Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

[Anonymous]

I’m going to do my best to judge everyone’s engagement rings today but I confess I forgot to put mine on.

[Anonymous]

I’m 47 and still wearing both my engagement ring and wedding ring after 19 years of marriage. Most of the women in my life- friends, kids’ sports, and work- seem to wear both as well.

[Anonymous]

I do. I feel like natural diamonds are problematic and a bit of a racket so I have a little more respect for someone’s choice of a lab diamond, alternative gem, or used/antique diamond.

[Anonymous]

I haven't worn mine for 15 years. It's a lovely but I bought a vintage silver band at an antique store in Woodstock, NY about 15 years ago and I've worn that on my left hand ever since.

We pay $165K/year for private school. I assume most people in that orbit (which seems to be most of my world these days) are well-off. There are so many other signifiers of wealth than a diamond ring. For starters, job titles and real estate holdings.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t ever want one.
Judge away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who judge, I guess. I once had a 13 year old 9th grader mock the size of my ring, telling me my husband must not love me. So there’s that. I suppose I think those who judge rings are juvenile.

For those of you with big showy diamonds: Many people don’t notice or care. If you’re trying to make some impression, just know that plenty of people never look.

A child noticed.
Many people notice.

I’d love to tell that child that the conversation will go into his college recommendation letter and see the priceless reaction.

what a ridiculous thing to say. that would never happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who judge, I guess. I once had a 13 year old 9th grader mock the size of my ring, telling me my husband must not love me. So there’s that. I suppose I think those who judge rings are juvenile.

For those of you with big showy diamonds: Many people don’t notice or care. If you’re trying to make some impression, just know that plenty of people never look.

A child noticed.
Many people notice.

Yes, and there are a lot of immature people with messed up values. Your point?

that people notice!

[Anonymous]

I mean, if people want to judge me now at age 50 for the ring that was purchased in my mid-20s... then judge away. I have worn my wedding band and engagement ring non-stop for the past 25+ years. It reminds me of where we started and what we have built together. If I want to rock a bigger rock, I would get one for my other hand, but wouldn't stop wearing my original rings.

[Anonymous]

I don't notice what other people wear. I usually wear a plain band because I prefer that look, and I leave my diamond bands and solitaire in a drawer except for once or twice a month. I have never noticed anyone looking at my modest everyday band and I doubt anyone really cares.

[Anonymous]

Lol. This is such a dumb American thing invented by DeBeers. So many cultures in the world don't even have engagement rings, and Americans never even wore them before the 20th century.

We don't even wear wedding bands. Definitely didn't want to piss away thousands of dollars on stupid carbon that's the same thing as in charcoal and pencil lead. Really stupid brainwashing. Much better using that money to buy a house or invest.

Americans are so dumb. Blowing tens of thousands in debt to buy a ring and have a big wedding. Nothing like staring out life in massive amounts of debt on top of studentoans all because you both got into the studios wedding industry's propaganda that you need engagement rings and weddings.

[Anonymous]

I think people who shell out for big diamonds are marketing victims. That being said, most people are marketing victims and it’s their money so l wouldn’t say I’m judgy about it. Having an opinion and being judgmental are not the same thing. I still complement newly engaged women on their rings either way. No way am l going to tell them my real opinion and that it’s not for me.

[Anonymous]

I once went to a kid's birthday party where 70% of the moms wore huge rocks, including the hostess. Turned out they were all in the same social group. There were many other giveaways to what their social status were and it was clear I did not belong.

[Anonymous]

I know someone that sports a huge rock and shows it off all the time. I also know that her marriage is in some serious trouble. Her, I judge a little for the showing off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the engagement ring subreddit I do
see stones that look too big and imo they look silly and like costume jewelry. I get that with labs it’s exciting that we can all rock big stones but proportions still matter when it comes to the overall look.

I usually don’t notice rings unless they are especially ugly or particularly striking in some way.

For me I just would not a giant stone on a ring I wear daily. I have a small engagement ring and very simple wedding band and I wear them all the time -- the the gym, doing yard work, work, travel, etc. I don't really think of them as accessories or part of my outfit. They are sentimental. A reminder of my marriage and family that I like having with me all the time.

I have a couple rings I wear to parties or out for a fancy meal that have bigger stones and are much more eye-catching. To me, those are accessories I wear to compliment an outfit, same as I might pick out a necklace or a pair of shoes. I would never wear them daily, it would be annoying and way to attention-seeking.

I think for a lot of women, their engagement ring is the first, and sometimes only, "major" piece of jewelry they own, and that's why they tend to go bigger.

+1

My ring is just over .5ct. I love it and wear I everywhere. When I dress up I add an eternity band or 2 which make it look much more blingy. I definitely would not want to wear a big ring all the time. Sometimes I wear no ring if my hands swell. I don't care how others judge my wealth. Im wealthy and know it, so it doesn't really matter what others think. Folks with much larger rings are normally not as well off, and that's ok too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol. This is such a dumb American thing invented by DeBeers. So many cultures in the world don't even have engagement rings, and Americans never even wore them before the 20th century.

We don't even wear wedding bands. Definitely didn't want to piss away thousands of dollars on stupid carbon that's the same thing as in charcoal and pencil lead. Really stupid brainwashing. Much better using that money to buy a house or invest.

Americans are so dumb. Blowing tens of thousands in debt to buy a ring and have a big wedding. Nothing like staring out life in massive amounts of debt on top of studentoans all because you both got into the studios wedding industry's propaganda that you need engagement rings and weddings.

Why are you here? Sounds like you love to hate us. We care not about you or your country enough to bash you on those boards....