Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

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Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

If size or cost of a ring or a wedding was a good measure of a couple's love or predictor of quality or length of the marriage, lives would be so easy.

Same goes for financial status. Just because a couple is frugal or carefree, doesn't mean they don't have higher income, investments or inheritance than schlubs with heavy loans flaunting their extravagant diamond.

I'm always amazed at American's idea of inheritance. Do you mean some cash? Because, for us, it means valuable real estate (no mortgage), good art and jewelry, not just some cash from a generation or two - liar here.

Fixed that for you.

Ohh, the nouveau riche feels insecure. I bet one of those with a grandma from West Virginia, with an outhouse.

Being an ugly classist doesn’t exactly cover you with glory.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge people who judge, I guess. I once had a 13 year old 9th grader mock the size of my ring, telling me my husband must not love me. So there’s that. I suppose I think those who judge rings are juvenile.

For those of you with big showy diamonds: Many people don’t notice or care. If you’re trying to make some impression, just know that plenty of people never look.

A child noticed.
Many people notice.

I’d love to tell that child that the conversation will go into his college recommendation letter and see the priceless reaction.

Wow, an old person threatening to destroy a child's future because her broke a** husband couldn't do better. Bravo! We are so scared and impressed now. Btw, nobody cares about the recommendation letter, it's all about the class rank, activities, and donations.

You’ll be even more impressed by the therapy bills for your little sh!t.

Oh, and a hint of that in the recommendations letter will quickly overrun the class rank and activities. With all the DEI stuff, the colleges want the safe bets.

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I don't know anyone who still wears theirs anymore so no. I have a beautiful engagement ring I never wear.

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I mainly notice in two cases:

1) if the ring is massive and impossible to miss. I figure ostentation is a priority for them.

And 2) if the ring is large and the woman is wearing it while working out. Usually with stacks of pricey bracelets. Lots of diamonds and gold in the gym or studio seems like an odd choice to me. Like, give it a rest, lady. Just file it again as ostentation.

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Anonymous wrote:Only if they are huge or gaudy. I typically assume the man cheated and tried to buy his way back into her good graces. Or he's actively cheating and trying to keep her pacified.

Same. Or second+ marriage or a much older husband.

Anyone that got married in their 20s to someone else in their 20s is unlikely to have a 2+ carat diamond as their original engagement ring. If they do, then it was likely from family money. Spending your parents’ money for your girlfriend’s ring isn’t cute.

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Most rings are pretty standard and I don't notice them and if I do, I don't hate them or love them -- I just don't care one way or another and I hope that the wearer loves it.

The giant, showy rings are tacky and I actively dislike them. I assume that the size of the diamond and making sure that other people would notice it was important to either the wearer or her DH, and both of those things seem lame to me.

I love interesting but understated rings. Like the sort of ring you might not even notice the first few times you interact with someone, but then will see when they hand you something and think "oh, that's very pretty and unique, I wonder if there is a story." I love rings that are not diamonds and don't look like standard engagement rings. I also like multi-stone rings, rings that include stones or other elements that were repurposed from other pieces of jewelry, and any ring that really reflects the style of the wearer, especially if she has distinctive style.

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My ring was a diamond that we inherited. It is stunning but a bit ostentatious for our lifestyle. The stones have the miners cut and each one is different. It was my understanding that these diamonds date back to Tammany Hall days in NY.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 carat. Had to stop wearing it at work, to many nasty comments from others.

My friend recently dropped 10k on a round 5 carat stone solitaire ring and honestly I think it looks too big. Love her and happy she likes it but to me it looks like a ring pop. I see lots of people with what look to be 2ct rings. Were people at work judging you for it being too big? This doesn’t seem crazy big to me unless you have tiny fingers.

Someone dropped 10k on a 5 carat stone? What? I guess "stone" is the correct word, because my 1.5 carat diamond was 10k.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone who still wears theirs anymore so no. I have a beautiful engagement ring I never wear.

Same. I haven’t worn my rings in 6 years. Still married. Nice rings.

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No. But I do have sympathy for anyone thinking their diamond is expensive. Diamonds are really fungus.

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Anonymous wrote:I judge people who judge, I guess. I once had a 13 year old 9th grader mock the size of my ring, telling me my husband must not love me. So there’s that. I suppose I think those who judge rings are juvenile.

For those of you with big showy diamonds: Many people don’t notice or care. If you’re trying to make some impression, just know that plenty of people never look.

A child noticed.
Many people notice.

I’d love to tell that child that the conversation will go into his college recommendation letter and see the priceless reaction.

Wow, an old person threatening to destroy a child's future because her broke a** husband couldn't do better. Bravo! We are so scared and impressed now. Btw, nobody cares about the recommendation letter, it's all about the class rank, activities, and donations.

You’ll be even more impressed by the therapy bills for your little sh!t.

Oh, and a hint of that in the recommendations letter will quickly overrun the class rank and activities. With all the DEI stuff, the colleges want the safe bets.

Mine is in med school and 6'3, so keep dreaming. Let me repeat - class rank, test scores, activities, donations, legacy.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a 3 carat. Had to stop wearing it at work, to many nasty comments from others.

My friend recently dropped 10k on a round 5 carat stone solitaire ring and honestly I think it looks too big. Love her and happy she likes it but to me it looks like a ring pop. I see lots of people with what look to be 2ct rings. Were people at work judging you for it being too big? This doesn’t seem crazy big to me unless you have tiny fingers.

Probably I3 clarity.

Someone dropped 10k on a 5 carat stone? What? I guess "stone" is the correct word, because my 1.5 carat diamond was 10k.

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Anonymous wrote:Isn't stacking your wedding and engagement ring...normal?

It's normal to stack them when you wear both. It's not normal to still be wearing both daily after being married for many years. Most women in our circle will just wear a band daily, both or a totally different diamond ring when more dressed up

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Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

Have you heard of moissanite? Lab diamonds?