Yes. Your Kid is overscheduled.

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Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

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Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

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Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

If your kids enjoy activities and you can do it, why would you say no?

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Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

It is, especially when they are older, because they are able to access friends’ phones/computers/tvs that you can’t restrict. Really think you’re going to follow around your middle schooler during free time to make sure he isn’t sitting around his friends’ phones gaming instead of biking?

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Anonymous wrote:so I struggle with this - I have a young son and I am trying to expose him to various sports to try to find out what he likes. He seems to like them all. I just found out that 2 of the sports have games at the exact same time so I will probably pull him out of one to not miss games. It feels stressful because he is not exposed to the sport I pull him ot of - he is 7. I guess there is plenty of time to try it.

Same. It feels like there actually is such a small window to try some sports. We are outside of DC but to get on the decent baseball teams around here you have to start trying out at age 7... by 10 it would be impossible to make a team unless you had been consistently practicing. I get that some people are fine with very casual rec sports only but, at least here, there is then zero chance you will make a high school team.

My boys are athletic and play a lot of sports. I have one who played rec basketball and played neighborhood basketball but didn’t do any extra training. Now he is in middle school and it is too late to get on one of these competitive basketball teams. We just started skills training and there is a huge difference between the boys like my son and the ones who have been going to these shooting and skills training for years. Those baseball kids OP may be complaining about are probably doing extra pitching clinic in addition to their travel baseball team.

There was a thread a few months ago about a mom who regretted not pushing her kid harder. I guess her kid didn’t make the high school teams because she didn’t do the extra for her kid. My kid might be too late for basketball by starting this training in middle school. We hope if he works hard enough that he can make the high school team. I wish we knew about this sooner.

It's hard to play catch up in any skilled sport. Hockey is the same. By age 12, the kids who started skating and playing hockey at 4 years old and have done lessons and clinics and played on competitive teams are so far ahead that they will never be caught. Most governing bodies like USA Hockey have the concept of "Windows of Trainability" - refers to the point in the development of a specific capacity when training has an optimal effect.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

If your kids enjoy activities and you can do it, why would you say no?

Right. I think the biggest things some people don't seem to understand is that some kids like to be busy and have found an activity they love to be at.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

If your kids enjoy activities and you can do it, why would you say no?

Logistics, there are plenty of reasons to say no to specific activities without saying no to all activities.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

If your kids enjoy activities and you can do it, why would you say no?

Logistics, there are plenty of reasons to say no to specific activities without saying no to all activities.

Ok, but that's your particular situation and that's ok but if other families can make it work, and do, where is the issue? Or, is the issue you want to justify not having your kids in activities or looking for free child care via other parents sending your kids to their house calling it a playdate.

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Anonymous wrote:so I struggle with this - I have a young son and I am trying to expose him to various sports to try to find out what he likes. He seems to like them all. I just found out that 2 of the sports have games at the exact same time so I will probably pull him out of one to not miss games. It feels stressful because he is not exposed to the sport I pull him ot of - he is 7. I guess there is plenty of time to try it.

Same. It feels like there actually is such a small window to try some sports. We are outside of DC but to get on the decent baseball teams around here you have to start trying out at age 7... by 10 it would be impossible to make a team unless you had been consistently practicing. I get that some people are fine with very casual rec sports only but, at least here, there is then zero chance you will make a high school team.

My boys are athletic and play a lot of sports. I have one who played rec basketball and played neighborhood basketball but didn’t do any extra training. Now he is in middle school and it is too late to get on one of these competitive basketball teams. We just started skills training and there is a huge difference between the boys like my son and the ones who have been going to these shooting and skills training for years. Those baseball kids OP may be complaining about are probably doing extra pitching clinic in addition to their travel baseball team.

There was a thread a few months ago about a mom who regretted not pushing her kid harder. I guess her kid didn’t make the high school teams because she didn’t do the extra for her kid. My kid might be too late for basketball by starting this training in middle school. We hope if he works hard enough that he can make the high school team. I wish we knew about this sooner.

It's hard to play catch up in any skilled sport. Hockey is the same. By age 12, the kids who started skating and playing hockey at 4 years old and have done lessons and clinics and played on competitive teams are so far ahead that they will never be caught. Most governing bodies like USA Hockey have the concept of "Windows of Trainability" - refers to the point in the development of a specific capacity when training has an optimal effect.

