Wedding offenses: rank according to badness

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about my family members wedding where they required a deposit to hold your seat only refundable if you actually showed up the wedding? I was shocked!

Wow. I think this one wins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about my family members wedding where they required a deposit to hold your seat only refundable if you actually showed up the wedding? I was shocked!

Horrible. I would not attend.

Worst I've seen was a summer wedding in the DC area where a bunch of doves were supposed to be released from a suspended tent thingy as the bride and groom entered the reception venue. Heat + delays in getting to the venue meant that 20 dead birds dropped down on them.

I'm not even into omens, and that sure sounds like a horrible omen for a marriage.

[Anonymous]

I LOVE no kid weddings! I much prefer them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about my family members wedding where they required a deposit to hold your seat only refundable if you actually showed up the wedding? I was shocked!

Horrible. I would not attend.

Worst I've seen was a summer wedding in the DC area where a bunch of doves were supposed to be released from a suspended tent thingy as the bride and groom entered the reception venue. Heat + delays in getting to the venue meant that 20 dead birds dropped down on them.

Oh Lordy, that is a good one!
Bad for the birds of course, but very memorable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about my family members wedding where they required a deposit to hold your seat only refundable if you actually showed up the wedding? I was shocked!

Horrible. I would not attend.

Worst I've seen was a summer wedding in the DC area where a bunch of doves were supposed to be released from a suspended tent thingy as the bride and groom entered the reception venue. Heat + delays in getting to the venue meant that 20 dead birds dropped down on them.

That’s terrible. A fine example of why no one should have summer weddings in this area. If you get married in the summer here, be sure to have an ambulance or two on standby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a no kid wedding in 1997 and still feel bad about it. It was a nighttime dressy wedding, but only my friends from college had kids (not DH) so I wound up with all of my friends going back and forth to their hotel room because they didn't want to use the babysitters we'd arranged for, then later when I had kids and saw how hard it was to manage babysitting out of town I felt bad everytime

I totally get it- perspective changes when you have them yourselves lol. We didn't have a strict no-kids wedding as we included kids in our families, but only included adults for friends and then a few brought their kids anyway without asking, which annoyed those that had gotten sitters.

I generally don't like no +1 but I have like 20 cousins and after getting several no +1 wedding invites from them as an adult (if thy bothered to send me one, usually they would include me in the invite to my parents even though I didn't live there anymore!) I followed the no-ring-no-bring lead and didn't extend +1 to any of my unmatched cousins. Tons of family there, no one was alone.

If we could do it all again we probably would have skipped the wedding and gone to the courthouse, all this sh-t was stressful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a no kid wedding in 1997 and still feel bad about it. It was a nighttime dressy wedding, but only my friends from college had kids (not DH) so I wound up with all of my friends going back and forth to their hotel room because they didn't want to use the babysitters we'd arranged for, then later when I had kids and saw how hard it was to manage babysitting out of town I felt bad everytime

I totally get it- perspective changes when you have them yourselves lol. We didn't have a strict no-kids wedding as we included kids in our families, but only included adults for friends and then a few brought their kids anyway without asking, which annoyed those that had gotten sitters.

I generally don't like no +1 but I have like 20 cousins and after getting several no +1 wedding invites from them as an adult (if thy bothered to send me one, usually they would include me in the invite to my parents even though I didn't live there anymore!) I followed the no-ring-no-bring lead and didn't extend +1 to any of my unmatched cousins. Tons of family there, no one was alone.

If we could do it all again we probably would have skipped the wedding and gone to the courthouse, all this sh-t was stressful.

Worse than no +1, is the selective +1. We have been invited to a family wedding where most of the singles family members from 18-45 did not get a +1 regardless of dating status. But one cousin in their 20s got an invitation addressed to the cousin and the current girlfriend. This girlfriend is very well to do. It reeks of a money grab and was quite insulting to the others that did not get a +1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a no kid wedding in 1997 and still feel bad about it. It was a nighttime dressy wedding, but only my friends from college had kids (not DH) so I wound up with all of my friends going back and forth to their hotel room because they didn't want to use the babysitters we'd arranged for, then later when I had kids and saw how hard it was to manage babysitting out of town I felt bad everytime

I totally get it- perspective changes when you have them yourselves lol. We didn't have a strict no-kids wedding as we included kids in our families, but only included adults for friends and then a few brought their kids anyway without asking, which annoyed those that had gotten sitters.

I generally don't like no +1 but I have like 20 cousins and after getting several no +1 wedding invites from them as an adult (if thy bothered to send me one, usually they would include me in the invite to my parents even though I didn't live there anymore!) I followed the no-ring-no-bring lead and didn't extend +1 to any of my unmatched cousins. Tons of family there, no one was alone.

If we could do it all again we probably would have skipped the wedding and gone to the courthouse, all this sh-t was stressful.

Worse than no +1, is the selective +1. We have been invited to a family wedding where most of the singles family members from 18-45 did not get a +1 regardless of dating status. But one cousin in their 20s got an invitation addressed to the cousin and the current girlfriend. This girlfriend is very well to do. It reeks of a money grab and was quite insulting to the others that did not get a +1.

It's more likely that they extended an invite to the girlfriend because they knew her. Who is thinking about the wealth of someone's girlfriend when deciding whether to invite them? That's quite a stretch.

[Anonymous]

Destination is only rude when people get annoyed when you can’t come.

I once was invited to a destination (Bermuda) wedding, which was also no +1. And they were annoyed that people were saying no. Lolol.