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Anonymous wrote:It’s so weird how ppl don’t read the post. It’s like they’re super sensitive about this and talking about their own problems.
It’s all pretty laid out - she doesn’t want him there 24 hours, but the kids want to do certain things with their parents. They want to do it with him, but he’s got an inflexible nap schedule on vacations, so she always has to do the damn stuff. She feels bad about the kids and she feels bad that she doesn’t get a breaks
She doesn’t need advice about what 12yo kids can do without their parents or sermons from people whose vacations are lower key or advice that she should just reschedule the activities.
I know exactly what she’s talking about. Last spring break we went to Cancun - some days there was nothing but pool and the kids went to the kids club, but by far, the highlight of the kids trip was going to Xcaret water/adventure park - it was a day and an outing that there was no scheduling around, and this guys family wouldn’t have been able to go because he wouldn’t move his nap. I agree with the ppl who are like “you don’t have to have an action packed trip” - we certainly didn’t, it was 1/7 days, and it was a kid driven outing.
My kids aren’t old enough to do para sailing but the resort we were at offered it only in the afternoons when they had wind. The scuba trips, mid afternoon. In my experience at a resort like we went to, the pool dies down midday, some people go nap, but if you’re having an activity that’s prime time.
If it was up to me, I’d never leave the pool side, I’d nap, I’d watch the girls, I’d read a book and my kids could go sit in the room and watch Nickelodeon - fine with me! But it’s a family vacation, we’re here to show them a good time, so, if one one or two days out of the vacation I have to give up my mid afternoon by the pool, that’s fine. I’m their dad and, like a lot of dadhood, it can be a real pain in the moment, but it’s special for them and I never regret it.
This guy should man up, grab an iced coffee, and 2 afternoons of the trip, power through, without a tantrum, to do something fun with the kids. Not sure why this is controversial.
It's so weird how you didn't read the OP either. No where did OP say that he wouldn't skip his nap, ever. In fact OP talks about his behaviour when he
does skip naps, so clearly he does sometimes.