Style choices that age women in their 40s

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

That’s when witches achieve invisibility.

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

That’s when witches achieve invisibility.

I have managed to avoid the extra pounds so far, but I stopped coloring my hair, and I have definitely achieved invisibility.

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

That’s when witches achieve invisibility.

I have managed to avoid the extra pounds so far, but I stopped coloring my hair, and I have definitely achieved invisibility.

I need a spin off of The Boys but the premise is:

Menopausal women discover they can do magic and have actual invisibility, and struggle to use their powers for good and/or not be corrupted.

The Boys meets Hollow Man meets Book Club.

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

That’s when witches achieve invisibility.

I have managed to avoid the extra pounds so far, but I stopped coloring my hair, and I have definitely achieved invisibility.

I need a spin off of The Boys but the premise is:

Menopausal women discover they can do magic and have actual invisibility, and struggle to use their powers for good and/or not be corrupted.

The Boys meets Hollow Man meets Book Club.

That book exists! It's called The Change, by Kirsten Miller

[Anonymous]

This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

The last sentence is an exaggeration. I agree that I have put on about 10 lbs over the past 5 years due to menopause, and that I don't look as good as I once did. I also have more wrinkles near my eyes. Men definitely don't hit on me any more. But no one has ever thought I was my child's grandma, and I cannot recall anyone calling me ma'am.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of floral patterns.

Clothes that don’t fit properly.

I have been working in London recently and a lot of the female associates and leadership in our London offices are wearing loose fitting floral dresses. Don't see how that is age related.

That's just terrible frumpy British fashion.

I don't think you've been to London or seen these women. I thought they looked great!

I work for a British company and have been to London plenty. It’s just an old-fashioned British thing. Like chintz sofas, if you like it, you like it. But it’s undeniably not modern. And these women wear it all their lives, from 20-80.

Who decides what is modern and what is acceptable fashion? After all, I look around the modern US landscape and see too many overweight women wearing too tight clothes and hate the trend for multiple tattoos overly exposed (on often flabby white calves). Is that modern? I daresay you don't care for the loose floral look that is popular in Britain but let's put it this way, those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. And, as it is, London is one of the handful of genuinely international cities, an actual design center and a major shopping destination for fashion, and would you like to have a frank discussion comparing London to the fashions of, say, DC?

How’s it going, PP? Are you feeling a little itchy? How’s your tongue, is it working normally? It’s probably just a rash, maybe something you ate, nothing to do with old, fat American witches.

What? Or are you saying something insensible because you can't logically respond to a valid argument?

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

That’s when witches achieve invisibility.

I have managed to avoid the extra pounds so far, but I stopped coloring my hair, and I have definitely achieved invisibility.

I need a spin off of The Boys but the premise is:

Menopausal women discover they can do magic and have actual invisibility, and struggle to use their powers for good and/or not be corrupted.

The Boys meets Hollow Man meets Book Club.

That book exists! It's called The Change, by Kirsten Miller

Oooo!

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of floral patterns.

Clothes that don’t fit properly.

I have been working in London recently and a lot of the female associates and leadership in our London offices are wearing loose fitting floral dresses. Don't see how that is age related.

That's just terrible frumpy British fashion.

I don't think you've been to London or seen these women. I thought they looked great!

I work for a British company and have been to London plenty. It’s just an old-fashioned British thing. Like chintz sofas, if you like it, you like it. But it’s undeniably not modern. And these women wear it all their lives, from 20-80.

Who decides what is modern and what is acceptable fashion? After all, I look around the modern US landscape and see too many overweight women wearing too tight clothes and hate the trend for multiple tattoos overly exposed (on often flabby white calves). Is that modern? I daresay you don't care for the loose floral look that is popular in Britain but let's put it this way, those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. And, as it is, London is one of the handful of genuinely international cities, an actual design center and a major shopping destination for fashion, and would you like to have a frank discussion comparing London to the fashions of, say, DC?

How’s it going, PP? Are you feeling a little itchy? How’s your tongue, is it working normally? It’s probably just a rash, maybe something you ate, nothing to do with old, fat American witches.

What? Or are you saying something insensible because you can't logically respond to a valid argument?

Sadly, we can't magic you a sense of humor. If we could, all our spouses would be funnier.

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a lot of people in this thread who feel bad that they don’t look good in skinny jeans and they’re mad at the women who do.

