Advice me please, should i search room?

[Anonymous]

My DS (17) was exhibiting some odd behavior recently so I felt it warranted a room search where I found pot, a bong, and a lighter. We dealt with that issue and I am no longer seeing that odd behavior, but since he broke my trust I am debating doing another room search. I don't want him to hate me for always searching his room but if he is still doing pot I want to know so we deal with it.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your gut is telling you you should. Don't worry about him "hating" you. Be the parent, not the friend.

Explain to him that because he's broken your trust you may search his room/car/locker whatever from time to time because that is your job as the parent. Then do so.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like your gut is telling you you should. Don't worry about him "hating" you. Be the parent, not the friend.

Explain to him that because he's broken your trust you may search his room/car/locker whatever from time to time because that is your job as the parent. Then do so.

+1

[Anonymous]

Of course. He gave up all reasonable expectations of privacy when he brought pot in to your house.

[Anonymous]

Call the police.
Tell them you suspect illegal drugs are in your home and you want to scare the begeezus out of your kid. Have SWAT come bust in at 2am and see if that straightens him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the police.
Tell them you suspect illegal drugs are in your home and you want to scare the begeezus out of your kid. Have SWAT come bust in at 2am and see if that straightens him out.

What a fantastic use of resources. I'm sure there's nothing else the cops could be doing.

[Anonymous]

I shook down my boys regularly. I could care less how they felt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the police.
Tell them you suspect illegal drugs are in your home and you want to scare the begeezus out of your kid. Have SWAT come bust in at 2am and see if that straightens him out.

I can just imagine them busting through OP's windows at 2 am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Call the police.
Tell them you suspect illegal drugs are in your home and you want to scare the begeezus out of your kid. Have SWAT come bust in at 2am and see if that straightens him out.

I can just imagine them busting through OP's windows at 2 am.

I'm imagining how quickly this could go very wrong. It would make for a great Modern Family skit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course. He gave up all reasonable expectations of privacy when he brought pot in to your house.

+1

[Anonymous]

Are u the parent or not? That was not even a question when I was growing up; no options were given, just do it.

[Anonymous]

I'm not even reading your initial post, OP--if your gut ever tells you to search a room, do it. There's no right to privacy in your house, and you are doing it for their well-being.

[Anonymous]

just send him to University of Colorado at Boulder. Beautiful campus and legal pot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like your gut is telling you you should. Don't worry about him "hating" you. Be the parent, not the friend.

Explain to him that because he's broken your trust you may search his room/car/locker whatever from time to time because that is your job as the parent. Then do so.

+1

++ I agree.