Is admiring the vibe of private students a shallow motivation for sending our children to private?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This American Life recently had an interview with a black person who grew up black in Russia by a black person in the US.

Although the interviewer claims that Russia was racist the Russian black person is completely free of being a victim. While the person who grew up in US (past segregation) felt victimized and she tried to pin it on the Russian one but the lady was not having it.


The difference between them was stark. Taking on victim mindset comes with self-limitations and personal growth hampering.

All I can say to this post is....Yuck

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it’s not the people that PP hates it’s the “values of the club.”
What are the values of those clubs today that you hate so much? All I know is there are people that pay to join in order to exercise, local community hanging out, kid birthday parties, swimming, bowling, tennis, golf.

What’s your beef with country clubs in 2020?

I am a new poster here and really have no dog in this fight except that you seem very obtuse. I have friends that grew up here that could not swim or go to Chevy in the 1990s because they were African-American or Jewish so you seem very clueless about the reality. Imagine now in 2020 sending your kids to a school where 1/4 of the parents belong to a club that you were not allowed to go to growing up because you were Jewish or African-American. Now imagine running into those same families and grandparents at your kids school functions - some of whom were at the club when you were not allowed there and see how that feels. Let that sink in for a minute.

So what can help you get over this? Anything?

Ok, now I’m banging my head on my desk.

P.S. you can go a (really nice) gym, play tennis for free or for much smaller fees, swim in your own backyard pool or neighborhood pool, bowl all over, golf at many area courses, and ice skate all over the DMV. You can do private lessons in all of these, and still pay far, far, far, far less than you pay to join chevy. You can also engage in these activities with a group of people that isn’t 95% white and heavily republican (at least lately). Face it, the amenities are nice, but there are tons of places to get these amenities for far less. It isn’t the bowling and tennis

I’m Bretton woods imf member and we dont have time to drive all around this clogged up area to do free stuff when the free stuff time slot is. It also doesn’t bother me how people choose to spend their money, esp on stuff not hurting anyone. Does my family joining bretton woods hurt you? Does how we choose to donate and spend our money hurt you? Do these current “Chevy” people hurt you? Do you actually know of any firsthand or just living the dcum dream?

I'm saying this in a nice way - but it's clear you don't really have an understanding of what Chevy is all about. Cute actually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, folks. Does paying for a carefully cultivated ($40k+ a year) patrician air (and maybe sense of noblesse oblige depending on the school) still have the ROI it used to? Or are we headed into a dystopian future (e.g., climate change, class warfare, technological domination) where it’s better to be scrappy and inbound by traditional social mores?

It's always good to be scrappy and aware, IMO. You can still find a way to instill this if your kids are in private school.

[Anonymous]

one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

At many of the top privates, the main difference is "rich." Some are 40-50% non white but most have less than 25% on FA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

Not in DC, the privates here have a lot of non-white student, a very high percentage, I don't know the numbers off-hand, but easily 30-40 percent, IIRC. But, most of the students regardless of race have parents with very high incomes.

[Anonymous]

This is true. The FA students at our private that we know about are white, including ourselves. The overall school population is close to 50% non-white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

Not in DC, the privates here have a lot of non-white student, a very high percentage, I don't know the numbers off-hand, but easily 30-40 percent, IIRC. But, most of the students regardless of race have parents with very high incomes.

My kid's number one choice for private HS has a lot more minorities than our local public and a greater variation in SES.

[Anonymous]

I think you're looking at a small sample size when drawing that conclusion. I went to private schools from elementary to grad school (one of the best, Ivy Leagues). I can tell you that I'm NOT (and never tried to be) cool!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

+1000

“Curated?”

*shivers*

[Anonymous]

Be smarter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

+1000

“Curated?”

*shivers*

NP, but I do think some people are kidding themselves that they don't want their kids exposed to certain things. My niece is in a public school, not in DC, where a girl jumped her in the hallway and tried to pull her hair out because she apparently looked at the girl's boyfriend. She is terrified to go to school and is begging her parents to send her to a private. I'm not saying there aren't issues at private schools, but some of the things some kids face at certain publics would likely not happen at a smaller private school. So yes, her parents would like to "curate" an environment for their daughter that does not involve her being physically attacked at school. It doesn't mean they want to send her somewhere where everyone wears Vineyard Vines lest she come across a non name-brand shirt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is true. The FA students at our private that we know about are white, including ourselves. The overall school population is close to 50% non-white.

The majority of FA kids at our school are
White faculty kids. All the minorities are very affluent and very well educated. The minority families at our public school were 100% low income. My kids,
Unlike me, will grow up seeing rich people of EVERY race, not just rich white people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

+1000

“Curated?”

*shivers*

What is wrong with the word curated? Do you not know what it means? There is nothing wrong with the word, it’s your mind that is taking it to a weird place. Our school curates to ensure a heterogeneous socioeconomic group with lots of diversity. Our private is WAY more diverse (race and economic) than our public elementary school was.