Strange contacts in phone of teenager
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Anonymous
| Are you serious?? You're scared to confront your kid about his possible drug usage? |
Anonymous
This is exactly why so many teens are in serious trouble. |
Anonymous
| Jamaican Jerry as a phone contact? Does not seem all that plausible, seems like a BS post. |
Anonymous
| It could be a nickname or inside joke. I have friends with nicknames that would make no sense and are not at all related to their names. |
Anonymous
| I would call Jamaican Jerry and ask if I could score a quarter ounce. A positive reply would suggest that, yes, he is a dealer. |
Anonymous
| OP, you have to talk to your son. |
Anonymous
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OP, you can buy a drug test at a drug store for under $50. Make your kid take the test.
If you don't want to do that, make an appointment with the kid's pediatrician for a drug test and go from there. |
Anonymous
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I would not have my kid take a drug test at the pediatrician office. Wouldn't the results go into his file? Would the doctor be required to report it to somebody?
You need to TALK to your kid. If his behavior is causing you to not trust him then his expectations of privacy are over. That is YOUR phone, YOUR bedroom, YOUR backpack, OP. If he actually has a drug dealer in his phone then he is the kid that the other kids get pot from. I smoked a little pot in college but I always did it with friends. I would have no idea how to contact a dealer. On the other hand, this could be a joke between friends. Maybe they were watching a movie or reading a comic about some guy named jerry and they thought he acted like a friend so your son changed his contact name in the phone. Overall, I think you and your husband sound like crazy people. You actually looked through the entire yearbook for somebody named Jerry? You need to ask your son who Jerry is. If you don't like the answer then call the number. |
Anonymous
| Cops love busting the dealers who supply drugs to high schoolers. I bet they would be interested in setting up a buy in school. |
Anonymous
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It is his weed contact. Please do not be shy about getting to the bottom of this.
A friend of mine's son is in treatment now. He spaced out and his parents discovered (at the hospital) that he had been partaking in "enhanced" weed. Well, whatever it was laced with sent him spiraling this one time. In going through his phone afterwards, they discovered a treasure trove of info about his habits and lifestyle. Go with your gut on this one OP. |
Anonymous
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OP, you seem to be more concerned about making your son mad and upset that you went through his phone than you are about the fact he is very possibly using drugs.
Please get over that. Now. If you have given your son the idea that he has privacy regarding his phone -- that was a mistake, but it's too late to fix; he needs to know now that he does not have that privacy. The lethargy etc. alone, even if you had not found "Jerry" in the phone, should have been a red flag indicating you should talk to you son. Why are you so reluctant to be the parent here? Why reluctant to offend your son? Is it because you fear he'll clam up if he knows you've gone through his phone, or because you fear he'll lash out--? Are you possibly physically afraid of him somehow, or afraid that a talk will end up confirming that he's using drugs? These questions aren't meant to be snarky, they're very real -- please think about why you are so reluctant to confront him. Then script out how you AND dad plan to address this when you do talk to him. Don't wing it or you could get upset or angry or both and set him off either to go ballistic (not useful) or to stop talking (not useful) or to leave (lease useful of all). Think ahead about what you and dad will say, what you will ask, and how you plan to react if he admits it, as well as how you plan to react if he denies it. Meanwhile, yeah, I'd call "Jerry's" number but not from your home, cell or work phone or from your son's phone either. |
Anonymous
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Why don't you take down the number and give 'JJ' a call? Best from a phone that isn't your home or cell.
This could be a dealer or just a good friend that has that nicknname because of his love for weed. |
Anonymous
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I am reading this point and laughing. Is this for real?
i am old, boring and work a corporate job but WHO ON EARTH could not see that Jamaican Jerry is a weed dealer? Really?? OK, now back to reality. You should call Jamaican Jerry and suss it out a bit. You should watch your son more closely and figure out when he is smoking. Thank you need to step in. Be mean. No more cell phone for a while, homework only. And you need to talk about the stresses in his life that are leading him to tune out with pot. The sooner the better. Tons of people smoked pot at some point -- weekend parties in college, say. But if he is smoking every day, including school days, and not doing his homework that is obviously not ok. |
Anonymous
| Or maybe jerry is just Jamaican.... Big deal? Google the number, find some info on the person who owns the number. |
Anonymous
| This can't be real. Why wouldn't you have just googled the number, or called it yourself? |