I know a kid whose kid started skating at 2. We met them in preschool and I thought they were joking when they said their son had ice hockey practice. The kid must have been 3 or 4 back then. The kid is now on a national team.

We know another kid who loved ice hockey and their parents were always driving this kid to practices and tournaments. I remember thinking it was too much and that it wasn’t like this kid was going to play professional ice hockey. I mean their entire lives revolved around this kid’s hockey. He recently went to an elite boarding school to play ice hockey.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

If your kids enjoy activities and you can do it, why would you say no?

Logistics, there are plenty of reasons to say no to specific activities without saying no to all activities.

Ok, but that's your particular situation and that's ok but if other families can make it work, and do, where is the issue? Or, is the issue you want to justify not having your kids in activities or looking for free child care via other parents sending your kids to their house calling it a playdate.

You asked me why parents would say no and I said logistics. Even if parents can make things work it's ok to say no. And I'm not looking for free childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:so I struggle with this - I have a young son and I am trying to expose him to various sports to try to find out what he likes. He seems to like them all. I just found out that 2 of the sports have games at the exact same time so I will probably pull him out of one to not miss games. It feels stressful because he is not exposed to the sport I pull him ot of - he is 7. I guess there is plenty of time to try it.

Same. It feels like there actually is such a small window to try some sports. We are outside of DC but to get on the decent baseball teams around here you have to start trying out at age 7... by 10 it would be impossible to make a team unless you had been consistently practicing. I get that some people are fine with very casual rec sports only but, at least here, there is then zero chance you will make a high school team.

My boys are athletic and play a lot of sports. I have one who played rec basketball and played neighborhood basketball but didn’t do any extra training. Now he is in middle school and it is too late to get on one of these competitive basketball teams. We just started skills training and there is a huge difference between the boys like my son and the ones who have been going to these shooting and skills training for years. Those baseball kids OP may be complaining about are probably doing extra pitching clinic in addition to their travel baseball team.

There was a thread a few months ago about a mom who regretted not pushing her kid harder. I guess her kid didn’t make the high school teams because she didn’t do the extra for her kid. My kid might be too late for basketball by starting this training in middle school. We hope if he works hard enough that he can make the high school team. I wish we knew about this sooner.

It's hard to play catch up in any skilled sport. Hockey is the same. By age 12, the kids who started skating and playing hockey at 4 years old and have done lessons and clinics and played on competitive teams are so far ahead that they will never be caught. Most governing bodies like USA Hockey have the concept of "Windows of Trainability" - refers to the point in the development of a specific capacity when training has an optimal effect.

I know a kid whose kid started skating at 2. We met them in preschool and I thought they were joking when they said their son had ice hockey practice. The kid must have been 3 or 4 back then. The kid is now on a national team.

We know another kid who loved ice hockey and their parents were always driving this kid to practices and tournaments. I remember thinking it was too much and that it wasn’t like this kid was going to play professional ice hockey. I mean their entire lives revolved around this kid’s hockey. He recently went to an elite boarding school to play ice hockey.

So…do the kids enjoy hockey? If they do, what’s the issue?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I not only think overscheduling is killing childhood, but the screens are out of control.

Interesting, because most people would say my kid is overscheduled, but it prevents her from being on screens for more than 30 minutes most days

People use overschedulig to try to curb screen time. For some reason, it's easier than just setting limits.

If your kids enjoy activities and you can do it, why would you say no?

Logistics, there are plenty of reasons to say no to specific activities without saying no to all activities.

Ok, but that's your particular situation and that's ok but if other families can make it work, and do, where is the issue? Or, is the issue you want to justify not having your kids in activities or looking for free child care via other parents sending your kids to their house calling it a playdate.

You asked me why parents would say no and I said logistics. Even if parents can make things work it's ok to say no. And I'm not looking for free childcare.

Yes, it's ok to say no, but many parents enjoy seeing their kids enjoy their hobbies and do well. So, why would we say no? Just to make someone like you happy?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so I struggle with this - I have a young son and I am trying to expose him to various sports to try to find out what he likes. He seems to like them all. I just found out that 2 of the sports have games at the exact same time so I will probably pull him out of one to not miss games. It feels stressful because he is not exposed to the sport I pull him ot of - he is 7. I guess there is plenty of time to try it.

