My teenage son update. Pease help.

[Anonymous]

I wrote a post a while ago about my teenage son liking a much older girl (22). Many of you told me not to worry about it, and leave him alone.

This thing has now progressed to a sort of relationship. I've talked to my son about it and he told me they are "dating" (as in hanging out more, texting, going to the movies together) but assured me they are not having sex or anything. I find this completely inappropriate,and not mention, weird.

I've voiced my concerns to my neighbor as well, and she assured me of the same thing my son assured me of.

It makes me feel ill, because my worst nightmare is coming true, and how on earth do I know they aren't lying to me about the nature of the relationship?

Hat are your thoughts? Do you have any advice?

[Anonymous]

How old is your son?

[Anonymous]

Approach the 22 yr old and let her know your son is under age and as such it will be considered sexual harrassment as he is too young to be legally able to give consent and you will have her prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.

If it really is love, it can hold until he's old enough.

[Anonymous]

How old is he again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wrote a post a while ago about my teenage son liking a much older girl (22). Many of you told me not to worry about it, and leave him alone.

This thing has now progressed to a sort of relationship. I've talked to my son about it and he told me they are "dating" (as in hanging out more, texting, going to the movies together) but assured me they are not having sex or anything. I find this completely inappropriate,and not mention, weird.

I've voiced my concerns to my neighbor as well, and she assured me of the same thing my son assured me of.

It makes me feel ill, because my worst nightmare is coming true, and how on earth do I know they aren't lying to me about the nature of the relationship?

Hat are your thoughts? Do you have any advice?

is she fat and unattractive and can't find guys her own age?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wrote a post a while ago about my teenage son liking a much older girl (22). Many of you told me not to worry about it, and leave him alone.

This thing has now progressed to a sort of relationship. I've talked to my son about it and he told me they are "dating" (as in hanging out more, texting, going to the movies together) but assured me they are not having sex or anything. I find this completely inappropriate,and not mention, weird.

I've voiced my concerns to my neighbor as well, and she assured me of the same thing my son assured me of.

It makes me feel ill, because my worst nightmare is coming true, and how on earth do I know they aren't lying to me about the nature of the relationship?

Hat are your thoughts? Do you have any advice?

is she fat and unattractive and can't find guys her own age?

What does that have to do with the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old is he again?

He is 17.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old is he again?

He is 17.

When will he be 18?

[Anonymous]

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/305624.page

[Anonymous]

He's over the age of consent in all states around here (where it's either 16 or 14). He'll be a real adult in a matter of months anyway, if he's 17 now.

It's gotta be difficult, but time to let go.

[Anonymous]

If you live in Virginia, he's underage. If you live in DC or Maryland, he's not.

If he's underage, and they are having sex, you can call the police on the neighbor. This will probably not improve the relationship between you and your son.

Other than that, really, what can you do?

[Anonymous]

At that age, let go. She's 22, not 32.

[Anonymous]

It would weird me out too. I'm sure they are having sex. Make sure he has a huge stash of condoms. Have you gotten to know her at all. I can't imagine what a 22 year old girl and a 17 year old boy have in common.

[Anonymous]

OP, from reading the other thread, I understand that your two concerns are that with a girl this age, he is more likely to 1) get his heart broken and 2) have a sexual relationship. Honestly, I don't think the age difference raises the risk of either of those things by very much. Certainly, he's as likely to have sex with a 17 year old girlfriend as with a 22 year old. And as for heartbreak, it may happen, but he may also learn some mature emotional behavior from her and it would be a lesson worth learning.

In your shoes, my only real concern would be that because of her age, she can drink legally and so your son is more likely to use alcohol with her than with a girl his own age. If you haven't already talked about alcohol use with him, I'd have a very serious talk with him about the potential dangers of drinking.

Unless this girl is not generally very nice or seems to really boss him around, I wouldn't worry too much. Observe their dynamic and worry only if you see unhealthy relationship behavior.

[Anonymous]

Why is this your worst nightmare? Is she a nice, normal girl? She's not 52!