Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening

[Anonymous]

I'm offended that this is considered "taking care of" the other woman

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Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

Good point. Easy for us to brush it off. To be fair they were both co-dependent. Up until two weeks before she killed herself Mark was unsure about the divorce. It was on the tapes. He wanted her to stay in that town, and they were still living together. If she could have pulled herself together I think she would have had a great life. Meredith's ex threw her to the curb right away, and is remarried with a child. He told Jennair she should move on and their stupidity will be their undoing. A lot of interesting things from the tape the public hadn't heard before.

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

Yes. All that can be true AND so can be the concept that getting involved in an ongoing sexual relationship with someone else's husband or wife invites psychosis and danger.

You are absolutely right. It's just that the murderous act stands out to me more than anything else.

I am someone who will never cheat or date an involved man. But I cannot understand how one goes from being a victim of cheating to a murderer. It's so senseless. So it's harder for me to focus on that smaller yet obvious lesson.

I didn’t either. Until I was 100% completely blindsided finding out about a multi-year affair two decades into marriage with kids. Great marriage/sex life/happy family. I went to a very dark place. I practically had a nervous breakdown and reality was distorted. Nobody in our circle ever could have predicted this. It really shocked so many. I was not sleeping or eating. I couldn’t. That does a number on your mental health.

I had my own income, a great family and was strong mentally so I can see if somebody had past trauma or was slightly unstable prior or had underlying mental health issues—how in that incredible loony fog they could commit a crime of passion. Insomnia over an extended period of time does a number on your sense of reality.

I have always had a great fear of prison. I watched far too many prison documentaries. For a few weeks the thought of prison and what it would do to my kids was the only thing stopping me. I scared myself. It really is one of those- unless you lived it (long happy marriage with unconditional trust) you could never understand what it’s really like. It’s nothing like I imagined or in the movies.

I know I would never murder, but I can see why it is common in these situations.

You could hear from the audio she spiraled into a deep depression. I don't know how much her upcoming hysterectomy played into this, but it was confirmed she didn't have prior mental health issues in their marriage. Mark tried to write a book on that, and it was discovered untrue. If anything he seemed to be the unstable one who was immature, and cheated before. When she caught him he said somehow he got drunk, and landed in this women's bed, LOL. Tells you a lot about Mark right there. Someone mentioned his friend agreed with Mark about Jennair, lol. Well this friend was just like Mark, and was with him when he cheated and probably goaded him on. This so called friend advised Mark to keep seeing Meredith....yes what a nasty friend. Mark wasn't wise, and Jennair knew this guy friend was no good all along. She was wiser, and Mark was the cute guy that was too much into self gratification. He stated they would fight about money, yet didn't mention he was the spender and problem in all that. I also noticed Mark was driving some sporty convertible...while they were suppose to be starting over, and getting their finances on track.... Again like Jennair said in her own words, it was a parent-child relationship.

[Anonymous]

^ my ex had a friend like this and so did his married AP. They used them as alibis to cover their tracks. Both egged it in and lived the same lifestyle.

Trash attracts trash friends.

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Anonymous wrote:^ my ex had a friend like this and so did his married AP. They used them as alibis to cover their tracks. Both egged it in and lived the same lifestyle.

Trash attracts trash friends.

Meredith's husband was smart, promptly dumped her. Then her true inner self starting coming out. She continued to harass the married couple because now she was alone.
Jennair only had to bide her time because Karma would have gotten them both without resorting to what she did.

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Anonymous wrote:^ my ex had a friend like this and so did his married AP. They used them as alibis to cover their tracks. Both egged it in and lived the same lifestyle.

Trash attracts trash friends.

Meredith's husband was smart, promptly dumped her. Then her true inner self starting coming out. She continued to harass the married couple because now she was alone.
Jennair only had to bide her time because Karma would have gotten them both without resorting to what she did.

+1

Two families would have been blown up, they would have deserved each other.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

No matter how strong our marriage I do not depend on a man to get me through life. I have my career, my friends, my kids. I would hate to go through divorce or widowhood, but those things happen and you have to have your ducks in a row. Another person cannot be your anchor in this world. If you do that I guarantee the other person will feel stifled and you resentful. It is just not realistic.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

No matter how strong our marriage I do not depend on a man to get me through life. I have my career, my friends, my kids. I would hate to go through divorce or widowhood, but those things happen and you have to have your ducks in a row. Another person cannot be your anchor in this world. If you do that I guarantee the other person will feel stifled and you resentful. It is just not realistic.

In fairness, I've had friends that had great careers yet stayed with horrible men because they were dependent emotionally. I divorced at a young age with a child with no job, and I was just fine. At almost 50 with no income, and no money might be a different story. Jennair worked her entire life, she should have been able to depend on Mark for a year after staying behind to rent the home and move them. He was never a responsible guy, and the little bit he was on his own proved it. Total F up that messed up their life. On the tapes she admitted she never should have married him. You forget she was his anchor as well, but she lost her identity which never should happen. Yes that's what no one should ever do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ my ex had a friend like this and so did his married AP. They used them as alibis to cover their tracks. Both egged it in and lived the same lifestyle.

Trash attracts trash friends.

Meredith's husband was smart, promptly dumped her. Then her true inner self starting coming out. She continued to harass the married couple because now she was alone.
Jennair only had to bide her time because Karma would have gotten them both without resorting to what she did.

+1

Two families would have been blown up, they would have deserved each other.

