Complaint about offer to drop meal by with new baby

[Anonymous]

I find this irritating. Coworker/ friend calls on Friday and says she wants to bring dinner by for our family (me, DH, 3 yr old, 1 month old). We agree Sunday (today) would work best. I say, touch base on Sunday about what time you are going to come. And how grateful I am etc. It is now 5:35 and I haven't heard from her. Just sent a text to ask if she is still planning to come by. Havent heard back yet. Meanwhile I didn't plan anything for dinner and need to start something for the toddler (if not all of us) if she doesn't respond. And I'm bitter. Toddler goes to bed at 7:15 or so, can't push making dinner back any more. I am seriously most annoyed about this putting me in a bad mood. Way to turn something nice into something that has me stewing about how rude it is. WTF?

[maril332]

OK...

Let's use perspective:

-she offered to do a favor for you
-she is not answer texts/calls


Have you considered the fact that maybe something isn't ok on her end? I get that you may be stressed out, but seriously, make dinner. If she happens to come put it in the fridge for tomorrow, if not forget it. You should text her to ask if everything is okay since you haven't heard from her all day.

[Anonymous]

I agree, OP. I would be annoyed too. You planned on having this as a meal for your family tonight, and now it's not here. People just don't understand (or forget) what it's like to have a newborn and a toddler on your hands and how difficult everything -- including meal planning/ prep -- can be.

Try to calm down about it though; hopefully, she's just running late and will still show up.

[maril332]

Anonymous wrote:I agree, OP. I would be annoyed too. You planned on having this as a meal for your family tonight, and now it's not here. People just don't understand (or forget) what it's like to have a newborn and a toddler on your hands and how difficult everything -- including meal planning/ prep -- can be.

Try to calm down about it though; hopefully, she's just running late and will still show up.

I think friend understood, which is why she volunteered. My point is that OP should be thinking more to the "I hope Larla is okay" than "Why hasn't Larla shown up with my meal!?!"

[Anonymous]

Just nuke a hotdog for the kid and then order pizza for your DH and yourself. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just nuke a hotdog for the kid and then order pizza for your DH and yourself. No biggie.

I'm seriously amazed at OP. What is the big deal? Carry on. If dinner shows up, great, nice, throw in fridge, eat later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree, OP. I would be annoyed too. You planned on having this as a meal for your family tonight, and now it's not here. People just don't understand (or forget) what it's like to have a newborn and a toddler on your hands and how difficult everything -- including meal planning/ prep -- can be.

Try to calm down about it though; hopefully, she's just running late and will still show up.

+1. I didn't let anyone bring us meals because I didn't want to deal with this. People. People can be flaky. Even if she is okay, there will be some excuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree, OP. I would be annoyed too. You planned on having this as a meal for your family tonight, and now it's not here. People just don't understand (or forget) what it's like to have a newborn and a toddler on your hands and how difficult everything -- including meal planning/ prep -- can be.

Try to calm down about it though; hopefully, she's just running late and will still show up.

+1. I didn't let anyone bring us meals because I didn't want to deal with this. People. People can be flaky. Even if she is okay, there will be some excuse.

+2 The point in dropping of meals is so that it can be a convenience to you, not an inconvenience.

[Anonymous]

She's doing you a favor and you're complaining? You seriously can't make your toddler a frozen pizza or a grilled cheese if dinner doesn't show up before his bedtime? So what if she doesn't bring it at all today and brings it tomorrow -- is it really the end of the world?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree, OP. I would be annoyed too. You planned on having this as a meal for your family tonight, and now it's not here. People just don't understand (or forget) what it's like to have a newborn and a toddler on your hands and how difficult everything -- including meal planning/ prep -- can be.

Try to calm down about it though; hopefully, she's just running late and will still show up.

+1

Or plan to put in the fridge any meals that people drop off, and you can eat them the next night.

[Anonymous]

This is annoying for sure, but what do you say when she was going you a favor? Like pp said, do something else and then if she comes by, stick it in the fridge for tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Why in this day of age of delivery food service, easy take out places, personal chefs and delivery groceries do people still insist on brining over casseroles to those with newborns?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's doing you a favor and you're complaining? You seriously can't make your toddler a frozen pizza or a grilled cheese if dinner doesn't show up before his bedtime? So what if she doesn't bring it at all today and brings it tomorrow -- is it really the end of the world?

She's not doing her a favor; that's the point. The friend told her that tonight's dinner would be taken care of, it's dinner time and it isn't taken care of. Not the end of the world, clearly, but a real inconvenience to parents of a newborn and a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Sure, it's annoying but do you mean to tell me that you don't have some pasta you can boil, a couple eggs you can scramble, nothing in the freezer?? Can't afford to order a pizza?

Just take care of dinner yourself and if she brings something over, thank her and save it for tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why in this day of age of delivery food service, easy take out places, personal chefs and delivery groceries do people still insist on brining over casseroles to those with newborns?

Because a home cooked meal can be more comforting sometimes. Because it is a way to show you care. because it is a way to drop by to say hello but only for 10 minutes without it being awkward or inconvenient on either side. Because new mothers need nutritious dinners.