Please tell me I won’t regret my divorce
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Anonymous
| What do you mean by "criticize"? What are his complaints, exactly? |
Anonymous
| Statistically speaking no you will not. Only about a quarter of women regret their divorces, and I imagine that most of those who do got divorced for reasons other than their husbands bossing them around roughly and tearing them down as they attempt to keep the household running smoothly. |
Anonymous
Anything. This week he asked me to charge his iPad and Apple Pencil, and in the process I accidentally dropped the Apple Pencil (that I bought him), and he screamed at me. If I get water on the floor after showering, he yells at me. He didn’t like the pulled pork I made Saturday for some inexplicable reason because he likes it every other time I make it. Very stupid things but they are RELENTLESS |
Anonymous
No you will not regret the divorce. |
Anonymous
Wow yeah he sounds very emotionally abusive op. I’m so sorry. I think you’re probably doing the right thing. |
Anonymous
+2 DTMFA You will feel so free and liberated. You will be able to breathe deeply again and your feet won't hurt from the eggshells. You will be able to be yourself again. |
Anonymous
| I want to divorce too. I’m a nervous about supporting myself but I think it will be worth it. Go with your gut. |
Anonymous
Totally agree. You will feel liberated. |
Anonymous
Not based on this. I had a friend who married a big law partner later in life and had a slight accident with his beloved and rebuilt Porsche. She was scared to death to tell him. He shrugged it off and said shit happens and now I have a new project. Find that guy. |
Anonymous
Yep. My regret is that I stayed long enough to be a trailing spouse. Now stuck single parenting far from my family. Every single aspect of my life ~ finances, sex, parenting, is better. I have primary custody, enough free time, and peace. SO MUCH PEACE without some angry jerk yelling at me constantly |
Anonymous
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OP, leave. It’s word to word what mine did to me (screaming for a running faucet, for hair on the floor, keeping elbows on a table etc.). He doesn’t love you and most likely is not capable of loving anyone. Mine did the same for years. Then he began an affair when I was 37, and hid it masterfully until asking for a divorce himself 5 years after, when all mortgages were repaid. I feel I was used and he used my best young years ! Run, not leave - the longer you stay the more wasted you would feel later in life
I feel way better single |
Anonymous
| You will fell liberated. Engage a therapist during the process though because the divorce will be hell. |
Anonymous
| You will feel ups and downs for a while - especially because to stay in your marriage with someone who berates you, you’ve had to minimize your self-worth and independence. That is why you’re second guessing yourself now. But your stronger self is telling you to divorce. Some day - you will look back and ask yourself - wow how did I stay so long? When this happens, please view your past self with compassion, but also understand why you did stay so that you don’t repeat the behavior. |
Anonymous
| Intense therapy before you pull the plug on your marriage. |
Anonymous
Not with an abuser, even an emotional abuser. Mine manipulated the therapist into believing I was the problem for months. Then one day, the therapist agreed with me about a single incident I recounted and my XH suddenly thought the guy was a hack and we should drop him. |