I think that's what makes me sad. She was the most intelligent among the 3, but maybe didn't have good psychology. Meredith was already unraveling, and Mark didn't want to sever that life line. Jennair should have taken advantage of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm offended that this is considered "taking care of" the other woman

Honestly, and I'm not joking, when I first saw the title, I thought it would be something like the OW got cancer and they both ditched the man to (really) take care of each other. Told him to eff off and went and lived their best lives without him, either as friends or lovers.

Few stranger things have happened, but I was ready to be surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

NP here and we're close to the 20-year mark. I'd have an affair (or two) myself and do a prenup to protect the kids' future assets. No kids? I'd flee tomorrow, date A LOT, spend time with my single girlfriends, travel. Definitely not kill someone and/or myself. This is what a sane person would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

NP here and we're close to the 20-year mark. I'd have an affair (or two) myself and do a prenup to protect the kids' future assets. No kids? I'd flee tomorrow, date A LOT, spend time with my single girlfriends, travel. Definitely not kill someone and/or myself. This is what a sane person would do.

That sounds pretty good. Two affairs! Have you got them picked out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

NP here and we're close to the 20-year mark. I'd have an affair (or two) myself and do a prenup to protect the kids' future assets. No kids? I'd flee tomorrow, date A LOT, spend time with my single girlfriends, travel. Definitely not kill someone and/or myself. This is what a sane person would do.

It would be a POST-Nup. And, I would never sink to be a nasty cheater--even if I was cheated on. I have morals and integrity that prevent me from doing such. I'd just feel cheap and nasty to act like those two whores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^wtf are you talking about? I’m 52 and have a career in STEM and all my female friends are lawyers, doctors, IT consultants, etc.

My mother worked too and told us to always have our own income.

There was no need to work given what the men make, but we all kept it because we liked what we did and wanted our own $/retirement and identity.

I have no idea what that pp is talking about.

Even my 85 year old illiterate grandmother, who married at 18 and went on to have 12 children, had a lot going for her besides her marriage. She bought and sold anything she could get her hands on. She had church, choir, and several meeting groups that she was comitted to. She had an extended family that she loved and cared for and vice versa.

My grandfather was a successful man and a very present father, but my grandmother's identity was obviously separate from his. These women with identities that are primarily dependent on their marriages must be very rare because I don't know any of them.

Codependent. Dime a dozen.

Okay, let’s see how independent and unfazed you feel when you husband cheats on you with a woman ten years younger after 20 years together. I’ll wait.

NP here and we're close to the 20-year mark. I'd have an affair (or two) myself and do a prenup to protect the kids' future assets. No kids? I'd flee tomorrow, date A LOT, spend time with my single girlfriends, travel. Definitely not kill someone and/or myself. This is what a sane person would do.

It would be a POST-Nup. And, I would never sink to be a nasty cheater--even if I was cheated on. I have morals and integrity that prevent me from doing such. I'd just feel cheap and nasty to act like those two whores.

+100

Especially with kids. You don't want to sink to cheater spouse's level. You can display integrity....and not have an even bigger mess with the potential of kids finding out all of this dirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

Yes. All that can be true AND so can be the concept that getting involved in an ongoing sexual relationship with someone else's husband or wife invites psychosis and danger.

You are absolutely right. It's just that the murderous act stands out to me more than anything else.

I am someone who will never cheat or date an involved man. But I cannot understand how one goes from being a victim of cheating to a murderer. It's so senseless. So it's harder for me to focus on that smaller yet obvious lesson.

I didn’t either. Until I was 100% completely blindsided finding out about a multi-year affair two decades into marriage with kids. Great marriage/sex life/happy family. I went to a very dark place. I practically had a nervous breakdown and reality was distorted. Nobody in our circle ever could have predicted this. It really shocked so many. I was not sleeping or eating. I couldn’t. That does a number on your mental health.

I had my own income, a great family and was strong mentally so I can see if somebody had past trauma or was slightly unstable prior or had underlying mental health issues—how in that incredible loony fog they could commit a crime of passion. Insomnia over an extended period of time does a number on your sense of reality.

I have always had a great fear of prison. I watched far too many prison documentaries. For a few weeks the thought of prison and what it would do to my kids was the only thing stopping me. I scared myself. It really is one of those- unless you lived it (long happy marriage with unconditional trust) you could never understand what it’s really like. It’s nothing like I imagined or in the movies.

I know I would never murder, but I can see why it is common in these situations.

You could hear from the audio she spiraled into a deep depression. I don't know how much her upcoming hysterectomy played into this, but it was confirmed she didn't have prior mental health issues in their marriage. Mark tried to write a book on that, and it was discovered untrue. If anything he seemed to be the unstable one who was immature, and cheated before. When she caught him he said somehow he got drunk, and landed in this women's bed, LOL. Tells you a lot about Mark right there. Someone mentioned his friend agreed with Mark about Jennair, lol. Well this friend was just like Mark, and was with him when he cheated and probably goaded him on. This so called friend advised Mark to keep seeing Meredith....yes what a nasty friend. Mark wasn't wise, and Jennair knew this guy friend was no good all along. She was wiser, and Mark was the cute guy that was too much into self gratification. He stated they would fight about money, yet didn't mention he was the spender and problem in all that. I also noticed Mark was driving some sporty convertible...while they were suppose to be starting over, and getting their finances on track.... Again like Jennair said in her own words, it was a parent-child relationship.

The man seems like price!!!!! I am not killing myself and someone else over this piece of garbage, deep depression or not.