
That’s some story you’re coming up with there. |
You didn't hear about the girls that killed Reggie Brown? DO BETTER GIRL PARENTS. JFC |
No one is disputing the poor decision-making of driving drunk -- and getting in a car with a drunk driver-- the whole situation is a nightmare. I truly feel for the boy who died, the boys in the car, and the driver and their family and friends. Such a sad, sad time. |
There is a correlation that certain parents make about being “normal” and partying. It sometimes leads to a tragedy, like this one or the one that occurred when the McLean HS student tragically killed the W-L student. Is being popular and normal worth it to let your kids behave like this? |
I don't think he'll get bond. I think they'll have to escalate it to a higher court. |
DP. My brother did something similar and our parents spent all of their money on lawyers. They blew through their retirement funds, college funds, and sold their house. We moved to a 2 bedroom apartment just to stay in the school district and parents broke up about a year later because they were wretched over what had happened. My three other siblings and I had no money for college so two of us went into them military and two married the first men who asked them. Our brother "found Jesus" in jail and got out after ten years. He married a wealthy women who "dated" him while he was in jail and now has a much better life than any of us. We all resent what happened to our lives because of our brother's drunk driving. He turned out to be the winner. |
Nice try, but all the statistics agree with me. Boys are the problem. Murders, bar fights, drunk driving, reckless driving, rapes, domestic violence, school fights, school shootings - an overwhelming majority of these incidents are committed by males. By a wide margin. Without males, the world would be a MUCH safer place. "If there were no men, who would protect the women?" "Protect the women from what?" |
I would love to hear a list from the holier than thou people in this thread of all of the affirmative things they do with their teens to prevent them from being involved in an incident like this.
I don't especially need it myself, but you just seem like the kind of people who talk a big game but don't have much follow through. And I'm just curious what special parenting skills you're attributing to yourselves. Some of your comments in here are so awful and cold, I can't really imagine THAT translating into good parenting. What would you do, for example, if you found out your kid drank alcohol without you knowing, underage, and without your permission (obvs)? What if you found out they attended a party of a good friend where, you found out later, one of the kids had brought alcohol or drugs? This hasn't happened to me, and it sounds like it hasn't happened to you, but given the attitude above, I wonder what your responses would be. |
Do stop by the field behind Cardinal Elementary school - the part backing to 19th Street -- you will see the little darlings in action. |
This is a nightmare, too, and I’m sorry you personally were impacted like that. That’s awful. |
The #1 thing is modeling with your own alcohol intake as an adult. If you have poor habits (drinking frequently, at every social outing, having a glass or two of wine to "unwind" etc) then kids are going to pick up that. The kids make poor choices, because the adults in their loves make poor choices. The alcohol culture in this country is absolutely dysfunctional. |
Also, check the houses with finished basements "for the kids". That's where a sexual assault occurred this past spring in 22205 (YHS students). Lots of sleepover parties where the parents took all of the car keys and didn't return them until am. Also a nice drink fridge down there. |
My teens don't go to random parties where kids will be drinking. And yes everyone knows in advance if its a drinking party or not. They don't hang out with random teens I don't know. When they do go out I drop them off and they are not allowed to ride home with others except a parent that I fully trust. They have a strict curfew that is enforced and can only sleep over a very limited number of places. And if I ever discovered that a parent or friend that I trust was not in fact trustworthy, my teen would not be allowed at that home and the friend could socialize only at our home. |
Not saying that I’m a great parent, but one thing I think I have done right is that as my kids have gotten older (middle school) I have become more self conscious about my own drinking. Now I drink on a very limited basis socially and rarely drink at home now. I see too many parents in N Arlington who socialize with an obscene amount of alcohol. It has become the norm and I do think that we need to set a better example for our kids. It won’t work to binge drink with your own friends at the block party but then tell your kids to not drink. This is obviously not a solution but it’s a start to changing the culture. |
I agree. But it also doesn’t always matter. My husband and I don’t drink. Our kids moderately drink at parties. |