
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I thought Tyler was gay at first, but now I think asexual/truly happy as a single man. He sounds like an anthropologist during this interview, like he's observing the habits of Jen and being in a relationship not actually in a relationship.
I wish they had answered a question about where they see this relationship in 5 years. I don't think Jen can comprehend the purpose of a relationship that doesn't result in marriage (or some version of committed, cohabitation). I don't think she'll be happy with the long distance thing forever and I don't think there's any desire from Tyler to be anything more. I'm sure Tyler has expressed as much and Jen's just lying to herself that either a) she can change him or b) she'll be totes fine staying long distance. I wish her friends/therapist had encouraged her to keep their relationship offline and not put it out there for public consumption. It would have given her the freedom to really listen to herself and her gut when it comes to relationships without inviting everyone's opinions (the good and the bad) into her mind. |
Anonymous
That is really spot-on.. The detachment is kind of worrying. Jen is probably surrounded by folks telling her to "just have fun" with this relationship. But it seems like they have already had some kind of couples therapy already? Or do they just talk like they have? Why does it seem like this is so much work? Gotta give them credit for this- at the end of the episode ( I managed to listen to the whole thing while cleaning my kitchen) they said, hey, if you stuck around this long, then you are our people. But there were little things in the episode-how they disagreed on things- that really shouldn't be there in this "honeymoon" phase. Also, didn't Jen's bestie Kristen H. inform her followers that you can't call them "dreads" anymore? It's "locs." |
Anonymous
| Jen’s new relationship sounds exhausting. Why would any sane person put a new romance in the public eye like this? |
Anonymous
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A couple of months ago Jen was on Glennon’s podcast and both of them laughed at and mocked the notion of Christian women not trusting their hearts due to the warning in Scripture about the heart being deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked. They just thought it was hilariously sad that anyone would be swayed by this.
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Anonymous
| Interesting that Tyler has not posted anything about the podcast on his insta. |
Anonymous
| So I've read through all 250+ pages of this thread and I'm still confused about the friend Meg. For a long time, all Jen spoke about was Jenny and Shonna and then all of a sudden this new person Meg is inserted as if they've all been BFF forever. What's the deal? |
Anonymous
| Jen posted a top view/video of the cookbook and it's hard to tell, but it looks really thin. How many recipes are in this thing? Another reason to not pre-order these things. |
Anonymous
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Is •doing the work• of addressing ones past relationship trauma and healing from a broken marriage immediately glomming into a new relationship and then doing couples therapy sessions together all over the socials?
Jen holds herself up as some sort of wise sage figure with all the answers but her relationship decisions are ridiculous. |
Anonymous
You have no idea what her friends have or have not done. They probably know it's a publicity stunt. She's her own person who makes her own decisions. |
Anonymous
Because she is doing it for click bait. Why do you think she needs to keep reminding us he is black? They are using eachother. |
Anonymous
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Because she is doing it for click bait. Why do you think she needs to keep reminding us he is black? They are using eachother. The cynic in me agrees with this. I can’t think of any other reason why anyone would post about a junior high romance that’s going nowhere. If true, I feel bad for the women who legitimately follow her and are actually seeking relationship advice. |