YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

Wow, this is horrible. I'm so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

I'm sorry you went through that. I was a foster care worker for many years and saw many foster/adoptive home that should have never been allowed to get kids. It is far more common than people realize and often its just handing over the kids with POA's and not even legal. Often people adopt older kids as they come with a stipend and medical care. Sometimes they are promised a baby by workers if they adopt an older kid. Our kids deserve so much more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

I am so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better. You are right that an agency can stop finalization for a domestic adoption, because in domestic adoption there's a period of time between placement and finalization.

In this case, the adoption was finalized in China, at which point she wasn't pregnant.

Of course it was finalized in China but they had to have a home study and agency here. Most families also do a readoption in the US to make sure its not an issue with citizenship in the future. Either way, the point is, these things happen more than people realize.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

I am so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better. You are right that an agency can stop finalization for a domestic adoption, because in domestic adoption there's a period of time between placement and finalization.

In this case, the adoption was finalized in China, at which point she wasn't pregnant.

Of course it was finalized in China but they had to have a home study and agency here. Most families also do a readoption in the US to make sure its not an issue with citizenship in the future. Either way, the point is, these things happen more than people realize.

Yes, but the agency can't take custody of the child between adoption and readoption. It's not the same as the time between placement and finalization in a domestic adoption.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want more info, this account has a ton. All from Myka’s own mouth. It’s unbelievable how selfish, narcissistic, and vain she is.

https://instagram.com/kimmyreutov?igshid=nop9nvaxniwb

I’m sorry but this account is disgusting. Someone has way too much time on their hands.’

Why is her Instagram page filled with pictures of Cillan Murphy?

I must know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what happens to rehomed kids (warning-sensitive):
https://people.com/crime/tenn-couple-charged-skeletal-remains-little-girl/

Yes, it is definitely shady how those people were legal guardians of unrelated kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?

Hahaha oh sweetie. Are you new to the world of social media influencers? This is the “it” thing now. I know a family on YouTube with a big channel, four kids and the parents are 27 and 29 and they make over $200k a year on YouTube alone, living in NC.

So low class and tacky to make a living off exploiting your kids’ privacy. What nasty people. Do people follow these people for the train wreck aspect?

It’s the “thing” to do now. Go on YouTube and see all the family vloggers with millions of subscribers. Half of them are in their 20s and make $500k+ a year by just making videos. I watch one family that’s in CA and they are mid 20s and just bought a $2million dollar house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

No one ever said it was autism alone. And he has the most severe grade of autism.

I don't think "most severe grade of autism" is a medical term, to be honest, and even if it were, you would think "the most severe grade of autism" is the sort of thing that might give one pause when adopting a child if you already have multiple biological kids at home and plan to get pregnant again immediately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Rehoming adopted kids is much more common than you'd think. However, it's not usually a big deal like this because it is done by "ordinary" people instead of "pseudo-celebs" like this.

And for all of those fighting over whether or not an agency can control if you get pregnant after adoption, no, they obviously can't control your sex life, but they can deny finalization for any number of reasons, one of which is getting pregnant soon after adopting.

I grew up in the system and was legally free (aka, a ward of the state, which usually means a quick adoption). I was rehomed twice.

First time, the adopted family got pregnant right after adopting me. I was their good luck charm. They'd wanted a baby forEVer! They couldn't believe it. Tried for years! YEARS! So much money was spent and then they adopted me and boom, pregnant. Can you believe it? "Please, feel free to take anything we bought for you in your room."

Second time I don't know why, but I suspect it was because a baby became available for fostering to adopt or adoption.

I am so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better. You are right that an agency can stop finalization for a domestic adoption, because in domestic adoption there's a period of time between placement and finalization.

In this case, the adoption was finalized in China, at which point she wasn't pregnant.

Of course it was finalized in China but they had to have a home study and agency here. Most families also do a readoption in the US to make sure its not an issue with citizenship in the future. Either way, the point is, these things happen more than people realize.

Yes, but the agency can't take custody of the child between adoption and readoption. It's not the same as the time between placement and finalization in a domestic adoption.

Actually they can and older kids are placed for adoption via private agencies, its rare but it happens. A private agency, if they have foster homes, can place a child in foster care prior to adoption. But, this was probably done in a shady way under the table without a home study or agency. If the kid is lucky, they used a lawyer but otherwise often the kids are just handed over to the new family, no home study, nothing and either a POA or something else.

Or, really the kids should go into government foster care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, and she has gone on to complain about what a difficult baby little Onyx is, too. I wonder if the older ones will start to worry about the baby being "rehomed".

A lot of moms complain when they have difficult babies....

A lot of moms don’t give their kids away....

He was not a baby. Most moms complain, but you don't complain on video/online where the child and your other kids and their friends and families can hear it all. Imagine what that would do to a child. This kid will go online one day and read all about this. Imagine how that will impact him after all the trauma he's had.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

No one ever said it was autism alone. And he has the most severe grade of autism.

I don't think "most severe grade of autism" is a medical term, to be honest, and even if it were, you would think "the most severe grade of autism" is the sort of thing that might give one pause when adopting a child if you already have multiple biological kids at home and plan to get pregnant again immediately.

+1, you'd focus on the child with the most needs vs. having another one. ASD has different levels but she clearly wasn't well educated or cared. It was easier to give up and replace the kid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?

Hahaha oh sweetie. Are you new to the world of social media influencers? This is the “it” thing now. I know a family on YouTube with a big channel, four kids and the parents are 27 and 29 and they make over $200k a year on YouTube alone, living in NC.

So low class and tacky to make a living off exploiting your kids’ privacy. What nasty people. Do people follow these people for the train wreck aspect?

It’s the “thing” to do now. Go on YouTube and see all the family vloggers with millions of subscribers. Half of them are in their 20s and make $500k+ a year by just making videos. I watch one family that’s in CA and they are mid 20s and just bought a $2million dollar house.

Wonder what will happen to all of them in a few years when people stop caring.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, how many videos does she have? Does she even spend any time outside the taping with her kids? Who would even watch that stuff when its pure marketing products?

Hahaha oh sweetie. Are you new to the world of social media influencers? This is the “it” thing now. I know a family on YouTube with a big channel, four kids and the parents are 27 and 29 and they make over $200k a year on YouTube alone, living in NC.

So low class and tacky to make a living off exploiting your kids’ privacy. What nasty people. Do people follow these people for the train wreck aspect?

It’s the “thing” to do now. Go on YouTube and see all the family vloggers with millions of subscribers. Half of them are in their 20s and make $500k+ a year by just making videos. I watch one family that’s in CA and they are mid 20s and just bought a $2million dollar house.

Just because people are doing it doesn’t make it OK. It’s gross. Such an invasion of privacy for the poor kids.