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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

Lol, thanks for finally admitting what all the outrage is about. How petty.

My family is incredibly privileged to be able to pay 4/5 of the tuition.
And, while I am grateful for the 1/5 we get in aid, I also know my well-behaved academically advanced kid is contributing to the school. I don't think we'd get aid if that wasn't the case. I don't feel like a second class citizen at the school and if that makes full pay families mad, then they can be mad.

You think you have a seat at the table but you are actually at the kid’s table and that is by mistake that somehow you slipped by the admissions team. We pity how little you understand about the world however enjoy the aid while it lasts.

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Anonymous wrote:You would be a wealthy family in public school. However you want financial aid to put a total of 3 kids in private school instead. How does any of this make sense?

What is wrong with this? Isn't it up to the school to decide?

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

Lol, thanks for finally admitting what all the outrage is about. How petty.

My family is incredibly privileged to be able to pay 4/5 of the tuition.
And, while I am grateful for the 1/5 we get in aid, I also know my well-behaved academically advanced kid is contributing to the school. I don't think we'd get aid if that wasn't the case. I don't feel like a second class citizen at the school and if that makes full pay families mad, then they can be mad.

You think you have a seat at the table but you are actually at the kid’s table and that is by mistake that somehow you slipped by the admissions team. We pity how little you understand about the world however enjoy the aid while it lasts.

I doubt you even have a kid in private school and are just stirring up sh*t for fun (yes you're a troll)

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

Lol, thanks for finally admitting what all the outrage is about. How petty.

My family is incredibly privileged to be able to pay 4/5 of the tuition.
And, while I am grateful for the 1/5 we get in aid, I also know my well-behaved academically advanced kid is contributing to the school. I don't think we'd get aid if that wasn't the case. I don't feel like a second class citizen at the school and if that makes full pay families mad, then they can be mad.

The admissions standards are the same for all kids, regardless of financial aid. Your kid going to school there, who is academically advanced and well behaved, contributes nothing more than the next kid.


On the other hand, as a parent you are contributing much less than the other parents. You are actually letting the others parents pay for your kid. You are receiving a generous gift however you seem to think you earned it. You have not.

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

Okay, so take the lead. Write a thank you to the largest donors, who make your kid’s experience possible. Or are you ungrateful?

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

Lol, thanks for finally admitting what all the outrage is about. How petty.

My family is incredibly privileged to be able to pay 4/5 of the tuition.
And, while I am grateful for the 1/5 we get in aid, I also know my well-behaved academically advanced kid is contributing to the school. I don't think we'd get aid if that wasn't the case. I don't feel like a second class citizen at the school and if that makes full pay families mad, then they can be mad.

You think you have a seat at the table but you are actually at the kid’s table and that is by mistake that somehow you slipped by the admissions team. We pity how little you understand about the world however enjoy the aid while it lasts.

I doubt you even have a kid in private school and are just stirring up sh*t for fun (yes you're a troll)

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

This is a joke, right? Financial aid is coming from the endowment and other sources. It’s not coming from anybody else’s tuition.

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

This is a joke, right? Financial aid is coming from the endowment and other sources. It’s not coming from anybody else’s tuition.

Yet another example how this site is full on fan-fiction for most people. Anon is great and important, but there's a very large % of people here just commenting on **** they have no clue about (pretty much like everywhere else on the Internet)

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

This is a joke, right? Financial aid is coming from the endowment and other sources. It’s not coming from anybody else’s tuition.

Yet another example how this site is full on fan-fiction for most people. Anon is great and important, but there's a very large % of people here just commenting on **** they have no clue about (pretty much like everywhere else on the Internet)

But the other poster is correct, at least at schools with decent endowments (which is most of the good ones).

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

This is a joke, right? Financial aid is coming from the endowment and other sources. It’s not coming from anybody else’s tuition.

Yet another example how this site is full on fan-fiction for most people. Anon is great and important, but there's a very large % of people here just commenting on **** they have no clue about (pretty much like everywhere else on the Internet)

But the other poster is correct, at least at schools with decent endowments (which is most of the good ones).

