Top regrets in life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Abortion.

+1. I didn't really realize what I'd done until years later. I was pressured into it by a female mentor/boss I thought was my friend. Still makes me sick to my stomach that I confided in her instead of my own mother.

Unbelievably evil and wicked.

Or it may have saved her and a child from a lifetime of misery.

[Anonymous]

Not having more sex in college. You are better looking than you think you are.

Wish I'd written a senior honors thesis. The internship I chose to do instead really sucked.

Saving was never a problem, fortunately. However, among loads of investing mistakes, we should have invested more in real estate each year after the crash in 2008.

Should have focused on softball or running/track and field as my primary sports as a teenager. Had some natural, biological talent in those areas (was faster than most high schoolers by fourth grade), but for social reasons chose basketball. I liked to play bball, but here I am in my early 40s and one of my knees is shot and it has the mobility of someone 20 years older.

My dad and I didn't have a great relationship. We were always arguing, I gave him a lot of bs, and we never properly mended fences before he died.

Should have negotiated much harder for bigger salary attached to a big job change/relocation 10 years ago. Have been behind the market since

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not having a third child. My DH said he wasn't ready and wouldn't be ready and I was already 38, and we had a frozen embryo so we decided to dispose of it. Our marriage wasn't in a good place. Hardest decisions I have ever made and almost immediately regretted it.

He told me a few years ago he wishes I would have pushed back and that he now wishes we had tried for the third. I was so mad.

We have 3 boy embryos on ice. Two girls already from IVF but I'm early 40s. Husband wants to get rid of them but I want to wait until I'm 45 to get rid of them. It's $80/month. I'm glad I came across this. I'm going to push back and have him wait.

[Anonymous]

No regrets, but lots of lessons learned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No regrets, but lots of lessons learned.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My regret is not spending more time with my brother before he passed away.

I’m really sorry. I know exactly how you feel. ❤️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abortion.

+1. I didn't really realize what I'd done until years later. I was pressured into it by a female mentor/boss I thought was my friend. Still makes me sick to my stomach that I confided in her instead of my own mother.

Unbelievably evil and wicked.

Or it may have saved her and a child from a lifetime of misery.

DP here. I think the evil and wicked part is the pressuring from the mentor/boss. I'm rabidly prochoice, but it has to be the woman's choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abortion.

+1. I didn't really realize what I'd done until years later. I was pressured into it by a female mentor/boss I thought was my friend. Still makes me sick to my stomach that I confided in her instead of my own mother.

Unbelievably evil and wicked.

Or it may have saved her and a child from a lifetime of misery.

DP here. I think the evil and wicked part is the pressuring from the mentor/boss. I'm rabidly prochoice, but it has to be the woman's choice.

I strongly suspect there's some revisionist history going on there. The "pressuring" may have simply been explaining the consequences and potential impacts, which are obviously significant with children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not having more sex in college. You are better looking than you think you are.

Wish I'd written a senior honors thesis. The internship I chose to do instead really sucked.

Saving was never a problem, fortunately. However, among loads of investing mistakes, we should have invested more in real estate each year after the crash in 2008.

Should have focused on softball or running/track and field as my primary sports as a teenager. Had some natural, biological talent in those areas (was faster than most high schoolers by fourth grade), but for social reasons chose basketball. I liked to play bball, but here I am in my early 40s and one of my knees is shot and it has the mobility of someone 20 years older.

My dad and I didn't have a great relationship. We were always arguing, I gave him a lot of bs, and we never properly mended fences before he died.

Should have negotiated much harder for bigger salary attached to a big job change/relocation 10 years ago. Have been behind the market since

lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Abortion.

+1. I didn't really realize what I'd done until years later. I was pressured into it by a female mentor/boss I thought was my friend. Still makes me sick to my stomach that I confided in her instead of my own mother.

Unbelievably evil and wicked.

Or it may have saved her and a child from a lifetime of misery.

DP here. I think the evil and wicked part is the pressuring from the mentor/boss. I'm rabidly prochoice, but it has to be the woman's choice.

The evil and wicked part is that it's totally made up.

[Anonymous]

Taking decades to finally go no contact with my abusive mother. Pushed her for decades to go to therapy to "resolve family conflicts" only to put it together that she felt she did go to "therapy"...aka being indoctrinated by Dr. Laura Schlessinger in the 1990s. She parroted everything that despicable woman said and framed it as parenting, without telling me she was copying her.

Gross.

[Anonymous]

Doubting Matt Gaetz.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not having a third child. My DH said he wasn't ready and wouldn't be ready and I was already 38, and we had a frozen embryo so we decided to dispose of it. Our marriage wasn't in a good place. Hardest decisions I have ever made and almost immediately regretted it.

He told me a few years ago he wishes I would have pushed back and that he now wishes we had tried for the third. I was so mad.

We have 3 boy embryos on ice. Two girls already from IVF but I'm early 40s. Husband wants to get rid of them but I want to wait until I'm 45 to get rid of them. It's $80/month. I'm glad I came across this. I'm going to push back and have him wait.

How touching. Finally someone who respects the sanctity of human life. Maybe you could save the 80 bucks by keeping the embryos in your own freezer, right next to the frozen peas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not having more sex in college. You are better looking than you think you are.

Wish I'd written a senior honors thesis. The internship I chose to do instead really sucked.

Saving was never a problem, fortunately. However, among loads of investing mistakes, we should have invested more in real estate each year after the crash in 2008.

Should have focused on softball or running/track and field as my primary sports as a teenager. Had some natural, biological talent in those areas (was faster than most high schoolers by fourth grade), but for social reasons chose basketball. I liked to play bball, but here I am in my early 40s and one of my knees is shot and it has the mobility of someone 20 years older.

My dad and I didn't have a great relationship. We were always arguing, I gave him a lot of bs, and we never properly mended fences before he died.

Should have negotiated much harder for bigger salary attached to a big job change/relocation 10 years ago. Have been behind the market since

Sorry to read all this - especially about your dad.

But wanted to commend you on having a very self aware list of regrets. Hopefully naming them so clearly helps you to let them go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not having a third child. My DH said he wasn't ready and wouldn't be ready and I was already 38, and we had a frozen embryo so we decided to dispose of it. Our marriage wasn't in a good place. Hardest decisions I have ever made and almost immediately regretted it.

He told me a few years ago he wishes I would have pushed back and that he now wishes we had tried for the third. I was so mad.

We have 3 boy embryos on ice. Two girls already from IVF but I'm early 40s. Husband wants to get rid of them but I want to wait until I'm 45 to get rid of them. It's $80/month. I'm glad I came across this. I'm going to push back and have him wait.

How touching. Finally someone who respects the sanctity of human life. Maybe you could save the 80 bucks by keeping the embryos in your own freezer, right next to the frozen peas.

NP. F off.