Putting older kids up for adoption

[Anonymous]

How common is this? Is it looked down upon. I'm talking about age 6 months. After raising a baby for a while and deciding to then put up for adoption, what do you think?

[Anonymous]

Is this your baby? Without more information, it's impossible to tell what is best for the baby.

[Anonymous]

go pour yourself a drink

[Anonymous]

It depends on the reason the parents are putting the baby up for adoption. If it is for financial reasons, because they can no longer care for the baby due to some illness, and something along those lines, I would feel so sorry for them.

If they just decided it is too much for them to care for a baby (maybe teenager parents who decided to give it a try?), I respect their decision to try what is best for baby and them.

If it is an older, financially and emotionally stable couple who just decided it was not what they thought it would be, I would think they are shitty human beings and would look down on them.

[Anonymous]

Not as common, but it happens. For some birthparents, its a positive to give them the opportunity to parent to know they are making the right choice.

[Anonymous]

It all depends on the circumstances (ie is it possible the mom is suffering from PPD?). I had PPD and probably for the first 2 months of DS' life I kept telling DH we should have put him up for adoption. Thankfully DH got me help quickly once that talk started.

That said, if you are going to do place a kid up for adoption, it is best to do so when they are a baby

[Anonymous]

Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

PS. To answer your question, no, I would not look down on someone who did this. But do it now, not when the kid is four or five and harder to adopt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

+1 - And sooner is better than later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

PS. To answer your question, no, I would not look down on someone who did this. But do it now, not when the kid is four or five and harder to adopt.

Don't say a thing like this without knowing the circumstances! OP could be exhausted or feel inadequate or who knows what. Unless you are being a bad parent, OP, you should hang in there. You can do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

PS. To answer your question, no, I would not look down on someone who did this. But do it now, not when the kid is four or five and harder to adopt.

Many families will adopt an older child, especially 4-5. A healthy child will get adopted quickly. One with any issues, it just depends on the issues and family.

[Anonymous]

Can you even easily put a child up for adoption if the child is older than 1 month old? Can you just give up parental rights? I don't think you can… I think the State can not obligate you to raise your child, even so because it would not be in the child's best interest to be raised by someone who does not want them, so while the state can remove the child if asked, the parents still have financial obligation to support the minor, at lest until (and IF) adoptive parents are found.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

PS. To answer your question, no, I would not look down on someone who did this. But do it now, not when the kid is four or five and harder to adopt.

Many families will adopt an older child, especially 4-5. A healthy child will get adopted quickly. One with any issues, it just depends on the issues and family.

If the child had not issue before, s/he will certainly have now after being given away like a puppy by his own parents. A baby yes, a preschooler? Talk about abandonment issues….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you even easily put a child up for adoption if the child is older than 1 month old? Can you just give up parental rights? I don't think you can… I think the State can not obligate you to raise your child, even so because it would not be in the child's best interest to be raised by someone who does not want them, so while the state can remove the child if asked, the parents still have financial obligation to support the minor, at lest until (and IF) adoptive parents are found.

I think you have no idea what you are talking about. Yes, you can just give up your parental rights. Why would the state care? There are different kinds of adoption - private, agency and government/state. A parent can go to a private agency or hire an attorney and place their kid for adoption.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do what is best for the baby. If you think you can't handle or would not be a good mother, there are so many people who will be absolutely delighted to adopt a six-month-old. If that is what you want to do, do it.

PS. To answer your question, no, I would not look down on someone who did this. But do it now, not when the kid is four or five and harder to adopt.

Many families will adopt an older child, especially 4-5. A healthy child will get adopted quickly. One with any issues, it just depends on the issues and family.

If the child had not issue before, s/he will certainly have now after being given away like a puppy by his own parents. A baby yes, a preschooler? Talk about abandonment issues….

Wow, you just don't get it do you?