Inheritance debacle. WWYD?

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Anonymous wrote:Get her out, ASAP. Have you met with a lawyer yet? You need to get on this now. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to get her out. You don't want her to establish herself as a tenant, and then have to formally evict her.

For real. You are going to be screwed if you don't get her out soon.

This is true if Larla's name is on the deed. If the house has not yet been transferred to Larla's name, she can't get Mary out of the house and really can't do anything regarding the house until she legally owns it.

OP, have all the legal processes relating to the will been carried out and completed?

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I am now the legal owner of the home! My grandma has been talking to my cousin to get her to move out of the house. She has moved all of her things to the master bedroom.

My grandma's lawyer has drawn up paperwork stating how long she has to get out of the house. She has been reaching out to other family members to complain about me but they always tell me what she is saying. Roy has completely butted out of the situation. He had a heated argument with Mary about her situation in life and now she is not speaking to him.

[Anonymous]

You must be so proud and happy.

[Anonymous]

are you going to move in or sell it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mary needs a good attorney. Could be a coercive tactic by Larla to get the house when Mary should be the beneficiary

How many times are you going to write the same things over & over & over again??

Mary & Roy need to consult an attorney, Mary & Roy need to seek legal council, print this post for Mary & Roy, Mary should get an attorney pro bono... shut up already!

Her mother drew up the will FIVE years ago & that's plenty... PLENTY of time to consider, ponder, FEEL GUILTY about what she was doing... clearly, she did NOT.

Also, there's an executor listed on every will, so somebody else knew that Larla was getting this for the past 5 years, as well.

She was of SOUND mind when she drew up the will & of SOUND mind when she died, Thelma made the decision to do what she wanted with THELMA'S house.

The fact that you keep repeating yourself that somehow Mary should be the beneficiary is laughable & sounds like you're projecting some of your own feelings or family issues onto Larla.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you didn't work for this money and you don't deserve it. That said, you have it, since Thelma was too weak to be a mother to glued daughter while alive and has left you holding the bag.

You have no compassion for Mary and frankly you don't seem to know her very well. She is a caricature to you. You don't know how she ended up the way she has, but what you do know is that she has had the rug pulled out from under her Ina cruel way...not by you, but by Thelma.

I hate inherited wealth. It is corrosive. You already sound entitled to this money and defensive about your cousin's supposed Lexi of worthiness to inherit. I think you're posting here because rep down you know it is immoral to put your cousin out. And unless Thema prepared Mary long ago for this scenario, what has been done to her is cruel.

You haven't won the lottery or earned this money. If it were me, I'd work very hard to help my cousin.

And you sound bitter & resentful.
God, I hate miserable, judgmental people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I am now the legal owner of the home! My grandma has been talking to my cousin to get her to move out of the house. She has moved all of her things to the master bedroom.

My grandma's lawyer has drawn up paperwork stating how long she has to get out of the house. She has been reaching out to other family members to complain about me but they always tell me what she is saying. Roy has completely butted out of the situation. He had a heated argument with Mary about her situation in life and now she is not speaking to him.

I'm happy for you, but the fight's not over. If she refuses to leave, you would have to evict her.

[Anonymous]

Awesome for you Larla, congratulations!
Any update on getting Mary out now!

[Anonymous]

Wow.

Thelma was a really rotten mother to do this to her daughter. And to dump the problem on others after she died so she wouldn't have to deal with it. She didn't have the courtesy to make clear to Mary that she wasn't inheriting the home she'd lived in for so many decades. Definitely winning the mother of year award.

Glad I don't have to deal with a dysfunctional family.

[Anonymous]

Op here, mary has been given a date of March 15th to vacate the home and take all of her belongings or Thelma's things that she wants. I told her that I will likely be having an estate sale/yard sale/donating most of the stuff in the house.

[Anonymous]

so she has 45 days to completely fuck up the house.

I hope you decide to live there during this time frame to ensure that she doesn't trash the joint.

I would be ready on on march 15 with a lock smith on site to change all the locks.

Even if you get her out of the house. nothing to say that she won't swing by from time to time just to vandalize, be a pita, ect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, mary has been given a date of March 15th to vacate the home and take all of her belongings or Thelma's things that she wants. I told her that I will likely be having an estate sale/yard sale/donating most of the stuff in the house.

Please update us after the 15th, Larla.
It's going to be tough getting Mary out, especially since she showed you that she could care less about the eviction notice by moving herself into the Master Bedroom.
You're absolutely doing the right thing.

(((( hugs )))))

[Anonymous]

Poor Mary.

I do feel sorry for her. Being kicked out of a house she's lived in for just about all her life because her mother was a bitch. I don't care how it's spun, if Thelma never made it upfront and clear to her daughter over the past five years that she wasn't inheriting the house, she was a grade A bitch. Responsible, sensible adults don't do something like that unless they're being deliberately cruel. As it is, it's a cruel world, and what can one do?

Enjoy the house once you get it clear and free.

[Anonymous]

Sigh. I'm worried for Mary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. I'm worried for Mary.

Why?

She had a free place to live for years and could just sort of sit around and do nothing for years.

Now she has to adult.

Adulting is hard.