"We can't afford to have him for all of August"

[Anonymous]

You don't know the entire situation but there are plenty of free options to get food. He will not qualify for food stamps for the child, maybe himself without custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He likely is living off of some girlfriend. The girlfriend is willing to lay for him but not the kid. You have to be very great in bed for a person to support you, but you have to be spectacular for them to support you and your kid.

I think this is a set up for a very traumatic month. The kid likely won't starve but the kid likely won't be treated well.

+1 This is lose-lose for the poor child. He will feel unwanted if he goes or if he doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is his problem to figure out. And he will.

IT is also the mother's problem. The father told her the situation and anyone with a brain would understand and either send the money or bring child home.

[Anonymous]

I'd keep kid weekdays, let him have weekends and give them groceries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is his problem to figure out. And he will.

IT is also the mother's problem. The father told her the situation and anyone with a brain would understand and either send the money or bring child home.

If he's paying child support while the child is not with her, she could be decent and send some groceries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+1 to mother knows he's playing games.
But I'd say that if he can't properly care for the child, then custody arrangement needs to be revisited, and not in his favor.

If two adults working three jobs (and yes, EVERYWHERE is hiring) can't figure out how to feed one child, they're either stupid or wasting money (or both). Oh and let me guess--this situation is not going to stop this bozo from having more kids.

+1

At this point in time any person claiming to have trouble finding a job to meet basic needs such as food and housing is being too picky, not actually looking or just lazy. He could get a job as a server at a busy restaurant and make bank at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is he having trouble finding work? There are signs everywhere that they are hiring.
I was helping a friend search for a job and came across ads on Indeed where Big Lots says they are even willing to hire felons.
Is he in the DC area?

A lot of people don't WANT to work. We just had a furniture delivery cancelled for another 2 months because they can't find delivery drivers. Absurd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:+1 to mother knows he's playing games.
But I'd say that if he can't properly care for the child, then custody arrangement needs to be revisited, and not in his favor.

If two adults working three jobs (and yes, EVERYWHERE is hiring) can't figure out how to feed one child, they're either stupid or wasting money (or both). Oh and let me guess--this situation is not going to stop this bozo from having more kids.

+1

At this point in time any person claiming to have trouble finding a job to meet basic needs such as food and housing is being too picky, not actually looking or just lazy. He could get a job as a server at a busy restaurant and make bank at this point.

It's not clear who OP is in this situation and what all OP knows about available resources and custody situation (whether baby daddy even wants custody, etc.)
But if he "can't" find a job, he just isn't trying all that hard. Shameful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he having trouble finding work? There are signs everywhere that they are hiring.
I was helping a friend search for a job and came across ads on Indeed where Big Lots says they are even willing to hire felons.
Is he in the DC area?

A lot of people don't WANT to work. We just had a furniture delivery cancelled for another 2 months because they can't find delivery drivers. Absurd

Rent a truck and get it yourself. Its back breaking minimum wage jobs. They can do better. You try it for a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the school provide free lunch? Ours does every day - even in the summer.

If the dad is living out of the school district it's hard to see how they'd get to the school to GET the free lunch for the kid. They could save the gas money and buy food.

In the summer you can go to ANY public school that is handing out free lunch to students not enrolled in summer school. They don’t ask for proof of attendance or residency. My kids go to their or and parents and get free lunch with the neighborhood kids. They all walk over together. I called that district and asked and they said any child is eligible under 18.

The summer program is provided by the USDA. The schools are only the distribution site. Food is provided for any child 2-18 years old. Any county resident can go to the any school in the county they reside in and pick up food for the child. For the exact distribution details including which days and for how many days you can pick up for, consult the school district web-site. But, since this is a USDA program, it is open to any resident and not tied to school enrollment.

There is zero excuse for a parent not to be able to provide for their child. Even if you are unemployed, you can locate the nearest USDA food distribution site, find out the pick-up information and get free food for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he having trouble finding work? There are signs everywhere that they are hiring.
I was helping a friend search for a job and came across ads on Indeed where Big Lots says they are even willing to hire felons.
Is he in the DC area?

A lot of people don't WANT to work. We just had a furniture delivery cancelled for another 2 months because they can't find delivery drivers. Absurd

Rent a truck and get it yourself. Its back breaking minimum wage jobs. They can do better. You try it for a week.

Wrong answer.

The correct answer is that the furniture store needs to pay a competitive wage, which will increase the delivery cost to an appropriate level

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is he having trouble finding work? There are signs everywhere that they are hiring.
I was helping a friend search for a job and came across ads on Indeed where Big Lots says they are even willing to hire felons.
Is he in the DC area?

A lot of people don't WANT to work. We just had a furniture delivery cancelled for another 2 months because they can't find delivery drivers. Absurd

Rent a truck and get it yourself. Its back breaking minimum wage jobs. They can do better. You try it for a week.

My brother moves furniture in the summer and safe to say it’s not minimum wage in covid or otherwise, WTF are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

What does he actually mean by can’t afford it? Everyone seems to think he means food but I sorta doubt it.

[Anonymous]

If I knew my kid wasn’t wanted or welcome I wouldn’t send them. This is awful for the poor kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the school provide free lunch? Ours does every day - even in the summer.

If the dad is living out of the school district it's hard to see how they'd get to the school to GET the free lunch for the kid. They could save the gas money and buy food.

In the summer you can go to ANY public school that is handing out free lunch to students not enrolled in summer school. They don’t ask for proof of attendance or residency. My kids go to their or and parents and get free lunch with the neighborhood kids. They all walk over together. I called that district and asked and they said any child is eligible under 18.

Will the dad actually take him though? The center isn’t always the closest school. In my neighborhood, the schools weren’t selected. The closest one is a 20 min car ride.