Recent suicides at Langley HS?

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" And the candlelight vigil is underway "

I saw some beautiful photos of that on facebook.

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Anonymous wrote:What info do want? Suicide is one of those things that in most cases only makes sense to the person who committed suicide. Depression is a terrible illness. Knowing the boys and their families I can tell you that they were both popular good kids from good homes who unfortunately had troubles that overwhelmed them. One of the boys was a football star. I watched him play many times and he had the kind of talent that any player dreams of having. There was no bullying or anything like that. It's just incredibly sad for their families and their many friends. RIP TS and AL.

+1. We knew T well and he was loved at school and home, and was kind and caring and funny and had a beautiful smile. We heard similar things about A tonight. Depression is terrible.
Rest in peace boys.

This makes me so sad, and worry about my own teen.

Same here. I want to learn more about what causes it so that we can learn how to prevent it. So sad for the families.

The source of much depression is something we can, and should, address.

Not all depression is "irrational". Can we face some reality?

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I don't suppose anyone will ever breathe a peep about what issues either student was depressed about. If, however, as someone here has speculated, no one really knows, right there is your answer. No one took the time and made the effort to really know these young people.

So hey, let's just keep up the guessing game. Maybe start getting to know your own kids and their classmates? But when, you ask? Hard to say, since you can't much pull off "speed" anything with your kid. It's all about "slow" parenting, giving our kids whatever time they need. What's the rush, anyways?

The kids who get the most firm foundations, are the ones most likely to make it through the tough times.

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I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.

That is not true. Depression can have some really specific causes. Remove those causes and depression lifts.

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That's not depression that's sadness. While related they are not the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not depression that's sadness. While related they are not the same thing.

Sad people, especially teenagers who are prone to impulsivity, can still act on it. So if the end result can be the same, there is no difference.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.

That is not true. Depression can have some really specific causes. Remove those causes and depression lifts.

A don't think even a Dr Phil would say something like this.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not depression that's sadness. While related they are not the same thing.

No, it is situational depression.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.

If you're getting a divorce after 25 years of marriage, and are experiencing depression, please explain how you perceive that as irrational.

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I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.
If you're getting a divorce after 25 years of marriage, and are experiencing depression, please explain how you perceive that as irrational.

Because you should have known going in that it was 50/50 at best that you wouldn't get divorced...

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I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.
If you're getting a divorce after 25 years of marriage, and are experiencing depression, please explain how you perceive that as irrational.

Because you should have known going in that it was 50/50 at best that you wouldn't get divorced...

Your answer speaks of a person who isn't especially knowledgable about depression.

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Exactly. Read this http://www.healthline.com/health-blogs/bipolar-bites/whats-difference-between-sadness-depression. You should be sad if you are going through a divorce. It's rational to feel "depressed". But that is not clinical depression.

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly. Read this http://www.healthline.com/health-blogs/bipolar-bites/whats-difference-between-sadness-depression. You should be sad if you are going through a divorce. It's rational to feel "depressed". But that is not clinical depression.

Who cares about splitting hairs over semantics, when all you're really doing is guessing anyways.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the things that the kids were depressed about are known I just don't think anyone thought it would rise to the level of taking their own lives. That's the thing about depression it is irrational-- it's a disease that unless you have it or have had it you have trouble understanding.

That is not true. Depression can have some really specific causes. Remove those causes and depression lifts.

A don't think even a Dr Phil would say something like this.

When we turn everything into a 'I can't help it' or 'it's not my fault' situation, we are much less likely try to pull ourselves out of a hole. Every case of depression is not clinical.