How To Help Boyfriend Relax?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend works in finance and has been super stressed with work deadlines. He’s been working 11-12 hour days and he’s exhausted. He hadn’t been mad, but he’s definitely more irritable and crabby. I’ve been just trying my eta to be supportive but I really don’t know how besides making sure he has something to eat and sex. He doesn’t really want to talk about it and I get it. How can I let him know I’m here for him and how to relax?

What does he say when you ask him?

[Anonymous]

Don’t listen to these women. These women on here complain all day about men, but then whine how their husbands won’t support their lifestyle they feel their entitled to just because they become a starfish once a month or pop out babies. Most women on here do nothing but hate men and are very anti-men. Most are entitled woman who feel they’re owed something because they are a “ woman”. This is all coming from a woman. Do what works for you. I suggest reddit or other sites if you want real advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a new boyfriend.

OP here. This seems like a very immature response. Have you ever had a partner? Been in a relationship? People get stressed. Why would I break up with him just because he is stressed with work?

Don’t know how old he is but if he is a junior level person in finance, this workload will be constant for at least the next decade. 70-hour weeks are pretty common. It’s relentless. Ask yourself whether you want to live with that.

[Anonymous]

I would leave some takeout in the fridge and otherwise just get busy with my own things. You’d have stuff to do, and he wouldn’t have to stress about not having time to spend with you/frustrating you during this busy period.

But if it’s a job where it will always be 12 hour days - that’d be a no from me. Can’t have a husband who’s never there for baby’s bedtime etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to these women. These women on here complain all day about men, but then whine how their husbands won’t support their lifestyle they feel their entitled to just because they become a starfish once a month or pop out babies. Most women on here do nothing but hate men and are very anti-men. Most are entitled woman who feel they’re owed something because they are a “ woman”. This is all coming from a woman. Do what works for you. I suggest reddit or other sites if you want real advice.

+1. In a relationship you’re supposed to want to help the other person when they are having a hard time. Good for you. In between the man haters, there are some good suggestions here that I hope might help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get when you marry for money.

How do you know OP is marrying for money? She never said anything about money.

She mentioned he was in finance in OP, and her whole MO is to lock down that ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend works in finance and has been super stressed with work deadlines. He’s been working 11-12 hour days and he’s exhausted. He hadn’t been mad, but he’s definitely more irritable and crabby. I’ve been just trying my eta to be supportive but I really don’t know how besides making sure he has something to eat and sex. He doesn’t really want to talk about it and I get it. How can I let him know I’m here for him and how to relax?

So you do all the domestic work, make meals, keep house, maybe worn at your own job? He goes to work, eats delivered food on company dine, works 8-8, and comes home to BJ and a ready to play sex kitten? He will only get worse with age. All the IB folks I knew thrived on the long hours, partied a bit at end of work day, it was a very gung ho culture. It sounds like he wasn’t built for it, which is fine, but he will need to pivot careers before they do it for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would leave some takeout in the fridge and otherwise just get busy with my own things. You’d have stuff to do, and he wouldn’t have to stress about not having time to spend with you/frustrating you during this busy period.

But if it’s a job where it will always be 12 hour days - that’d be a no from me. Can’t have a husband who’s never there for baby’s bedtime etc.

OP said they don’t want kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get when you marry for money.

How do you know OP is marrying for money? She never said anything about money.

She mentioned he was in finance in OP, and her whole MO is to lock down that ring.

That doesn’t mean she’s after his money. There are many people in finance that don’t make an average salary. She was saying they’re planning to get married in response of PP saying she isn’t his wife and not to act like a wife. That doesn’t mean she is after his money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get when you marry for money.

OP here. I’m not marrying for money. I have my own money and don’t need his. I make more than enough money to support myself. We are a team. It’s our money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Couples massage or a spa day? A Sporting event like the Nats? Winery visits after hiking out in Charlottesville? A hot bath with bubbles/candles? A movie and take-out? Yoga Class? Kayaking or SUP on the Potomac? Visit to the National Art Museum? Good luck!

OP here. I would love to go on a nice vacation but he’s so busy with work that’s it’s not possible right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a new boyfriend.

OP here. This seems like a very immature response. Have you ever had a partner? Been in a relationship? People get stressed. Why would I break up with him just because he is stressed with work?

Don’t know how old he is but if he is a junior level person in finance, this workload will be constant for at least the next decade. 70-hour weeks are pretty common. It’s relentless. Ask yourself whether you want to live with that.

OP here. He doesn’t normally work this much but one co-worker went on paternity leave and another quit. He’s doing the work of 3 people and putting in very long days. He usually works 40-50 hours. I work 40 hours. I’m fine with him working a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is what you get when you marry for money.

How do you know OP is marrying for money? She never said anything about money.

She mentioned he was in finance in OP, and her whole MO is to lock down that ring.

OP here. You’re crazy. That’s the only response I have for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would leave some takeout in the fridge and otherwise just get busy with my own things. You’d have stuff to do, and he wouldn’t have to stress about not having time to spend with you/frustrating you during this busy period.

But if it’s a job where it will always be 12 hour days - that’d be a no from me. Can’t have a husband who’s never there for baby’s bedtime etc.

OP here. We likely won’t have kids. We are still unsure if we want them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t listen to these women. These women on here complain all day about men, but then whine how their husbands won’t support their lifestyle they feel their entitled to just because they become a starfish once a month or pop out babies. Most women on here do nothing but hate men and are very anti-men. Most are entitled woman who feel they’re owed something because they are a “ woman”. This is all coming from a woman. Do what works for you. I suggest reddit or other sites if you want real advice.

Are you even a Redditor? Reddit will tell her to break up with him.