Really, people just need to wear what looks good on them. Let’s stop with telling people that this item makes you look old and that item makes you look out of style. If you’re over 40, you should be old enough to know what is flattering for you and not care what other people think or what other people wear. We’re old enough to stop chasing the latest thing and we are old enough to wear what we like.

Actually there are a number of people who are deluded in that they think skinny jeans look good on them. They only look good if you are 5’11” and 120 pounds. I have never seen anyone with a more average body who they flattered.

I think you have it backwards. For curvy girls, skinny jeans are the best style for you but they need to be high waisted and a darker denim.

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Anonymous wrote:Someone here pointed out that after your 20s, larger breasts age you. It's hard to explain how, but when I tried on a shirt with a padded pushup bra and a regular light bra, the extra boob size definitely made me look older. It's subtle but there was a difference. So throw out the miracle bras or, if you're bustier, go for a smoothing sports bra style.

I know people are upset about this one, but it's true. I think people are upset because they know it's true. Very large breasts look matronly after a certain age. The word "bosom" comes to mind.

It's a trade off. Women who get a lot of attention for their boobs in their youth wind up looking grandmotherly faster because of those boobs. Women who with small boobs get to look youthful a little longer. I feel like it kind of balances out in the end.

It's 100% true. Hate all you want, but my breast reduction made me look younger and skinnier. I had no idea how much bulk and frumpiness they added until they were gone. Perimenopause is making them grow again and I can't wait to go in to get them knocked off a second time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

Hi hon! Be obese! I started to be ma’amed and invisible at 35! Things are, indeed, real for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh this is so easy. Anyone who was wearing skinny jeans is exactly 40 or older!

Let’s face it, those wide legged pants are a trick the fashion industry is playing on younger women. They are not attractive on most people and are firmly in the category of clothes they will laugh about when they see pictures of themselves decades from now.

I’ll stick with my flattering skinny jeans, thank you very much. I like them, they’re comfortable, and my husband likes the way I look in them. The nice thing about being older is that when you find something that works for you, you have the confidence to stick with it. You no longer need to constantly look for and wear the latest thing, which may or may not work for your particular body.

Nah, I’m Gen X and have never thought skinny jeans looked good. They emphasize the difference between the widest and the narrowest part of you. If you have any hips or thighs at all they are not very flattering.

Hello, it’s your friendly forum plus size lady. I ended up wearing the damn things because that was all that was available in my size. What fun!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This doesn't get real until your 50s when menopause put 10-15 pounds on you overnight, and your pants suddenly no longer fit. You're fasting, eating right, and working out. And the employees at clothing stores call you ma'am or think that you are your child's grandma.

Shit isn't real for you yet, kids. It's coming, tho. In a few, short years. Thanks for the laughs tho!

Hi hon! Be obese! I started to be ma’amed and invisible at 35! Things are, indeed, real for me.

I like being ma’amed tbh.

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I’m 5’6, 115lbs and 44 and get ma’amed quite a bit.

So much better than “honey” I used to get in my 20s and 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:Lots of floral patterns.

Clothes that don’t fit properly.

I have been working in London recently and a lot of the female associates and leadership in our London offices are wearing loose fitting floral dresses. Don't see how that is age related.

That's just terrible frumpy British fashion.

I don't think you've been to London or seen these women. I thought they looked great!

I work for a British company and have been to London plenty. It’s just an old-fashioned British thing. Like chintz sofas, if you like it, you like it. But it’s undeniably not modern. And these women wear it all their lives, from 20-80.

Who decides what is modern and what is acceptable fashion? After all, I look around the modern US landscape and see too many overweight women wearing too tight clothes and hate the trend for multiple tattoos overly exposed (on often flabby white calves). Is that modern? I daresay you don't care for the loose floral look that is popular in Britain but let's put it this way, those who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. And, as it is, London is one of the handful of genuinely international cities, an actual design center and a major shopping destination for fashion, and would you like to have a frank discussion comparing London to the fashions of, say, DC?

How’s it going, PP? Are you feeling a little itchy? How’s your tongue, is it working normally? It’s probably just a rash, maybe something you ate, nothing to do with old, fat American witches.

What? Or are you saying something insensible because you can't logically respond to a valid argument?

Sadly, we can't magic you a sense of humor. If we could, all our spouses would be funnier.

Are you the same/solo witch poster throughout this thread? Because if so, you really need to start writing a book! You already have many fans!