Please tell me I won’t regret my divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Intense therapy before you pull the plug on your marriage.

Individual yes, marriage no

[Anonymous]

I have never regretted it, not even the nights I cried in the shower after my kids were asleep because of how hard and scary it was.

[Anonymous]

No you won’t regret it.

Do you work?

Get a lawyer and individual counseling.

Don’t let in what is going on.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I would try therapy first but if you feel like you are walking on eggshells, it doesn’t bode well. I would also talk to a lawyer, secretly to see what you can be doing now to put yourself in a good position if/when you decide to start divorce proceedings. Individual therapy may also help you make the decision.

[Anonymous]

You will not regret it. You will look back at it as the best decision of your and your kid's life.

[Anonymous]

I am the person that thinks most women do regret their divorce. However, in your case, you absolutely will not regret it.
I object to divorce on the basis of, he is not there emotionally, or he did not wash the dishes, or similar. Those women will regret it, imo. (you can always buy paper plates!)
You are married to an abusive ass, you will rejoice!

[Anonymous]

I feel relief for you and I don't even know you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am the person that thinks most women do regret their divorce. However, in your case, you absolutely will not regret it.
I object to divorce on the basis of, he is not there emotionally, or he did not wash the dishes, or similar. Those women will regret it, imo. (you can always buy paper plates!)
You are married to an abusive ass, you will rejoice!

Are there really women out there proclaiming “paper plates saved my marriage!”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the person that thinks most women do regret their divorce. However, in your case, you absolutely will not regret it.
I object to divorce on the basis of, he is not there emotionally, or he did not wash the dishes, or similar. Those women will regret it, imo. (you can always buy paper plates!)
You are married to an abusive ass, you will rejoice!

Are there really women out there proclaiming “paper plates saved my marriage!”?

No, I was being a bit dramatic. However, there are women who seem to divorce bcs DH doesn't do this or this, if it is a simple chore, and not being drunk, abusive, cheating, I know women that regretted it, especially if he was making good money. Why do I say, if he was making ok money? Bcs, unless they are both rich, many women ended up doing all the housework and being in charge of kids 100% of the time, as men move on and sadly often don't take interest in kids. Not all, some. So, simple chores without any issues divorce is usually a regret. You end up with less money and the same housework if not way more.

[Anonymous]

It seems pretty clear he is cheating.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to be contrarian here for you: so what if you regret it? You might. Do you regret anything else in your life? If you do regret it the possibility for reconciliation is there. People who breakup get back together (and remarried) all the time. Regret may be temporary. Or it may not. If you regret it, then what? You'll survive regret. People do every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems pretty clear he is cheating.

Only if his mistress is in walking distance

[Anonymous]

Never having sex is the worst of the problems. Do you mean like once every 2-6 months? Once a month? What are you talking here

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be contrarian here for you: so what if you regret it? You might. Do you regret anything else in your life? If you do regret it the possibility for reconciliation is there. People who breakup get back together (and remarried) all the time. Regret may be temporary. Or it may not. If you regret it, then what? You'll survive regret. People do every day.

Yes, OP. Write down specifically what you think your future self may regret. And also what your present self is experiencing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be contrarian here for you: so what if you regret it? You might. Do you regret anything else in your life? If you do regret it the possibility for reconciliation is there. People who breakup get back together (and remarried) all the time. Regret may be temporary. Or it may not. If you regret it, then what? You'll survive regret. People do every day.

Yes, OP. Write down specifically what you think your future self may regret. And also what your present self is experiencing.

+1 most choices in life aren't actually as permanent as we perceive them to be.