She cheated and I'm devastated

[Anonymous]

Tomorrow is our anniversary, and I had planned to ask her to marry me. Two hours ago I discovered, and she admitted to, cheating on me. But to her it doesn't count as cheating because she never fucked him, just emailed and texted and led him on. I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach and had my heart run through a shredder. Even now, sitting here in an empty house my heart misses her. And yet I know I will never be able to trust her again. One foot in front of the other, right? Because all I want to do is hide under the thickets blankets I can find and cry over my broken dreams of a future with her.

[Anonymous]

I am sorry you are so sad and she did break your trust, but flirting with someone through email or whatever isn't really cheating. You aren't even married to her so have taken no vows. She is single albeit in a relationship but I think you are either not telling us the whole story or making a huge deal out of something smaller. Sorry you are devastated.

[Anonymous]

Wolfie?

[Anonymous]

OP here, so sexually suggestive emails and naked pictures and making plans with someone other than your significant tore isn't cheating? Seriously? Wow. It damn sure feels like cheating to me.

[Anonymous]

how much was the ring?

[Anonymous]

It's better you found out now, even though it hurts. You will get through this and find someone who respects you and your relationship.

[Anonymous]

First of all, I am not so sure I believe that she never hooked up with him. She's probably lieing - women lie much more than men believe it or not.

Secondly, there is such things as "emotional affairs." So even if she didn't cheat physicially, it's like an emotional affair.

Ultimately, I would need to know more info about what she said to the guy. I what she said was to the effect that she misses him, wished she could be with him, wants to do x, y, z sexual things to him, etc. . , then she is just not the women for you and I would totally walk away. When you first get married, that's the best times in your relationship. So if it would go downhill from here, that's not looking too good.

I am sorry OP. Just know that I promise you, if you let her go, the women meant for you will come. She might have just been a placeholder to keep you available to marry the women meant for you in this universe that you haven't met yet. It happened to me.

[Anonymous]

PP again - excuse all the typos. My typing has either really gone downhill lately or my computer is doing some sort of weird autocorrect that is messing everything up.

[Anonymous]

Sending naked pictures would put the situation over the top for me. You really need to not call her or return messages for a while, if ever.

[Anonymous]

The guy is question is her ex, the relationship before me. Seems that while there was no physical aspect, other than a kiss, she has been contacting him while at the same time telling me how much she loves me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, so sexually suggestive emails and naked pictures and making plans with someone other than your significant tore isn't cheating? Seriously? Wow. It damn sure feels like cheating to me.

Well you didn't mention that in your op so that is why I said you may not be telling us the whole story. You only said she emailed with a guy. Naked pictures and sex-talk emails is shitty and you should be glad you found out now. People do not change that much in their core, and if she is doing that now, she would do it agin. Sorry for your heart break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here, so sexually suggestive emails and naked pictures and making plans with someone other than your significant tore isn't cheating? Seriously? Wow. It damn sure feels like cheating to me.

Well you didn't mention that in your op so that is why I said you may not be telling us the whole story. You only said she emailed with a guy. Naked pictures and sex-talk emails is shitty and you should be glad you found out now. People do not change that much in their core, and if she is doing that now, she would do it agin. Sorry for your heart break.

OP again. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

OP, consider yourself lucky you found out before you married her. You dodged a bullet, & there is someone out there for you. Take it from me, don't ignore the red flags, & that is a HELL of a red flag.

[Anonymous]

My brother met his wife while she was engaged to someone else. She maintained the two relationships for a while, and my brother married her anyway. Now they are getting a divorce because she cheated on him. No one except him was surprised. Makes me sad because they have kids, but we all saw it coming.

[Anonymous]

My brother did the same with his fiancée. She was a very nice, serious person. But unfortunately, she came to say adios to my mom, my sister and me. Things like this happens and I'm sure you will soon meet a woman who respects you.
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