Is admiring the vibe of private students a shallow motivation for sending our children to private?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know, folks. Does paying for a carefully cultivated ($40k+ a year) patrician air (and maybe sense of noblesse oblige depending on the school) still have the ROI it used to? Or are we headed into a dystopian future (e.g., climate change, class warfare, technological domination) where it’s better to be scrappy and inbound by traditional social mores?

It's always good to be scrappy and aware, IMO. You can still find a way to instill this if your kids are in private school.

Maybe you should start a fight club for your kids? Or just drop them off in the woods without supplies for the weekend. They will adapt and learn quickly.

[Anonymous]

"Hmmmm, this young lad's parents are wasting $50k per year on a school without bus service. He do be vibin' doe."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is true. The FA students at our private that we know about are white, including ourselves. The overall school population is close to 50% non-white.

The majority of FA kids at our school are
White faculty kids. All the minorities are very affluent and very well educated. The minority families at our public school were 100% low income. My kids,
Unlike me, will grow up seeing rich people of EVERY race, not just rich white people.

+1. This is so true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

+1000

“Curated?”

*shivers*

What is wrong with the word curated? Do you not know what it means? There is nothing wrong with the word, it’s your mind that is taking it to a weird place. Our school curates to ensure a heterogeneous socioeconomic group with lots of diversity. Our private is WAY more diverse (race and economic) than our public elementary school was.

Since the beginning of affirmative action private schools, colleges, and job recruiting have all been curating applicants and admits. It’s been the way if the world for awhile now in America.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is true. The FA students at our private that we know about are white, including ourselves. The overall school population is close to 50% non-white.

The majority of FA kids at our school are
White faculty kids. All the minorities are very affluent and very well educated. The minority families at our public school were 100% low income. My kids,
Unlike me, will grow up seeing rich people of EVERY race, not just rich white people.

+1. This is so true.

This. And the faculty kids are also the one whose behavior gets overlooked again and again and again. There’s basically no screening, at least at our private. It’s a problem (the behavior, not the financial aid).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since the beginning of affirmative action private schools, colleges, and job recruiting have all been curating applicants and admits. It’s been the way if the world for awhile now in America.

LOL at you for thinking that curating started with affirmative action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:one of the differences between public and private is that one has a curated peer group. note, I did not say better or worse or more diverse or any other kind of qualifier.

Private school student bodies are curated.

I like the curated student body at our private and the influence it is having on our children.

Maybe your local public has the vibe you are looking for, you won't know until you are in it. Ours did not, so we left.

"curated"

that is a creepy word to use in this context. you sound like a nazi.

the main difference between private and public school kids is that private school kids are rich and white, and public school kids are a mix. that's it. that's all.

+1000

“Curated?”

*shivers*

What is wrong with the word curated? Do you not know what it means? There is nothing wrong with the word, it’s your mind that is taking it to a weird place. Our school curates to ensure a heterogeneous socioeconomic group with lots of diversity. Our private is WAY more diverse (race and economic) than our public elementary school was.

The idea of “curating” children sounds like something Josef Mengele would say.

Also, the only real criteria for getting into private schools is being able to afford the tuition. They’re not exactly choosey.

[Anonymous]

Man you all need to out more or get a more demanding job. Curated, statistically diverse, composed, created, handpicked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is true. The FA students at our private that we know about are white, including ourselves. The overall school population is close to 50% non-white.

The majority of FA kids at our school are
White faculty kids. All the minorities are very affluent and very well educated. The minority families at our public school were 100% low income. My kids,
Unlike me, will grow up seeing rich people of EVERY race, not just rich white people.

+1. This is so true.

Yes, if only more white parents would pay $45,000 a year so their children could observe rich black people, the world would be a very different place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man you all need to out more or get a more demanding job. Curated, statistically diverse, composed, created, handpicked.

Have you been to a private school in dc? They admit a lot of dumb kids

[Anonymous]

There might be fewer behavioral problems in class at a private school but at night and on the weekends there are huge f$&@-ups everywhere. Plus more money, which can make it all worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There might be fewer behavioral problems in class at a private school but at night and on the weekends there are huge f$&@-ups everywhere. Plus more money, which can make it all worse.

...and all the kids in public school sit at home and watch television with their parents all weekend? And because kids in arlington and Montgomery county schools are poor? Haha hahahahah. I wish you well sweet innocent peach...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, the only real criteria for getting into private schools is being able to afford the tuition. They’re not exactly choosey.

Are you suggesting that all the private schools in this area claiming to have admit rates under 10 percent (or even 30 percent) are lying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is true. The FA students at our private that we know about are white, including ourselves. The overall school population is close to 50% non-white.

The majority of FA kids at our school are
White faculty kids. All the minorities are very affluent and very well educated. The minority families at our public school were 100% low income. My kids,
Unlike me, will grow up seeing rich people of EVERY race, not just rich white people.

+1. This is so true.

Yes, if only more white parents would pay $45,000 a year so their children could observe rich black people, the world would be a very different place.

Pumpkin, all we're saying is that the PP’s particular concern is unfounded. I’m sure PP is vastly comforted.

I do think there’s benefit for white kids being regularly exposed to highly successful black families. Experiences create implicit biases, and you’re fooling yourself if you don’t think that’s the case.

[Anonymous]

I may get blasted for saying this, but I agree with pp. my mixed race/half white kid has a view that black people are smart and successful and, more importantly, friends. He has that view about every race at his school, including missed race kids (there are a ton). This is a GOOD thing. It forms his foundational belief system and that all his classmates.