Yes I was agreeing with that point and also calling out posters who think they're subsidizing everyone else (and probably not actually subsidizing anything because they're making crap up)

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If you are a large donor at a private school then I think it’s completely reasonable that children are financial aid and thank you note. And I say that to somebody who’s on financial aid. What’s

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Anonymous wrote:What I have seen at our school, families with multiple children getting substantial FA taking vacations to Europe where families like ours that are full pay for two kids can't afford to take the number of vacations the families on FA take or got to places like the FA families do. That I think is unfair.

Then you should have applied for FA. The school does not expect you to live like a pauper, even if some of the weirdos here do.

I have seen very few full pay families have to restrain themselves the way you are.

Agree. There is no reason to live like a pauper. The schools don't require aid families to do this. If you are choosing to do so then that is your choice. If it helps you sleep at night, good for you. I sleep better knowing we're not paying full price.

You can't force your standard on everyone else, especially since the schools themselves don't share your standard.

You sleep better knowing that other parents at your school are paying for your own kids? Subsidizing your kids through financial aid?

That is a weird thing to say. You are not pulling your weight as a parent. Personally I think you should try to pay back the generous gift you are receiving. Donate it all back.

You are either uninformed or just bitter. Another parent who sleeps better at night knowing they receive financial aid. We fill out our forms correctly and we receive an amount that allows us to send our children to an amazing school. We are incredibly grateful. If I ran into a tremendous amount of money, I would absolutely make a massive donation to our school, but it’s not a quid pro quo. It’s more like a sliding scale for those of you that are so confused.

You are receiving a generous gift. The entitlement on display among some of the posters is really shocking. I have donated large amounts to our school and I am reconsidering my priorities.


They aren’t giving you a discount. They are supposed to be offering a life altering gift to your children.

Can you please explain the difference between a gift of partial tuition and a discount on tuition?

It is a gift because generous donors are paying it for you. Their philanthropy makes it possible. The money has to come from somewhere, and it is from donations as well as from the full pay families who pay thousands more in tuition each year to make financial aid possible.

If you are on financial aid, there are other people paying the bill for your kids.

At the schools with the largest donors and endowments, even the full pay kids have other people paying the bill for them. Hope you wrote them a thank you note.

your reference to thank you notes is mostly sarcastic, but it would be nice if the kids and families of the kids being subsidized showed some gratitude to the wealthier families who are subsidizing them; many of these schools seem to have a culture of looking at "privilege" as something negative.

This is a joke, right? Financial aid is coming from the endowment and other sources. It’s not coming from anybody else’s tuition.

Where did you get those ideas from?

1. That FA is coming from the school’s endowment. That’s true at Harvard, where the endowment has grown to a gargantuan number. But it’s not even a little bit true of the local privates

2. That there other sources that fund FA? All the money from all the sources goes into the Revenue bucket. There aren’t individual sources for individual expenses.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a large donor at a private school then I think it’s completely reasonable that children are financial aid and thank you note. And I say that to somebody who’s on financial aid. What’s

Let’s say you are on an airplane enroute to LA. You paid $500 for your seat. The airline said that’s the price and you apparently agreed.

Turns out the person in the seat next to you paid $400 for their ticket. Maybe they bought if at the last minute or months earlier.

What does that person owe you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are a large donor at a private school then I think it’s completely reasonable that children are financial aid and thank you note. And I say that to somebody who’s on financial aid. What’s

Let’s say you are on an airplane enroute to LA. You paid $500 for your seat. The airline said that’s the price and you apparently agreed.

Turns out the person in the seat next to you paid $400 for their ticket. Maybe they bought if at the last minute or months earlier.

What does that person owe you?

the courtesy to not lean on me

and yes a nice response +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are a large donor at a private school then I think it’s completely reasonable that children are financial aid and thank you note. And I say that to somebody who’s on financial aid. What’s

Let’s say you are on an airplane enroute to LA. You paid $500 for your seat. The airline said that’s the price and you apparently agreed.

Turns out the person in the seat next to you paid $400 for their ticket. Maybe they bought if at the last minute or months earlier.

What does that person owe you?

Not relevant at all. Donors give large sums of money to make financial aid possible. It is funded by charity and by the tuition of full pay families.

Being on financial aid means that you are receiving a life changing gift.