Same. It feels like there actually is such a small window to try some sports. We are outside of DC but to get on the decent baseball teams around here you have to start trying out at age 7... by 10 it would be impossible to make a team unless you had been consistently practicing. I get that some people are fine with very casual rec sports only but, at least here, there is then zero chance you will make a high school team.

My boys are athletic and play a lot of sports. I have one who played rec basketball and played neighborhood basketball but didn’t do any extra training. Now he is in middle school and it is too late to get on one of these competitive basketball teams. We just started skills training and there is a huge difference between the boys like my son and the ones who have been going to these shooting and skills training for years. Those baseball kids OP may be complaining about are probably doing extra pitching clinic in addition to their travel baseball team.

There was a thread a few months ago about a mom who regretted not pushing her kid harder. I guess her kid didn’t make the high school teams because she didn’t do the extra for her kid. My kid might be too late for basketball by starting this training in middle school. We hope if he works hard enough that he can make the high school team. I wish we knew about this sooner.

It's hard to play catch up in any skilled sport. Hockey is the same. By age 12, the kids who started skating and playing hockey at 4 years old and have done lessons and clinics and played on competitive teams are so far ahead that they will never be caught. Most governing bodies like USA Hockey have the concept of "Windows of Trainability" - refers to the point in the development of a specific capacity when training has an optimal effect.

I know a kid whose kid started skating at 2. We met them in preschool and I thought they were joking when they said their son had ice hockey practice. The kid must have been 3 or 4 back then. The kid is now on a national team.

We know another kid who loved ice hockey and their parents were always driving this kid to practices and tournaments. I remember thinking it was too much and that it wasn’t like this kid was going to play professional ice hockey. I mean their entire lives revolved around this kid’s hockey. He recently went to an elite boarding school to play ice hockey.

Mine will never excel at their sport. Yet, we still do it multiple times a week because they enjoy it and it's good exercise. Not all kids have to play on a professional team or even do it in college. I have zero expectation of it continuing in college but through high school as long as they want to do it, we will make it work.

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Someone of us are just trying to quell our own depression by staying out of the house.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:so I struggle with this - I have a young son and I am trying to expose him to various sports to try to find out what he likes. He seems to like them all. I just found out that 2 of the sports have games at the exact same time so I will probably pull him out of one to not miss games. It feels stressful because he is not exposed to the sport I pull him ot of - he is 7. I guess there is plenty of time to try it.

Same. It feels like there actually is such a small window to try some sports. We are outside of DC but to get on the decent baseball teams around here you have to start trying out at age 7... by 10 it would be impossible to make a team unless you had been consistently practicing. I get that some people are fine with very casual rec sports only but, at least here, there is then zero chance you will make a high school team.

My boys are athletic and play a lot of sports. I have one who played rec basketball and played neighborhood basketball but didn’t do any extra training. Now he is in middle school and it is too late to get on one of these competitive basketball teams. We just started skills training and there is a huge difference between the boys like my son and the ones who have been going to these shooting and skills training for years. Those baseball kids OP may be complaining about are probably doing extra pitching clinic in addition to their travel baseball team.

There was a thread a few months ago about a mom who regretted not pushing her kid harder. I guess her kid didn’t make the high school teams because she didn’t do the extra for her kid. My kid might be too late for basketball by starting this training in middle school. We hope if he works hard enough that he can make the high school team. I wish we knew about this sooner.

It's hard to play catch up in any skilled sport. Hockey is the same. By age 12, the kids who started skating and playing hockey at 4 years old and have done lessons and clinics and played on competitive teams are so far ahead that they will never be caught. Most governing bodies like USA Hockey have the concept of "Windows of Trainability" - refers to the point in the development of a specific capacity when training has an optimal effect.

I know a kid whose kid started skating at 2. We met them in preschool and I thought they were joking when they said their son had ice hockey practice. The kid must have been 3 or 4 back then. The kid is now on a national team.

We know another kid who loved ice hockey and their parents were always driving this kid to practices and tournaments. I remember thinking it was too much and that it wasn’t like this kid was going to play professional ice hockey. I mean their entire lives revolved around this kid’s hockey. He recently went to an elite boarding school to play ice hockey.

So…do the kids enjoy hockey? If they do, what’s the issue?

Hockey is very expensive and time consuming. Not all parents are up for that even if they can do it. And that's ok, kids can pick something else. This is why I didn't even present hockey as an option with my kids