Strange contacts in phone of teenager

[Anonymous]

My 10th grade son had been acting strange a few days ago, something DH and I both noticed. He has been acting kind of tired or lethargic. Being that age, I'm concerned about drugs and alcohol and what not so I checked his phone. He has a contact in there named "Jamaican Jerry" who I noticed that he called a few days ago as well. We've gone through the whole yearbook of his school and there is no kid named Jerry or anything similar. I don't want to ask him who Jamaican Jerry is because I would be admitting that I searched through his phone, but what do you make of this?

Any help appreciated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 10th grade son had been acting strange a few days ago, something DH and I both noticed. He has been acting kind of tired or lethargic. Being that age, I'm concerned about drugs and alcohol and what not so I checked his phone. He has a contact in there named "Jamaican Jerry" who I noticed that he called a few days ago as well. We've gone through the whole yearbook of his school and there is no kid named Jerry or anything similar. I don't want to ask him who Jamaican Jerry is because I would be admitting that I searched through his phone, but what do you make of this?

Any help appreciated

Guess you shouldn't have done it then, huh?

Unless you've done an exceptionally terrible job of raising your child, he can smoke a few joints and still be a good person. Calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 10th grade son had been acting strange a few days ago, something DH and I both noticed. He has been acting kind of tired or lethargic. Being that age, I'm concerned about drugs and alcohol and what not so I checked his phone. He has a contact in there named "Jamaican Jerry" who I noticed that he called a few days ago as well. We've gone through the whole yearbook of his school and there is no kid named Jerry or anything similar. I don't want to ask him who Jamaican Jerry is because I would be admitting that I searched through his phone, but what do you make of this?

Any help appreciated

Guess you shouldn't have done it then, huh?

Unless you've done an exceptionally terrible job of raising your child, he can smoke a few joints and still be a good person. Calm down.

let's avoid hippie/liberal biases here, not everyone is big on getting stoned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 10th grade son had been acting strange a few days ago, something DH and I both noticed. He has been acting kind of tired or lethargic. Being that age, I'm concerned about drugs and alcohol and what not so I checked his phone. He has a contact in there named "Jamaican Jerry" who I noticed that he called a few days ago as well. We've gone through the whole yearbook of his school and there is no kid named Jerry or anything similar. I don't want to ask him who Jamaican Jerry is because I would be admitting that I searched through his phone, but what do you make of this?

Any help appreciated

Guess you shouldn't have done it then, huh?

Unless you've done an exceptionally terrible job of raising your child, he can smoke a few joints and still be a good person. Calm down.

let's avoid hippie/liberal biases here, not everyone is big on getting stoned.

This is not a hippie/liberal bias. Aside from the fact that lots of conservative folks smoke weed too... OP's political leanings, whatever they may be, don't actually have anything to do with the choices that her son makes. It's her job to do the best job she can of raising her son, and I don't think secretly going through his phone falls under that category. If he is in danger, seems like he needs guidance, or asks for help, by all means OP, step in. But at this point, he's just a teenager experimenting the way most teenagers do.

[Anonymous]

Can you try calling the number from another phone (not a house, cell or work phone) to see if you can figure anything out?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Google the phone number

[Anonymous]

You seriously looked through the ENTIRE yearbook? OMG

[Anonymous]

Is your son G?

[Anonymous]

Your son smokes weed. Check his eyes for confirmation. Then have a big talk about buying safe drugs, and what the laws are in your state for those found in possession and what his plans are if he gets busted.

[Anonymous]

This is his dealer. Look for independent signs (red eyes) and then confront him.

I am extremely liberal and would not tolerate this. POlitics have nothing to do with this.

Its normal for kids to experiment but this sounds like he's been on a real bender so I think you should step in.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why you care if he knows you go through his phone. I check my teens' phones often. There is no expectation of privacy in this house.

[Anonymous]

But marijuana is a gateway drug.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is smoking pot. You might as well own up that you were suspicious of his behavior and now have reasons to believe that this is true. Why don't you call Jerry and see who picks up?

[Anonymous]

Get a good family therapist, OP. Just start going yourself. Someone experienced with teens. This is vital.