SSFS Will Stay Open

[Anonymous]

*more money then in recent years

[Anonymous]

*than in recent years

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

[Anonymous]

We have an alum and thought about leaving mid upper school. The school had changed for the worse, the climate was messed up and the academics were very spotty. I’m really delighted that the school isn’t closing and wishing it the best. I can definitely understand, though, that some families who did decide to leave feel a little salty still-it was a real financial stretch for us and in the end our child’s experience was pretty toxic.

We had been there for years, though, and so had much more positive experiences to look back on. For people that came later and don’t have that I don’t blame them for feeling irritated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

More lecturing. More assumptions. The people who choose to stay are not stupid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

So, you're looking to feel vindicated? Asking for a Friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

So, you're looking to feel vindicated? Asking for a Friend.

I’m the pp with an alum who is very glad the school is going to be okay and hopefully thrive. You are not helping by gaslighting people whose kids had a horrible time at great expense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

More lecturing. More assumptions. The people who choose to stay are not stupid.

Maybe it’s attitudes like this why ppl who left feel vindicated? You’re not stupid but you sure are rude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

So, you're looking to feel vindicated? Asking for a Friend.

I’m the pp with an alum who is very glad the school is going to be okay and hopefully thrive. You are not helping by gaslighting people whose kids had a horrible time at great expense.

Your post is different from the one I am responding to. I feel for any family who has a horrible time at SSFS or any other school. School should be a place that affirms the worth of all who attend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

More lecturing. More assumptions. The people who choose to stay are not stupid.

Maybe it’s attitudes like this why ppl who left feel vindicated? You’re not stupid but you sure are rude.

Pushing back is not rude and obviously agree. When you make statements such as this, "It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance", you are stating the obvious and therefore it comes across as lecturing and with the assumption that we didn't or wouldn't have our eyes open - hence the "we are not stupid" comeback.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

So, you're looking to feel vindicated? Asking for a Friend.

I’m the pp with an alum who is very glad the school is going to be okay and hopefully thrive. You are not helping by gaslighting people whose kids had a horrible time at great expense.

My kid also had a horrible time at great expense. I don’t understand these ppl who dismiss that happened and claim the school is a magical place. Doesn’t the fact that the school was going out of business prove that enough ppl had bad experience? Seriously those ppl need to stop being so arrogant

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

So, you're looking to feel vindicated? Asking for a Friend.

No, not really. It would be nice if the people who assured me that everything at SSFS is totally fine would reconsider their views and their judgment of me, but whatever. My kids don't go there anymore so I'm less and less connected with it socially. The trouble was plain for me to see, but not everyone is a numbers-y and nonprofit governance-type person I guess.

I would like to see SSFS survive this difficult period. I just don't see how that can happen without people at least trying to make an honest reckoning of why they're currently in such dire trouble. I don't care if they discuss it with me, I just hope it happens. A lot of people had their head in the sand and it's time for that to stop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

More lecturing. More assumptions. The people who choose to stay are not stupid.

Maybe it’s attitudes like this why ppl who left feel vindicated? You’re not stupid but you sure are rude.

Pushing back is not rude and obviously agree. When you make statements such as this, "It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance", you are stating the obvious and therefore it comes across as lecturing and with the assumption that we didn't or wouldn't have our eyes open - hence the "we are not stupid" comeback.

If people had their eyes open, the parent community would have intervened long before the school got in so deep that it announced closure. The fact that this happened proves that people had their heads in the sand. I'm not going to call people stupid, but I will say they failed to apply critical thinking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

More lecturing. More assumptions. The people who choose to stay are not stupid.

Maybe it’s attitudes like this why ppl who left feel vindicated? You’re not stupid but you sure are rude.

Pushing back is not rude and obviously agree. When you make statements such as this, "It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance", you are stating the obvious and therefore it comes across as lecturing and with the assumption that we didn't or wouldn't have our eyes open - hence the "we are not stupid" comeback.

I was not the person who made the comment about seeing signs early. But don’t you think that person has a valid point at all?? That’s insane. The school literally is going out of business but you think anyone who saw it coming are just full of themselves cause there weren’t any signs at all?

You’re only defensive cause the truth hits a nerve. No one says you’re stupid, but you just annoyed that you can duped, do you lash out at anyone who “states the obvious”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else from SSFS who is staying experiencing an "I told you so" attitude from those who were leaving before the shut down? It's quite disheartening and also curious that they are seeking validation for their decision.

Probably because they felt social approbation for leaving and thought they were treated unfairly by those who judged them, and now they want a second and more favorable chance to explain themselves. To be heard and acknowledged by those who discounted and ignored them before.

It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance. This is an opportunity to learn, and you can learn a lot from people who left. They will sometimes speak more freely than people who still go there, and it's valuable to have their perspective even if you don't agree or it's emotionally hard to hear. The people who didn't see the signs had a very rude awakening and should take this as the learning opportunity that it is.

More lecturing. More assumptions. The people who choose to stay are not stupid.

Maybe it’s attitudes like this why ppl who left feel vindicated? You’re not stupid but you sure are rude.

Pushing back is not rude and obviously agree. When you make statements such as this, "It's very important that the staying families have their eyes wide open, understand what happened, and recognize the signs of trouble well in advance", you are stating the obvious and therefore it comes across as lecturing and with the assumption that we didn't or wouldn't have our eyes open - hence the "we are not stupid" comeback.

Why don't you go ahead and explain what parents did to try and stop the school from collapsing. Seriously, it would make for a very interesting read and a lot of people would like to know. If you're asserting that you saw the signs of trouble, tell us what signs you saw. And what you did about it.