Wedding offenses: rank according to badness
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Anonymous
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Explanations optional.
No-kids weddings No +1 weddings Destination weddings Dry weddings No open bar weddings Weddings of couples who ask for cash |
Anonymous
1. wouldn't fly in my family but I get why people do it 2. tacky 3. fine. Everyone has friends and family all over now, unless you live and die in a small town. 4. fine if that's your culture 5. NO WAY (-WASP) 6. tacky but whatever |
Anonymous
| Dry is the worst because you can get out of a destination, but a dry wedding is harder to duck and it’s just miserable. Cash bars are a close second |
Anonymous
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From worst offense to least:
No +1 weddings (I'm not going to your wedding alone. Nope.) Weddings of couples who ask for cash (I was raised to find this very tacky) Destination weddings (It's too much to ask of most, and a PITA for everyone) No open bar weddings (If you are going to invite people to a party, you pay for the food/drink, period) Doesn't bother me: Dry weddings No-kids weddings (I don't like kids at weddings anyway) |
Anonymous
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Dry is bad but you might know ahead of time and discretely BYOB.
At the two cash bar weddings I've attended, I was caught off guard and didn't have cash on hand. |
Anonymous
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Weddings of couples who ask for cash
Destination weddings No +1 weddings No kids weddings Dry weddings No open bar A wedding should be about celebrating with people who you care about, not a princess party with a beach backdrop or a cash grab. Elope, if you want to make things hard for your guests. And if you don't want to go to a wedding... don't! I get that some people need a drink to help them get through, but they should just RSVP "no" if it's really going to be uncomfortable. |
Anonymous
This can be applied to destination weddings too. It's an invitation not a summons. |
Anonymous
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From worst to least:
Destination weddings - I don't want to go to this effort for you. No-kids weddings - I don't even have kids, but weddings should be for families. No +1 weddings - I get not wanting randoms at the wedding, but this is inconvenient. No open bar weddings - Tacky and cheap. Dry weddings - I don't drink, so I don't care, but this seems cheap and tacky and would make me wonder if you have issues with alcohol. Weddings of couples who ask for cash - I'm giving cash anyway. It's tacky to ask though. |
Anonymous
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My ranking, from most offensive to least offensive:
Dry weddings - Don't make your issues with alcohol, everyone else's issue. No open bar weddings - Don't be cheap. At least offer 2 drinks, then make it a cash bar Weddings of couples who ask for cash - dunno why but this just feels tacky. It's really no different than making a gift registry, but for some reason making it "cash" feels....eh No +1 weddings - weddings are expensive. So unless this is someone you've been dating for a while please don't bring someone. but if this is someone serious a +1 would be nice. No-kids weddings - No issue with this. Kids distract from the event, and they take their parents attention away from the festivities. Destination weddings -who cares it's their wedding you're not required to attend. |
Anonymous
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5. No-kids weddings tied 5. Dry weddings
2. No +1 weddings 3. Destination weddings 4. No open bar weddings 1. Weddings of couples who ask for cash I don’t drink. I’m 55 and have been married for 25 years. But thinking back to my cash strapped days of early 20s, I’d decline to go to a wedding alone and to give cash only. No kids? I expressed no kids at our wedding and all complied NBD. If you can’t go without your DC, then rsvp no. Same w/ destination weddings - I declined. |
Anonymous
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No +1 weddings - bad!
No-kids weddings - sad. Destination weddings - annoying but whatever. Dry weddings - fine. No open bar weddings - fine. Weddings of couples who ask for cash - I appreciate this and prefer to just give cash. |
Anonymous
| I don't find destination weddings offensive because I assume the couples are trying to keep it small and intimate and this is their way to do that. The people who are mad are probably the people they are trying to weed out LOL. |
Anonymous
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Don't forget having your wedding at a "historic plantation". |
Anonymous
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No-kids weddings
No +1 weddings Destination weddings Dry weddings No open bar weddings Weddings of couples who ask for cash Worst to best: Dry wedding No open bar wedding Destination Cash No +1 No kids |
Anonymous
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Explanations optional.
Worst to least bad: 1) Dry (thankfully this is not a thing in my circle) 2) No + 1 (nobody wants to go alone) 3) No Open bar (don't make guests pay for anything) 4) Destination (maybe I want to go to that place, maybe not) 5) No Kids (the kids are almost always annoying) 6) Cash (everyone wants cash, nobody wants a toaster at the reception) |