Wife takes care of the 'other woman', ends her DH's affair and his marriage in one evening

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Anonymous wrote:I think these Cluster B types tend to find and align with each other. Doesn’t seem to ever end well. The garden variety sociopathic cheater guy aligns with the histrionic bpd like woman whom he can control because she will never willingly leave because she fears being abandoned. But what cheater guy didn’t take into account in this case is that she had no brakes for her crazy. The two cheaters kept pushing the wife on and on further down the road of crazy, and the wife, not being normal or having normal coping skills, spiraled down, down into the depths of utter crazy oblivion.

So what I learned from this story is: (1) take note of how people behave; if they act like Cluster B in any fashion stay far away, (2) there are many reasons not to have an affair; this is yet another one, and (3) appreciate the normal, sane and somewhat boring people in your life. What they lack in excitement they more than make up by not being likely to cheat, gaslight and/or stalk and attack you.

Amen to the bolded!

+1 and great post, PP completely agree.

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I am just wondering why the murderer is named after a major appliance brand.

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How can people here justify murder?

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Anonymous wrote:I think these Cluster B types tend to find and align with each other. Doesn’t seem to ever end well. The garden variety sociopathic cheater guy aligns with the histrionic bpd like woman whom he can control because she will never willingly leave because she fears being abandoned. But what cheater guy didn’t take into account in this case is that she had no brakes for her crazy. The two cheaters kept pushing the wife on and on further down the road of crazy, and the wife, not being normal or having normal coping skills, spiraled down, down into the depths of utter crazy oblivion.

So what I learned from this story is: (1) take note of how people behave; if they act like Cluster B in any fashion stay far away, (2) there are many reasons not to have an affair; this is yet another one, and (3) appreciate the normal, sane and somewhat boring people in your life. What they lack in excitement they more than make up by not being likely to cheat, gaslight and/or stalk and attack you.

Not to mention Meredith had something mental going on. There were two tapes, in one she is having a cry fest temper tantrum because she wanted Mark to help her move. He was still playing husband to his wife. The other she leaves an alarming message on how she wants, and needs to see him right away. Her voice was very high pitched and histrionic. There is a lot to unpack with this case, but I agree it ended up being two bullies pushing a already fragile woman over the cliff. If you see all the Youtube comments on this case 95% only have sympathy for Jennair. No one agrees with murder, but tease and tease and not expecting consequences is simply foolish.

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^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

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Anonymous wrote:How can people here justify murder?

I haven't seen anyone doing that. Merely the danger signs are clear when idiots decide to cheat. The warning shots were flying over the bow, yet two idiots were having too much fun to stop.

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

I don't think they listened to those last 2 week of tapes. She literally lost it, and oddly you know Mark was telling Meredith a lot of what was going on. Meredith could have gone after any single guy as Jennair said on the tape. Yet she kept calling, and bugging Mark because she wanted Mark away from Jennair. I see Meredith as a victim, and perpetrator who had a hand in her own demise.

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Anonymous wrote:I think these Cluster B types tend to find and align with each other. Doesn’t seem to ever end well. The garden variety sociopathic cheater guy aligns with the histrionic bpd like woman whom he can control because she will never willingly leave because she fears being abandoned. But what cheater guy didn’t take into account in this case is that she had no brakes for her crazy. The two cheaters kept pushing the wife on and on further down the road of crazy, and the wife, not being normal or having normal coping skills, spiraled down, down into the depths of utter crazy oblivion.

So what I learned from this story is: (1) take note of how people behave; if they act like Cluster B in any fashion stay far away, (2) there are many reasons not to have an affair; this is yet another one, and (3) appreciate the normal, sane and somewhat boring people in your life. What they lack in excitement they more than make up by not being likely to cheat, gaslight and/or stalk and attack you.

Amen to the bolded!

+1 and great post, PP completely agree.

Plus they won't bring in a unstable outsider to stalk, or prey upon your spouse and family as Mark did.

I'll take stable and boring any day, lol

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

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Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand is why they are doing things like doing to dinner and dog walks and living as husband and wife when he has been cheating on her and they are about to get divorced. Just leave!

The whole situation is 3 unstable people. The only decent one seems like Meredith's exh who told the wife to stop bugging him.

He was unsure about Meredith in reality. He tried to talk Jennair into staying nearby, and didn't want the divorce until she kept sewing recording devices into his jacket. He'd lie and say he wasn't going to call or see Meredith yet she was catching him over and over. They had a big fight where he said he wanted to divorce. I think if she got her act together he wouldn't have divorced her. He wanted to have dinners etc. and commented what a great cook she was. Too bad she didn't focus on herself and get a job. In no time it would have been over with Meredith. Regardless he was horrible.

The bolded is pretty shocking. If a man did this, DCUM would call him an abusive and controlling monster.

Yet he was the one cheating, and telling her he wasn't. He was the one who agreed to go to couples counseling. He lied so much she resorted to getting proof. Yes maybe overboard, but still I'm going to blame the liar and cheater versus the one that catches the creep.

She had more than enough proof. She was trying to force/beg her way into a marriage that was over. You cannot force someone to be married to you. She planned all of this meticulously. She even took shooting classes. Cheating is horrible, but it comes no where close to what she did. And she was very intentional, not an impulsive act.

By, no means--none at all, condoning what she did.

But, don't cheat. If you don't want to greatly lessen the possibility of a crazy person coming after you or your family: don't mess with theirs. Period. Done.

Exactly. These cases are rather frequent. Chris Watts took out his own family to be with the floozy. In these cheating scenarios it seldom ends well even if it doesn't become violent.

Much easier to be a decent member of society instead of messing up other people's lives IMO.

Chris Watts is Jennair in this case: a nut job who thinks that his/ her ego/sexual obsession are are so significant that they justify taking another person's life.

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^ Chris Watts was the cheater, not the betrayed spouse. He killed his pregnant wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

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Anonymous wrote:^ Chris Watts was the cheater, not the betrayed spouse. He killed his pregnant wife.[/quote

He murdered for "love and a relationship" and so did she. They are both murderous psychos.

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Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

These things are consolations and secondary. For most women, their marriage is the single most life-determining thing there is, and the original nuclear family they created and gave birth to is not replaceable like a new job or career bump. It is their soul.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ you need to read more critically. No one is justifying murder. Lots of people are recognizing that the wife was abused (gaslit, etc) and had a breakdown as a result, and was obviously (and understandably) not stable at the end.

And that if you want to greatly reduce your chances of a crazy person going after you or your family, don’t f@“”ck and maintain a relationship with somebody that’s married. Pretty simple.

We have different takes on this. For me the lesson is that your marriage should not be the only thing that you have going for you. You need close friends and family. You need to build a world outside your marriage. You cannot own a human being. If someone does not want to be married to you move on. She is dead and buried. And he is living his life, putting his ugly face out there, using her name to seek attention.

These things are consolations and secondary. For most women, their marriage is the single most life-determining thing there is, and the original nuclear family they created and gave birth to is not replaceable like a new job or career bump. It is their soul.

NP. Huh? What are you talking about? Your marriage is life-determining? Not a single one of my friends thinks of their marriage this way. A marriage and a family are a lot of work. Having friends and other life affirming outlets outside of the marriage and family is so important, that’s your lifeline in times of stress.