Complaint about offer to drop meal by with new baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in this day of age of delivery food service, easy take out places, personal chefs and delivery groceries do people still insist on brining over casseroles to those with newborns?

Because a home cooked meal can be more comforting sometimes. Because it is a way to show you care. because it is a way to drop by to say hello but only for 10 minutes without it being awkward or inconvenient on either side. Because new mothers need nutritious dinners.

And because most families with a new baby are on a budget (while also spending a small fortune on baby gear, supplies, and possibly medical bills), so it's nice to save the cost of a restaurant meal.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully the friend is ok.

I agree it would be an annoyance. You think supper is taken care of, and now it isn't. Of course you can throw something together but that isn't the point.

[Anonymous]

Your husband couldn't pick up Chinese or some other carry out order?

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Anonymous wrote:I find this irritating. Coworker/ friend calls on Friday and says she wants to bring dinner by for our family (me, DH, 3 yr old, 1 month old). We agree Sunday (today) would work best. I say, touch base on Sunday about what time you are going to come. And how grateful I am etc. It is now 5:35 and I haven't heard from her. Just sent a text to ask if she is still planning to come by. Havent heard back yet. Meanwhile I didn't plan anything for dinner and need to start something for the toddler (if not all of us) if she doesn't respond. And I'm bitter. Toddler goes to bed at 7:15 or so, can't push making dinner back any more. I am seriously most annoyed about this putting me in a bad mood. Way to turn something nice into something that has me stewing about how rude it is. WTF?

[Anonymous]

Is this person usually like this? I know somebody who loves to offer up selfless things, but then can't be bothered to follow through (or makes a half-assed attempt). It's her personality (which is crappy).

I would be annoyed too. Sure you can pick something up, but this was rude and self-centered of your coworker.

That said, keep us updated on her excuse (whether valid or not

[Anonymous]

I am so sick of new mother martyrs! Give the 3-yr old some cereal and a boob to the one month old, OP. STOP WHINING.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why in this day of age of delivery food service, easy take out places, personal chefs and delivery groceries do people still insist on brining over casseroles to those with newborns?

In case you forgot, not everybody is on your kind of budget.

[Anonymous]

My guess is she's dropping off a frozen casserole for future use not realizing you thought it was for dinner tonight? I'd be annoyed too - you could have made a million other plans for dinner and also you don't want to be eating pizza which she shows up at 630 with a piping hot lasagna!

[Anonymous]

OP, I would be annoyed as well. She made a commitment, you counted on her, and she broke her promise. That sucks, and is rude. There is no excuse, short of some serious situation on her part, for not even letting you know. People just shouldn't offer this if they can't follow through.

That said, I had a neighbor do (almost) the same thing to us after our twins were born. Except that in his case, the promise was somewhat more vague, although I did somewhat expect him to show up with a meal on a particular day. But fortunately, he had been vague enough so that I had a backup plan, and I was not pissed. He has since done this a couple more times, and now we just laugh about his way of making big promises but not following through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is she's dropping off a frozen casserole for future use not realizing you thought it was for dinner tonight?

My thought, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in this day of age of delivery food service, easy take out places, personal chefs and delivery groceries do people still insist on brining over casseroles to those with newborns?

In case you forgot, not everybody is on your kind of budget.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in this day of age of delivery food service, easy take out places, personal chefs and delivery groceries do people still insist on brining over casseroles to those with newborns?

In case you forgot, not everybody is on your kind of budget.

+1

And I love how she thinks that personal chefs are more widely used in our "day and age" than in former times!

[Anonymous]

take a deep breath, OP. i know it's annoying. but this is a mild annoyance, more than balanced out by her good intentions. worst case scenario, you order pizza and send the husband out for beer. sounds like you could use the beer.

[Anonymous]

Did dinner arrive???

[Anonymous]

Your friend is rude.

I'm curious to know what happened. What excuse did she give?

[Anonymous]

I never planned to eat my friends' meal delivery the day of. I always had food planned. If friends brought meals, that was wonderful, but we ate it the next day or 2, not same day. Stuff happens. I certainly wasn't bitter about it.