SAHM Reentering the Work Force - What not to do

[Anonymous]

I and a colleague recently got over 400 resumes for one federal sector attorney job. We whittled our interviews down to ten. Then down to three. One was a woman who interviewed quite well until we asked her what she wanted out of the position. She basically said she wanted a chance to do meaningful work and raise a family (she was unmarried at that time). Both I and my colleague have kids, but we didn't like her stating this in an interview. We hired a very bright gay man who didn't say anything about kids instead. And we never looked back for a second.

[Anonymous]

Man here. You ladies are still at it? It's Friday night so you're all SAHMs for the next 2 days (3 for some of you because of the holiday). Enjoy yourselves and don't waste away a weekend feeling combative and insecure.

[Anonymous]

http://i.word.com/idictionary/nonplus

Miriam webster says you used it incorrectly. Just stopping by.

-grammar police

Whoop whoop

[Anonymous]

Doesn't nonplussed = confused?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I and a colleague recently got over 400 resumes for one federal sector attorney job. We whittled our interviews down to ten. Then down to three. One was a woman who interviewed quite well until we asked her what she wanted out of the position. She basically said she wanted a chance to do meaningful work and raise a family (she was unmarried at that time). Both I and my colleague have kids, but we didn't like her stating this in an interview. We hired a very bright gay man who didn't say anything about kids instead. And we never looked back for a second.

Excellent! Put that on the thread for "WOHM hopeful looking for a job -- what not to do!"

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I and a colleague recently got over 400 resumes for one federal sector attorney job. We whittled our interviews down to ten. Then down to three. One was a woman who interviewed quite well until we asked her what she wanted out of the position. She basically said she wanted a chance to do meaningful work and raise a family (she was unmarried at that time). Both I and my colleague have kids, but we didn't like her stating this in an interview. We hired a very bright gay man who didn't say anything about kids instead. And we never looked back for a second.

You are vile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I and a colleague recently got over 400 resumes for one federal sector attorney job. We whittled our interviews down to ten. Then down to three. One was a woman who interviewed quite well until we asked her what she wanted out of the position. She basically said she wanted a chance to do meaningful work and raise a family (she was unmarried at that time). Both I and my colleague have kids, but we didn't like her stating this in an interview. We hired a very bright gay man who didn't say anything about kids instead. And we never looked back for a second.

That applicant lucked out. And you and your colleague are complete asshats. And possibly discriminatory.
Congrats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh really ? You've never heard a SAHM say to a WOHM at preschool dropoff, "It must be so hard to work when you have small children"? My response was, "No, actually, it's not because I'm high energy and organized."

What an annoying response. Do you need to imply an insult to SAHMs in your response? I would never assume that "It must be so hard to work when you have small children" is an insult - my SIL has said that to me and I took it as a compliment - like, "wow, you have your act together, way to rise up to the challenge."

I think the top poster just wants to hear "YOU are so much better than I am" from the SAHM. That is the only thing that will satisfy someone like the top poster.

It's great that you are high energy and organized.... hooray for you. Are you seriously telling the rest of us that it ISN'T hard to be commuting and working away from home for at least 50 hrs a week AND manage/love/nurture small children in the remaining waking hours of the day? Seriously?

Why are you so defensive and cold that you kick someone who is trying to sympathize with the challenges you (or at least most working moms) face? Looking for fights much?

(A WashPo article a few years back said that 80% of working mothers worry about not having enough time at home, while almost none of the working fathers worried about it!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I and a colleague recently got over 400 resumes for one federal sector attorney job. We whittled our interviews down to ten. Then down to three. One was a woman who interviewed quite well until we asked her what she wanted out of the position. She basically said she wanted a chance to do meaningful work and raise a family (she was unmarried at that time). Both I and my colleague have kids, but we didn't like her stating this in an interview. We hired a very bright gay man who didn't say anything about kids instead. And we never looked back for a second.

That applicant lucked out. And you and your colleague are complete asshats. And possibly discriminatory.
Congrats.

Discrimination based on family/parent status IS in violation of an executive order that came out during Clinton's administration. I was an attorney at OPM at the time (no kids) and I thought it was the silliest thing ever b/c EVERYBODY (almost) had kids -- so how/why would they discriminate! But... now I see why the exec. order was necessary.... and apparently still is.

Sad commentary on hiring practices. It is illegal in the fed. gov.

[Anonymous]

Merriam-Webster


Definition of NONPLUS
: a state of bafflement or perplexity : quandary

[Anonymous]

Neither candidate (single woman, gay man) had children at the time, so how can discrimination be based on family status?

I do wonder how the PP knew that the man was gay though -- did it come up in conversation? maybe that's a good thing to let your interviewers know? I would have thought maybe to keep quiet about sexual orientation, personally, as not being relevant to the job description and duties...

[Anonymous]

What part of "never looked back for a second" did you not understand?

We did not appreciate her announcing an entitlement to a family-friendly schedule in an interview. Especially since she didn't even have a family yet. She sure stated her priorities. She'd work when she felt like it. Thanks, but no thanks!

[Anonymous]

non·plussed/nän?pl?st/
Adjective:
1.(of a person) Surprised and confused so much that they are unsure how to react.
2.(of a person) Unperturbed.


unperturbed is also a usage of non plussed.