do you "fix yourself up" before Dh comes home?
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Anonymous
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I work P/T, have 2 kids under 6. I get home a few hours before he does, and feed the kids before he comes in. When my H texts to say he is on the way home, I do a quick "touch up" - brush my hair and teeth, remove the smudged makeup from under my eyes, etc. Takes about 5 mins. Not sure if H even notices but I feel like I should at least try to not look like a train wreck when he comes in. I remember my mom always had mascara smudges on her eyelids and under her eyes and it bugged ME. I also try and ensure the kitchen is clean and the house looks semi-decent.
Am I working too hard? Wondering if I need to let some things (mainly ME) go... |
Anonymous
| um no I dont |
Anonymous
| Haha! Absolutely not. |
Anonymous
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No, I don't do either.
I take a shower each morning, fix my hair, apply make up and brush my teeth. I go to bed after I wash my face and climb in one of DHs t-shirts. If he can see me for who I am (without all the effort at night and loves it) than he can deal with it during the day when I am raising the kids and cooking his meals. It isn't that I don't want to be beautiful for my husband or keep a clean house. It's just that I feel like when we (as women/wives) do these things, it's as if we are putting our men above us. My husband is a person who I chose to spend my life with, yes. However, I didn't agree to always look my best and be a 24-7 maid. |
Anonymous
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Does it stress you out to do those things?
Does it make you happy? I think it's nice. It's not like you're putting on heels and a pearl necklace while you vacuum. |
Anonymous
| ugh |
Anonymous
| OP here. But it literally takes 5 mins. I don't understand why people wouldn't. I am not talking about more than a quick brush of hair and teeth and removal of raccoon eyes. Maybe I am doing it more for ME than for him - I look in the mirror and think "wow, today kicked YOUR ass" and I feel better once I am more pulled together. |
Anonymous
| I usually brush my teeth and hair and get rid of the shine on my face. |
Anonymous
| BAHAHAHA |
Anonymous
| you sound sort of insecure. are you afraid he will cheat? |
Anonymous
| Does your DH try to look nice for YOU? |
Anonymous
I think its great for you, especially if you're doing it for yourself and makes you feel good. But you say you don't understand why others wouldn't... Well, I just don't spend a lot of time on my appearance. I don't wear makeup, and my hair is almost always in a ponytail, so nothing to brush. My husband hates makeup anyway, so this works for us. Different strokes. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Not insecure about him. I am totally sure he won't cheat. I think it's more a challenge for ME - like I can bring home the bacon, fry it up, etc. I want things to look smooth (even if the day was from hell). Never let him see you sweat. Plus, he works hard, too, so why come home to a nightmare? |
Anonymous
agree |
Anonymous
| 18:41 - OP here, I see your point and I don't argue that. If you don't wear makeup and do a ponytail, then there's nothing to "fix". And that's FINE - I have nothing negative on that. I was just suprised at the responses where people laughed or almost took a sense of pride/Honor that they didn't bother and didn't care. |