Do you get envious of women in happy marriages?
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Anonymous
| I do |
Anonymous
Well, we are happy but dirt poor, if that helps. 
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Anonymous
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yes, I do as well.
Sometimes when my husband and I have one of our "disagreements" we'll end up having to go out with others, and we pretend nothing is wrong. I have two thoughts - how many other people here are pretending they are happily married? OR, why am I the only one here pretending I am happily married? Why can't we have what THEY have. It's a lonely feeling. |
Anonymous
BINGO! |
Anonymous
| I am happily married, no pretending here. I consider myself truly, truly lucky. Eight years now. |
Anonymous
same here, but 5 years. |
Anonymous
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I am unbelievably happily married. No pretending here either! In fact I think I downplay our happiness since all my friends aren't so happily married. No one wants to be the downer at happy hour when all their friends are whining about their lazy husbands!
I thank my lucky stars daily that my DH is amazing and such a hard worker, cleaner, cook, etc. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| We are happily married and never had to pretend to be. There is nothing my husband won't do for me, nothing I won't do for him. |
Anonymous
+2 |
Anonymous
Why are you and your husband not happily married? Do you not communicate well with each other? Are there financial issues? What happened? |
Anonymous
+3 |
Anonymous
| You never know what's really happening behind closed doors OP. I'm happily married but we all have our moments. |
Anonymous
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I am very happily married and like a PP, try to keep mum about it for the most part since many of my friends are unhappily married. They do notice the lack of tension, though, and the overall happiness and frequently comment about how they wish their marriage was that great.
On the flip side, there are qualities I see in other husbands that I wish my husband had (i.e., more outgoing and flirtatious with me). Honestly, I have found that the ones who are very vocal about their happy relationship are either 1) In a pretty new relationship or their first "real" relationship, or 2) Are actually quite unhappy. |
Anonymous
+1 Though I am heartbroken that my BIL and SIL are separating. She called on Sunday to ask my thoughts on how to make things better. They are great people, but both are unhappily married. My tips for happiness- - don't try to change the person/accept him or her faults and all - let things go. Do not let minor issues turn into major issues - do not be passive aggressive. Say what you mean, mean what you say - be kind. Name calling, trying to discuss things while angry or any kind of abuse is never acceptable. - be emotionally and physically present each day (even traveling spouses can be present via text, email or webchat) - if you forgive, make sure you don't hold the issue over his/her head. No one deserves to have a mistake thrown in their face for the rest of their life. - also accept that some people are not meant to be married. You cannot force puzzle pieces to fit together. |